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writes:Do I wait for her?Dear Cupid I met this girl (Let’s call her Kim) last year at college and we dated for some months. The first month it was just fine until I broke up with her, cuz I felt there was nothing growing between us, but after another month Kim came to me crying to give her another chance and so I did. We dated for months after the first breakup, and every thing was just fine, I was starting to feel for her and falling in love with her as time goes by and by. But in a while she met some old friends of her she didn’t see in years; Kim started to go out with them. But her friends where all singles and didn’t like the idea that she’s in a relationship with me, and so they told her she is too young to be in a relationship (She’s 23 by the way and so am I) and so the breakup had began, she started to rebel against me and telling me she wants to have more and more fun with her friends, and I was never against this, but she wanted to have fun only with them and I should stay home. And so I told her I don’t like that, after 2 weeks she broke up with me. Telling me that all she wants now is to enjoy her friend’s cuz she feels loved by them. Now it has been more then 3 months since we broke up, but we still talk like friends as we’re in the same college so I do see her every single day. But Kim keeps on telling me that it’s not time for her to love back a guy, she keeps telling me that am a special person and so on. Kim tells me that for now till college ends (we both end in 6 months time from college then we’re out) just wants to have fun and enjoy her friends and then she might love a guy back. Now I still feel for her a lot, I still do love her a lot, should I wait for her till she’s done with her friends? Thanks ppl for your time and support
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLet me update you folks, now I can say that am 98 % over my ex, a month ago we had an argument and we no longer talk, and even at college we don’t acknowledge each other. Since then I feel really good, some times now and then I think a bit of her mainly when I see her around on campus but she still acts like a 12 year old kid so I say to my self “Thank God I have nothing to do with her any more” and I move on. Since then I have dated and went out with some girls and I feel really great, life seems worth living again! The lesson I have learned is to let go of your ex to get over them and it worked pretty well for me and after all she was a stupid immature girl in a body of a 23 year old woman ;-) Thanks folks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey :D,
Thanks a lot for your warm words they made me feel better, I still see her at college almost ever day and we still talk kinda like friends but as you said she is not mature and I don’t rally deserve her, even if I am still deeply in love with her I can’t get her out of my mind! I will keep up updated, thanks folks! :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 November 2008):
Wow, what a weak minded girl that she won't even have a boyfriend because her friends won't let her.
You can hang on for her if you want and she'll may come back and be all loving until she decides to be a career woman because her friends tell her to.
She is being stupid and I really think this is going to be her loss.
Move on and find someone more mature.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Chippymunk  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Sorry to say this but, I don't think she'll ever be "done" with her friends. And from what I can tell, she also has trouble making decisions as she is easily influenced by her friends. I'm also guessing they aren't good people for the fact that they didn't want her to be with you (without getting to know you) and by breaking you guys up. I fail to believe that she cannot be in a relationship with you and still have fun and be loved. You sound like a great guy and you deserve better. By telling you to wait "after college is over" seems to me like she's using you as a backup plan, in case her friends disappear or she doesn't find someone else. I would just keep her as a friend, because when it comes to love, don't settle for someone who treats you only as 2nd best.
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