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writes:Another day another problem thats how my life seems at the moment....was seeing a guy at work and now found out he has been letting guys take the piss out of me...lauging when they was saying to him...she loves you she wants to have your babies...but you have just used me like the others...i honestly think yeah there is banter with men but he should off told them to shut up after a while but he just kept laughing...Then he called me thick and also he was being asked personal questions about out relationship he answered them...this all took place in an open office and god knows how many people was there...I did really like this guy but again he has done something to hurt me...the problem is i want him to know i know but the person who told me asked me not to say anything so i must respect that too..Im so hurt and really dont know what to do i feel so embarrassed that i like someone who treats me like this...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 August 2008):
Don't see him again.
Tell him you don't want to go out with a pathetic sheep. Tell him you want a boyfriend who will stand up for you and that is obviously not him.
If he's any good then he'll make it up to you and promise never to let anyone insult you again. If he's anything but appologetic then you are better off without him anyway.
Find a man who doesn't work with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Hey how reliable is the mole? It it not possible its all hear say?
I mean, it might all be quite exagerated. But if i'm honest, i reakon if we could all be a fly on the wall of our other halfs work place, we would be filing for divorce toot sweet. All blokes banter, some more than others. But I would be surprised if he called you thick? What guy would brag about dating a thick chick?
Something doesn't smell right about it all?
I would think seriously about how reliable the messenger is, then you do really need to speak to him.
Maybe just say, I hope you dont slate me in front of other people? You dont have to say anymore than that to test the water surely?
C xxxxx
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reader, Helpful Hillary +, writes (28 August 2008):
Every woman likes being treated badly every once in a while we enjoy the chase, arguments and problems of it all, believe me your no different from any other woman! But this man was totally out of order and he was totally disrespecting you and in the worst place he could, in the work place! Just think if he went on telling everything about you to everyone you would have to face them everyday! You can’t let him get away with this. As you said you don’t know how many heard what he was saying you could simply say that someone else told you or you over heard what was said. If you don’t want to tell a lie then tell him that you know what he said and leave at that because he’s not going to argue with it.
You need to ask if he’s just seeing you for the fun and games of it or does he really like you. If he says that he wants to be with you put your foot down and say that he can’t ever disrespect you like that again or your gone (you can give him a taste of his own medicine and treat him badly for a change!). But if he says it’s time to end it hold your head up high and walk away, you don’t want to be with a selfish low life who won’t respect your needs as all your going to get is bad treatment all the time and believe me you get fed up with it. Whatever you do make sure he knows that you know and confront him. You don’t have to lie about were you heard it from just don’t tell him all the information! Good luck
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