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*abriela1993!
writes:iN THE past i cheated on my bf various times, n he forgave me, but now, he is extremly jealous, iff i dont call him every day, he gets upset, n if i delete a post on facebook, he thinks im hiding something. What do I do, is this normal?? Enough time has passed.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 "Jealousy is ALWAYS about personal insecurity and low/bad self esteem/worth. He needs to get into some kind of self confidence training (google: self worth) and then MAYBE he will be able to get over your cheating - MAYBE."
Always?? No offense dude, but that's absolute bull crap.
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (17 September 2010):
Jealousy is ALWAYS about personal insecurity and low/bad self esteem/worth. He needs to get into some kind of self confidence training (google: self worth) and then MAYBE he will be able to get over your cheating - MAYBE.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Yes, you completely destroyed his trust for you. If he ever forgives you it will take a long time. It is not up to you to decide if enough time has passed, it is up to him. You hurt him badly, I'm surprised he's still bothering to date you seeing as you've cheated on him multiple times. He probably will never fully trust you again, and it sounds like you'd probably cheat on him again. Sounds like he's right to be jealous.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 It's extremely normal. Be prepared to deal with this for the rest of your relationship (because it's not going to last...). Cheating is an unforgivable act, and the fact that your boyfriend decided to carry on in a relationship with you after you've cheated SEVERAL times says that he's too immature to see that you're no good for him whatsoever. There will never be "enough time" that will pass for someone to get over being betrayed. If you're unsatisfied with how things are, dump him. He deserves better than you anyway.
P.S. Deleting posts off of Facebook is a shady thing to do. OF COURSE he thinks you're hiding something.
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 They say once beaten,twice shy.
If you have cheated on him many times,he might forgive you because he loves you but he will not forget the fact that you had the nerve to cheat more than once and that is the reason why he needs your assurance in terms of calls.
Trust is one thing that will take time to rebuild once one of the partners breaks it.
So stop acting in away that arouses suspicion and make him feel like he is the man of your life.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (15 September 2010):
Karma. Deal with it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 September 2010):
Yes it's normal! And you're being very callous by suggesting enough tome has passed. Given that you've cheated several times and you think that 'enough time has passed', I'd suggest that in no way are you ready for a relationship. You don't have any understanding or care for the pain you've caused your boyfriend by cheating. And he's being stupid for staying in this relationship. The best thing you can do is end it and move on. You're not ready for a relationship, and you don't understand men or relationships is you think 'enough time has passed'.
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