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26-29,
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writes:I have a really great friend that's stuck with me for years, and this recent he's clearly displayed signs of wanting to be more than just friends. I've never thought of him that way but I wouldn't mind giving him a chance. The problem is that I think we get along great as friends, but I'm afraid our personalities might clash in a relationship.He's this really...traditional guy. Like, he's super religious and he's just real mellow. He never swears or talks smack about anyone, and he's just really laid-back. Then he's also overly serious about school and work, and about being polite and courteous. And he's never fooled around with girls or even showed signs of being interested in a relationship so it was surprising to find out he liked me that way.Then there's me. I'm shocked he's interested in ME particularly because I'm pretty crazy. I jump around and I like to be loud and have fun and joke. I don't take school very seriously, and if someone's rude to me, I'll be rude back. I've been suspended for being in one particular fight. I burp in front of people and I swear.So it's a mystery why he's interested in me! Really!We have a few things in common though, like we both love love love drawing and painting and art in general. We like the same shows and genre of books too.But other than that, we're opposites! And I've heard from sources that "opposites attract" really is only a myth. Is it really a myth?So I'm really honestly quite scared that if we do go out, it might end up in a mess. Would he be put off by my loud personality? Or would I try to keep down to earth for him to the point that I feel uncomfortable? Or would I get bored? I'm also scared it won't work out and he'll get hurt. I'm even wondering if he's so damn traditional and gentlemanly that he won't even feel like kissing or anything.So the question is: Would this relationship work out?
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 How will you know whether it will work or not?I suggest you give it a try with an open mind but also talk about your different personalities with him and find a way of going around that difference. In life,sometimes we have to make compromises and if he loves you,he will take you just the way you are...i mean the whole package........it is also true that opposites attract.....having 100% personality similarities might make a relationship boring...sometimes you gotta have something to disagree on and that gives you a chance to make your relationship stronger.Give it a try and get to really know him....there could be another side to him other than the side that you know.Best wishes.
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