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writes:Hi,So I've been with the same guy for a year and we've gone thru a lot...i stuck by his side even wen he claimed he wasnt over his ex, i stayed with him when he told me he wants to live with his ENTIRE FAMILY after marriage (3 bros, a sis, a bros wife, 2 kids, his mom and dad..who are super religious) We are Muslim so its important to get families approval b4 marriage, and his mom told me that she doesnt want me as his wife..i still stayed with him...i kno there is no point because i really am starting to realize all that bs is not worth it...but i still do hav feelings for him. Should I stay with him until i find someone better, b/c hes like my best friend and we talk about everyhting or shud I just break up and stop talking to him all together, is it ok to talk to ur ex? I tried breaking up twice, but both times i kept running bak so hes getting mixxed signals, as if im leading him on...idk wat to do..idk how to officially break up, idk how to deal with not talking to him....what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so im still hanging out with him, but we're "friends" i think....this is confusing because we are still hanging out and hunging, its hard to stop acting like a gf when u've done it so long with the same person...shud we stop seeing eachother for a good month?
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Girl are you sick? Listen i get the point that you are still in love with the guy put do you intend to "kill" the rest of your life for someone who you obviously dont have a future with? Baby Girl in Jamaica we try to give good advices and as a Jamaican here's mine to you:
Explain to him about how your feeling
Tell him about the "after marriage living with whole family thing"
And if you dont do anything else ive stated tell him about the possibility of you leaving him and if her really loves you he will try and sort things out if he doesnt, girl just take a deep breath and leave!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 August 2008):
Well if you know there is no future then staying with him could be more hurtful in the long run as it will hurt him more to dump him for someone else, rather than just splitting up to be single.
Talk to him about it and say that you have realised this relationship is not going to run the distance but that you don't want to lose the friendship you have.
If you do split up then yes, staying friends with an ex is possible but you will lose a lot of what you had and it may take a while as if you spend too much time together then you will not have a chance to get over eachother and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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