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*mo barbie
writes:I had been dating him for 3 months, not that long for many people, but it is for me. I have never been dumped before, why? Because in all truth I'm afraid of getting attached and suddenly finding myself needing him every second, but at the same time I need to be loved.Now here's the issue. I dumped him, my reason why:Even though we have been dating for 3 months he's never taken me out, but he had no issue going places with other people. He'd come over to my house, but not that often, usually over the weekend. But he was always going over other girls house's as well. He was popular and outgoing, I understood that, but the issue was was that he paid so much attention to other girls that he hardely spoke to me unless I approached him. One day I decided that I'd move from the usual spot where we usually met up. {I'd sit there for almost 20 minutes and have to watch all his friends talk among themselve while I just stood around, I didn't know any of them} I went to go hang with my friends. Well, he came said hi to me and then automatically left, just like that to go talk to all the other girls. And even though we had classes together, he ignore me and go talk to this other girl we had in class. {Even though she was his friend long before I was I was still annoyed he couldn't even come talk to me once during the entire class} And even during lunch, I usually stayed inside because I didn't exaclty like the wide courtyard we shared with everyone else. It was so much nicer to sit in a classroom with the few friends I had during that lunch. However instead of staying with me {And his friends, who also came in, mostly to see him} he went out and spent his time with other girls instead.What really ticked me off was the fact that I asked him if he wanted to come over, he said he didn't know if he could. But during lunch he even offered to go home with this girl who needed to walk home alone that day. The thing is, should I have broke up with him?I'm really thinking of going back out with him, what do you think? Should I or not?
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (30 August 2009):
 He is not serious about you. Do not invest emotion in him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Emilysanswers is 100% right. You were absolutely right in breaking up with him, and you should not attempt going out with him again. Obviously, he didn't make you feel the way you wanted to feel. It's never worth it to be in a relationship where you don't feel loved and appreciated. You can find someone else, I'm sure.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 August 2009):
Ok, you are 16 to 17 and you are feeling the whole adult "falling for someone" sensation and Yes it's hella scary.
It's like a really huge rollercoaster and many people don't ever get over how scary it can be, even though they do enjoy the massive thrill of it.
So you are right, you need to know you are picking the right guy to ride with, or you are constantly going to be going up and the whole thing's going to be rubbish.
This guy does not sound to me like he is worth being with.
He puts NO effort in to see you, and waits for you to do all the work. That's not just disrespectful, that is down right rude.
You were absolutely right to tell him to stick it where the sun doesn't shine.
Never ever waste your time on a guy who doesn't put the same or more time and effort into seeing you. Set your standards high.
If you are getting to the age where you are felling real adult crazy love for people then you want your first love to love you back, and not just chat to you when it's convenient and there are no better girls around.
Good Luck!! xx
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