I sometimes give him head - will it affect our friendship?

A female age 30-35, *hannypie writes:

Ok so ill give a lil bit of our history to this day so you can see whats going on.... We met in high school year 9.. and i had a lil bit of a crush on him when we became friends.. used to talk all the time.. He left at the end of year 10 and had a g/f so we lost contact for a few years and only recently started hanging out a again(5years later).. but alot.. well things happened one night about 2 months ago and we ended up sleeping together...we were rather blazed...he wanted to have sex i was up for it and we always had this joke that one day we would have sex and he would turn gay.. long story .. but even i high school we were extremely flirty toward each other .. i thought things would have messed up and i was surprised when we got even closer..but not in the way i hoped..ok so on and off for years i had have well "crushes on him".. he was my best friend so i cared about him alot.. anyway..i told him i "liked" him..about a, month back and he told me that he didn't want to ruin our friend ship coz i mean that much to him he doesn't want to lose me..but i talk to a closed Friend of ours.. and he had told her that he did have those kind of feelings toward me but doesn't want to take it further, in fear of us breaking up and he thinks we'll never be the same.. which a can completely understand and feel the same.. but this the part i hate... he's been pretty depressed about being single, among other things and asked me to help find him a girl.. and i agreed not knowing how this would make me feel.. and i told him the other week that i had been in love with him for years and helping him find a girl is hurting me coz of how i feel for him.. he was just speechless did not know what to say to it.. and well on the way home from clubbing in the city which is when i told him.. he was fine then he just broke down..he ended up driving a few hours away and stayed with some relo's..i went to visited him the day after he went down there...Coz i missed seeing him for not even a day. lol. and he wanted my company when he was escaping from all the drama that was going on here.. well at least that's how i see it..

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