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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): short answer YESlong answer - is it possible to be in love with someone even though you"re not in a relationship with themif you are not in a relationship it may means that someone else is involved. either a husband/wife or committed partner. it gets complicated even with so called platonic friendship. i am a firm believer that men and women cannot have a mere intense friendship. i believe the lines are too blurred and it almost always leads to "something" sexual.being in love is one thing, acting out the feelings/emotions are another. do you break up another relationship or even worse break up yours to persue this "great love". this question is soo cryptic- i have my own thoughts on this, but certainly one thing i can guarantee, in your situation, three people are involved. you, the other person and the other persons partner. (hey maybe 4 people are involved here - you may also be in a committed relationship. whatever this "love" is, if it is borne of of betrayal and deceit, what you sow you will reap. (just my thoughts, use it/don't use it) maybe i am over analysing this??????
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 For all practical purposes, if you are not in a relationship with someone, whatever the heck it is you're feeling cannot rightfully be called "in love" because when you're not in a relationship with someone, you cannot possibly get to know them well enough as a person, to say that you are in love with who that person really is.... Then there is the argument that even people who are in relationships change over time, and fall out of love with each other.... But whatever... For all practical purposes, I would venture to say that although you may have the feeling of being in love, it is dangerously unfounded to conclude that you are in love, without being in a relationship with them first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): I suppose you can, but I think a lot of the true love that exsists in relationships comes from being a couple and learning to love and appreciate all those new flaws and attributes that come out when that new level of relationship is reached. You can start to see a new little section of people when you get to know them romantically. Once you hit that top level of knowing someone and you accept it, then the loves gets stronger. What you're feeling now may very well be love, but you would feel if you were involved with the man, would be different.
~Sy.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (29 August 2009):
 Yes it is very very possible. I am in love with someone and I am not in a relationship with him. We have always been drawn to each other, but sometimes circumstances get in the way - right man, wrong time. When you love someone, you just know. Its very difficult to explain unless you have actually felt it. If you love this person, then make a move. Go for it. Dont waste any more time when you could be with someone you really love.Good luck xx
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reader, Accountable +, writes (29 August 2009):
 I dunno, i have always believed that love has a reciprocal nature. I think you can feel strongly for somebody, but that true love comes is something that exists mutually between two people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Ohh, Emily beat me to it! I second what she says, but in short, YES, you can.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 August 2009):
If you are close to them, and know them, and spend lots of time with them, then it's very possible to fall for them.
However, it's also a very very stupid idea.
Either make a move and get together with them, or if that is not going to happen then cut contact for a little while and get over them.
Being in love when they don't love you back is the most horrible painful thing you can do, so don't let it happen.
Good Luck!! xx
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