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writes:Good evening! I've a silly question really. I'd like to know from the lovely ladies out there who frequent this web-site whether you can genuinely be selective about who you decide to date in a working environment. In other words, if a guy was 'off limits' (i.e. married and/or with children) are you genetically programmed to avoid this guy or does temptation hold sway in the final analysis? Let me be more specific. If you fancy the guy then there's a good chance you're going to want to sleep with him regardless of whether he's in a relationship or not - isn't that the case? So, my rambling question is really, if you're a woman in the office and you were considering dating another office guy, would you pick only from those officially available or would you go after someone who was supposedly unavailable? I think you know what I'm trying to say: can you really resist temptation after years of exposure to an attractive man who may be 'off limits'? And no, I'm not casting myself as the role of the attractive man in this scenario! Many thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): ...not with those socks you won't be! ;o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): ...of course I can't resist the ladies - you naughty little monkey! Hence why I posted the question. Many thanks to all for your excellent responses. Much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Oh dear the male ego. Can women resist the temptation of exposure to an attractive man over many years? Haha ha...Can men resist the temptation to be exposed to an attractive woman for a couple of hours, days, weeks(never mind months or years)?
The real question is:
CAN YOU RESIST THE TEMPTATION????????
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reader, babyminow  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 well as far as i can tell most weman do not go after taken men at all. unless she has no morals. if you are taken please be loyal, or end the relationship
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (28 November 2008):
You are posting anonymously... and yet you still dance around your question. I'm confused. I can't figure out if you are considering having an affair or cheating on your GF and wondering if this woman will "go for you" or if you are worried about your GF cheating on you... or asking for a friend??? I think it would be easier to answer your question if you would be more straightforward. That off my chest...
I think I have to agree there are all different kinds of people in the world; just as there are men who would never get involved with a married woman, I think most women would prefer not to get involved with a married man. Add on to that you said specifically "sleep with" - not "have a relationship with". From a very cliche generalized perspective - Men are more geared towards sex - women are more relationship-oriented. Add to that the "working together" factor.
For me personally I would not sleep with a married man. Nor would I just " sleep with" a co-worker... unless there was a solid relationship built first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): I wouldnt get involved with an unavaliable man. no matter how gorgeous he was. this rule applies doubley to any man I work with.
However Im sure there are some women who do not follow my morals.
Hope this helps your curiosity :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Like men, women have different morals too. No two people are the same but it is impossible to say yes, or no to your answer as if will be different from person to person. The more moral person will not get involved with a guy that is married or involved, but the less moral person will do it without blinking an eye lid; but then it is the same for guys; some married ( or guys involved in a relationship) will not consider cheating or messing around and others will never miss the opportunity.The answer to your question is neither yes nor no; but depends on the breeding and the morals of the various individuals.Personally I think most decent girls will avoid the attractive married "casinova" at the office.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 November 2008):
I hate these "do women love X?" questions. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT, WE ARE NOT A BREED.
So you are basically saying "do women have morals?"
Well, yes, most of us do have morals and would be able to resist a guy who was married. Even though we have been "exposed" to his charm. (you do know that Lynx adverts aren't real, right? We don't get magically attracted just because you happen to waft by.)
Some girls will not have morals and therefore will sleep with a married guy.
To be honest, I flirt with everyone I work with, because they all know I am not serious in any way and it means nothing. A lot of girls will also flirt with a guy they work with but have NO intention of being unprofessional enough to get involved.
It's just about making the day go faster for most of us.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Gypsii +, writes (27 November 2008):
If he's married, no matter what he looks like or how attractive he is, he's off limits. Some women will go for any type of man--married or single--but, for the most part, the general rule is that women don't want to be "the other woman." Most know how conditional and limiting that is and, to be perfectly honest, there's something sleezy about guys who opt to cheat on their wives. They generally can't be trusted and, beyond the sexual taboo aspects of the situation, don't usually have very much to offer in the way of connecting socially, etc...
That said, the majority of women will stand clear of a married guy. Too much baggage.
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