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How can I get over the break up, when he is so happy without me

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Question - (30 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 18 September 2009)
A female Australia age 41-50, *een writes:

I have just been wondering about breaking up and how both partners feels toward it

I broke up with my friend a month ago and I still feel pain in my heart until the moment

We were happy and he decide to break up ,

I accepted that he doesn’t want me but why , why

last night I heard from his friend that he said

That’s was my decision and I am happy with that (proudly)

Is he happy ? was I a bad thing in his life , I wasn’t

He is happy because he broke up with me , while I am not

I started to delete his text messages from my mobile

Hehe , I read some of them

(Come and sleep between my Arms! the bed is empty with out you ,, you took my heart

I never loved someone the way I love you, I just found you and you brought me to the life )

Was he lying ? or series , I believed him and I believed that he loved me

But why he broke up with me

Honestly I didn’t anything for him , he is the one that he changed , his face not the face , his smile not the smile

He is the one who became another person , why ? and I was the same

Did he love me ? if so , how he broke up with me ? and why

And why he is happy while I am sad

Strange feelings

I want get over this break up and I cant

And its almost one month and I feel that there is knife cutting my heart and he is happy

Just unfair ,,

How I could get over the break up , heal my self , my life my heart

How to get him out of my mind

I feel the pain killing me slowly

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009):

You have to move on. Asking questions or seeking out questions from him wont do it. It is what it is. It hurts i know. Sometimes you come across people in life that are total users, they seem to just use and discard people. But here's the good news, Karma is a bitch. They do and they always will get what's coming to them.

You have to heal,go through the healing process alone. The crying, the ache even the questions and resentment so you come out the other side happy and more prepared. Users never come out of it alright. They can't do anything spiritually indepandantly, they always have to find someone to tag along with, therefore they always have to change their faces, become different people to addapt, and ultimately they suffer for it.

Think about it. Your free now. No more of his drama, issues, having to guess or analyse what everything he does means. This time appart will be a testament of your strength. Your courage, your independance.

Users never win. They only think they do. When they do get their Karma, it hurts them ten times more than it'll ever hurt us. Because they caused so much pain, they know where their pain comes from.

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A female reader, Leen Australia +, writes (31 August 2009):

Leen is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks everybody

Your answers make me happier

brought a smile into my face

I am not going to talk with him anymore, or even think about him as something because its over

Let him fly in the happiness, maybe he would reach the skies and he would find another ex and added to his records , full of ex`s , I was ex number 6

But he has to make sure ,, that I deducted 2 years from my life for him and i didnt gain anything only sadness

and he terminated in one word , I am not sad or depressed as I am disappointed

but his word

Every deal in this life cant be terminated without simple conditions or consequence or even fines , for instant , company or job or payment , if you fired from work the company will pay you extra money

Whereas only few things which are more appreciated to the people like relationships or friendship just finished like this . and you have to move like you weren’t there before , like you didn’t add, offer, create , build or present anything,And just one person word destroyed everything

and you must leave empty hands with sad hearts

But this life is justice , one it takes something it give you better

And it will punish who punished you

Thanks

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A female reader, jadabryant21 United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

Okay Hun... this is what u must do... I have been there done that... This guy is a jerk.. get over him... If he looks for you, no matter how much he begs dont even consider taking him back. I know that it hurts like hell. I know. I'm going through it right now! I have broken up with my boyfriend for 3 years for the last time... he was always happy when he didnt need me... as soon as he ran out of money, was horny, or bored.. he would crawl back to me. Obviously if someone doesnt apreciate you or falls out of love with you they are not worth your time and your tears... Remember, for every broken heart you get, the closer you are to your true love.

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A female reader, MissesConfused United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

You should publish this as a poem! It's well-written!

Anyway, it's easy to tell you to just move on with your life, but it sounds like you were seriously in love with this guy. In time, your heart will heal, though and you'll find someone who's great for you.

You deleted his texts. That's a good start for beginning your path to closure. What you need to do is ask this guy all those questions in your head, and he HAS to answer.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2009):

Right, you clearly need to talk to him.

Call him up and say that you accept his decision and you are glad he's happy but you are still unclear to what went wrong and would like a friendly chat just to talk things through.

Make it clear you are not going to beg for him back or anything, you just want to move on and be happy again and think this would help.

Ask him to just do this as your friend so you can move on.

Good Luck!! xx

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