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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Well done! Im so pleased for you =] xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 August 2008):
I'm so glad this weirdo is out of your life.
I'm glad your big brother and mum took your side immediately and protected you.
Big brothers are useful sometimes.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Thanks for giving us an update.
I am very happy that you told your mom and that things worked out so well for you;
Your safety and security is always important; when you get a "gut" feeling or are feeling uncomfortabel about something; well then it is time to pay attention, like you did now.
Take good care, lots of hugs and SMILES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR HELP......I TOLD MY MOM AND SHE TALKED 2 HIM ABOUT IT AND HE ADMITED 2 SOME OF IT BUT I CAN PROMISE THAT HE WONT BE COMMING AROUND HERE ANYMORE.....ESPECILY AFTER WHAT HAPPEND WHEN MY BROTHER FOUND OUT......I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER KNOWING I CAN GO TO SLEEP AND NOT WAKE UP TO HIM......I LUV YOU ALL!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): ok u need to tell u mom as soon as possible or this guy might rape u
by the way u should never let him in again and just make an excuse
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Dear Poster
No matter what his intentions are; you NEED TO TELL your mom; this guy is invading your privacy and is making you feel uncomfortable in your own home;
Apart from all the other things; the two things that are disturbing me most is him in your bedroom at night and the fact that some of your lingerie goes missing for a while to be conveniently discovered by him later;
I see red lights flashing; you need to avoid being alone at home with him and re arrange your cupboard, pack your underwear somewhere else and put maybe T-shirt where you now have your underwear.
BUT you need to tell your mom about this, maybe you can ask her for a key to your bedroom door; she might want to know why and then you can tell her that you feel a little akward because of what has happened and you would like your privacy.
Best wishes and please keep usposted.
Lots of hugs and SMILES.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 It doesn't sound as if you're reading too much it to it. That is very strange and very inappropriate behavior by this guy. Tell your Mum.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (26 August 2008):
Tell your mum but in a nice way. Dont accuse him. It could be his way of looking out for you but I agree it does sound wierd. If he call again when nobody is there DONT LET HIM IN. Pretend your out. Or if he calls tell him your mum is there too.
Maybe you could show your mum this post if it makes it easier :)
Its a dificult situation but I know you'll get through it.
Good luck! xoxox
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 August 2008):
You have to tell your mum but you don't have to be all accusing about it.
Just tell her that he came over without warning and walked in on you in the shower the other day, and could she please ask him not to come over when she is not there.
Either that or does your house not have a chain on the door? A way to bolt it that can only be opened from the inside? Do that when ever you are alone. If he calls then lie, tell him you have friends coming over or that you are going out.
Start locking your bedroom door at night, or next time you find him in your room then scream (he could be a burgler after all) and turn the lights on so your mum catches him red handed.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Oh dear.
I would definately tell you're mom about this as soon as possible. Some abusers will try to establish a relationship with their victim (My stepdad would act as if I was his girlfriend, made sexual comments about me to my dad and such) before they act. It's a dirty game they play, and the mask they put on to make them look like decent people is very believable to those inexperienced in abuse.
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reader, Ask Reanne :) +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Babe, U Gotta Tell Your Mum im 13 too and i kno we shouldnt have to go through all this crap but we do. Tell Your mum. And when he is at your house you go out or something babe i swear to god please tell your mum because i dont want to be readin a message on ere about you bein abussed or somethin so please please tell your mum or somebody in your family please its for the best. Best of luck babe and get back too me babe. x
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