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writes:I think my family hate me.I've been through years if abuse from my mum. It got worse on my 17th birthday, which was last December and I didn't expect to wake up from it. I was meant to go into care at 12, but they somehow managed to stop it.I got a job in a hospital and I now live on my own because it got too much for me and i though everything would get a little better if I was living away from them.I go to visit them, but all I hear these days, is go back to ur flat, we dont want you here. Jade this, Jade that. It's all about my sister jade and its getting to me. I dont want to stop seeing them, but i dont want to see them. They're putting a big pressure on my job, my relationship and my life.Someone please help me! Its getting to the point that my partner of 5 years is getting hurt by what they're saying to me. Im shutting myself away from everything and i feel like i just wanna curl up in a corner and not wake up. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 August 2008):
If you are self harming then stop seeing your family and seek medical help.
Nothing you do will make your family care. They are horrible people and will get their cumuppence one day.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Darling, nobody is worth doing that to yourself for. Its easy to say and not so easy to do, but cut them out your life.
Any mother that could sit there and watch a child do that, just doesn't deserve to have kids.
Take care babe xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 August 2008):
I truely believe that just because some one is a blood relative, it dosen't mean they have a right to be in your life.
If they are not making you happy then cut them out. You have a partner, he is your family.
Friends are more important. Leave your family and find a new one made of people who love you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's the problem. I don't take things out on my partner, but I'm always blaming myself for things that blatently aren't my fault. On my 17th I slashed my wrist up and nearly had to lose my arm, my mum was sat there, laughin and telling me to do more, then she threw pills at me, telling me to take more. Now I just feel that i dont exist to them.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 August 2008):
Hi,
There is an old saying that you will probably have heard, and that is 'You can pick your friends, but you cant pick family'.
When we grow up, its very common for kids to not get along well, with thier parents. There is nothing that you can do, apart from what you have done already, and that was to move out.
I had a terrible relationship with my mother, and she Regularly hit and beat me. I was out of there as soon as I could support myself. It took me ages to forgive her, and she has just wiped it from her mind and always says I exagerated. But what can you do? I dont hate her for it, I realise she was under a lot of strain. And now we get on really well, although it has taken an awfull lot of years.
My advice would be to concentrate on your own life, and only go to see your family when you feel able to deal with them.
Dont take it out on your partner, and try not to feel so sorry for yourself, and then let him see how much its effecting you. It will only cause trouble between the both of you. And its not worth it.
Take care, and remember your not alone, thousands of kids have been through far worse.
Your lucky you have a lovely partner to help you though. XX
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