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anonymous
writes:my girlfriend was having two boy friends at her past . i think she must have sex wih them because when i had sex with her there was no bleeding and my penis got easily entered her vagina and i hav heared that for the first time sex its just imposible.this thing is herting me a lot so what should i do plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): Anonymous guy you are sadly misinformed.The girls hymen could have broken if she was an athlete.Did you check the stats in the internet or did you take a survey.There are virgins who don't have any hymen.There are lots of virgins who don't bleed.Please have some sex education classes before you answer such questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): if you were a virgin before this and felt like this girl is the one, then I can see how this can bother you a lot. Sit by yourself somewhere, church, library, wherever you can be left alone and think about how you feel if it turns out she has had sex with both guys. Then go and ask her. Don't be an ass and get pissed off (unless she had lied to you). Just be prepared for the worst and talk it over. If you feel its always going to be at the back of your head, you need to step away from the relationship and give both of yourselves some time. If you don't and let's say this ends up being a very long term relationship - you will not be happy and you'll make her unhappy too. Which is not fair to either one of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): only 3% of women have no hymen before sex. even if you get tons of responses saying that a girl wont bleed, most of them, as usual, are lying. chances are, if she didn't bleed, she was almost certainly, at least 97% sure, she was not a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): She may or may not have. Don't assume just because she's been in previous relationships that she's had sex. And for talking about the vagina- (I am a girl), not every girl will bleed during first time sex. And for your penis entering easily, she could just be well lubricated. So good luck, but don't automatically assume that!
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reader, abbeymom  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Okay first let's clarify not all women are tight because they are nervous. Some woman have a small cervix and are just born this way. But it's true some women bleed and some women don't and it all depends on just not being nervous, but size of the penis, size of the cervix and many other factors.
Secondly if I'm guessing you assumed your girlfriend was a virgin correct? I believe you should ask if it concerns you. I'm guessing you are not upset because she might not have been a virgin with you, but maybe concerned about who she has been with, safety wise and health wise and I'm guessing you were a virgin as well?
A little more info would be great if you can clarify if she told you she was and then you are thinking she lied about it. That makes things different.
Get back to us
~ Abbeymom
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): Why did you pressume she was a virgin? Has she ever said she was?
Some girls bleed when they have sex for the first time and some are really tight, but this is most likely because they are nervous and are not comfortable with either having sex or the person they are with.
But others... Like myself when I first had sex, don't bleed and were easily entered.
Have you spoken to your girlfriend about this?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Have you asked your girlfriend whether she was a virgin?
Besides what difference does it make whether she was or not? I didn't bleed when I first had sex neither. I think you should accept her for who she is and not what she did in the past.
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reader, elektra-2007 +, writes (29 August 2008):
You will damage your relationship being this paranoid. I never bledd first time and most girls i know have said they didnt. Girls hymen can break if they go horse riding! You should be thankfull it was easy to have sex as that means she must trust you alot to be realxed for her first time. Why would she lie to you....enjoy the realtionship and remeber because you are her first sexual partner no matter where the relationship goes she wil always remember you because of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): I didn't bleed either.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 August 2008):
I didn't bleed my first time and if she was turned on enough and you had done foreplay previously then it was probably just that she was relaxed with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 ask her. and trust what she says.
not all girls bleed their first time, i didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): No, it's not impossible for first time sex to be easy. Some women are born without a hymen, the membrane that tears in first time sex, so they don't bleed. And there's no reason why you shouldn't enter a virgin easily unless her vagina is tight because she is nervous. I think you should believe what your girlfriend tells you about her past.
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