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Why is she trying to break us up? We don't even know her. Help!

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Question - (7 June 2011) 11 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2011)
A age 26-29, * writes:

I've just started dating a girl and a complete stranger to both of us has just started emailing my girlfriend telling her I'm a fake and that I'm not genuine, I'm really confused because I've never spoken to this person before and neither has my girlfriend. This girl then emailed me accusing me of having several girlfriends and calling me a slag, she even sent an email to my girlfriend that she had made and just changed the addresses on it so it looked like it was from me to break us up.

Does anyone know why she's doing this to us when we don't even know her? And what should I do about it? My girlfriend knows she's lying but it's upsetting us both. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

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A female reader, Drat001 United Kingdom +, writes (9 June 2011):

Again, don't be afraid to have the police investigate. They have the power to get phone, internet records, and can find out the true identity of this person. Once her identity is revealed, don't confront her in person. If she is in school, take the information to her school administrators and let them know that they have someone who is engaging in cyberbullying. They will contact her parents, and if you think you could punnish her, unless she has totally un-concerned parents, they'll be the ones to really deal with it--taking away her phone, internet priveledges. It's also possible, that if she is older/out of school, you could have her arrested for cyberstalking.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011):

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Thank you so much, I have blocked her and so has my girlfriend, looking forward to finding out who it could be. So thank you everyone

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (8 June 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwhat Honeypie said.

NOT a stranger and you should both BLOCK this person.

without an audience they will stop.

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A female reader, Drat001 United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2011):

If you're in school, and she happens to be going to the same school, then if you talk about this to your administrator you can have the other person disciplined, possibly removed from the school. This is called cyberbullying, and you do NOT have to take it.

I know that you might not want the police to get involved and cause a scene, but take it from someone who's been there and done that, it's best to right away nip this in the bud before it escalates even further. This person needs to know there are very real consequences for this kind of behavior.

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A male reader, wolfred bane Singapore +, writes (8 June 2011):

wolfred bane agony auntproberbly a jealous/angry ex. just ignore whoever it is.

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A male reader, idoneitagain Australia +, writes (8 June 2011):

Invite them to tell you, or your girlfriend, to your face. Or, tell them that your girlfriend got the email that they wrote and that you both know they tried to send it as if it was from you, so you both know not to believe them, and that they are wasting their time.

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A female reader, AuntyAlexxmo United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2011):

AuntyAlexxmo agony auntThe others are right, the person IS someone you know and again you will be shocked about who it turns out to be, likely to be a jealous ex or admirer.

The simplest action really is for you to both delete and block this person and most of all do not let it affect you, as that is what this person wants.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (7 June 2011):

Honeypie agony auntI doubt it's a stranger.

I would suggest you both block "that" person.

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A female reader, Nib United Kingdom +, writes (7 June 2011):

Nib agony auntI've been through this myself. Emails/texts to me saying that my girlfriend was using me, cheating, not really gay etc etc.

It turned out to be my girlfriend's ex. All I can recommend is to ignore it, this 'stranger' will eventually get bored.

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A female reader, lovelyeyes United States +, writes (7 June 2011):

Gigilojone is exactly right. That's what's I was going to say!!! This person must have a crush on u and can't stand u guys being together! Your girl should tell them off! And so should u!!

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A male reader, gigolojone Uganda +, writes (7 June 2011):

gigolojone agony auntThis can't be a stranger but rather someone that you both know and don't be surprised when it turns out to be one of your best friends who could either be interested in you or her and posing to be someone else.

Watch your friends and their friends very closely.

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