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writes:Ok here is the deal.... I met a really great girl, took her out on a date, things went well, a week later took her out again things looked good, then the third week i went to another town where my parents stay went to a party had a blast and ended up kissing another girl, the next morning i woke up with a huge headache and kind forgot about it, i then went back to JHB and started dating this girl i was seeing previously. Things really started getting better and better and i loved spending time with her. she had told me that she doesnt want a serious relationship yet and i agreed. so this whole time we were not a couple. I really started enjoying her company and started liking her more and more. and i feel that she was also feeling the same.2 months later, i get a text from her, that things are over between us because i had cheated on her! she gave me the date, the name of the person i kissed and where i kissed her! heaven knows how! just my luck! i even thought i might have been dating a clairvoyant!I told her it was true and but it was in the early days? what i felt for her then wasnt what i feel now?? yet she plain and simply doesnt want to see me anymore and says she can not trust me.we havent spoken or text in almost a week and its driving me crazy, i feel she is giving up on me so fast? yes i was with someone but after 2 dates, just a kiss and we wernt even a couple??Should i just forget her(kinda hard) is this just an easy excuse for her to get rid of me? Im not contacting her to let her calm down, and have this confidence that she will contact me yet when i recieve a text or a call its not her..... that sucks...Ladies whats your take?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): HiWell if were not a couple and she said that she did not want a serious relationship then why is she angry?Its girls like this that make me angry and give the rest of us a bad name.I mean seriously now, you guys were not a couple, you guys agreeded that you did not want a serious relationship yet when she finds out about something that happened why back, in the early days as you said it, she gets mad?What is she on!?Let me get this straight, she does not want a serious relationship with you yet she does not want you to be with any other girl? hmm....sounds like the girl has some issues to sort out.How she found out is strange, maybe a friend? Try find that out.Look from what you say it sounds like you are pretty much into this girl, so i would not give up just yet.She obviously has some issues but that comes along with being a girl! LOLIf she is not texting you it is because she is hurt. Sounds like she also has some trust issues so that maybe why she is so hurt and why she did not want a serious relationship, maybe she got hurt before?I would not give up. Maybe text her and tell her you want to talk about it.Like i said if you feel strongly about her then dont give up!Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): I would figure if she ain't enough to turn your head and make you concentrate on her, then she feels not very special.
Hard luck. If you wanted her, then its her you should have been kissing.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): I'm going to assume that she is the same age as you, which you list as 26-29. Her type of behavior is what is typical of young teens, not adults in their late 20s. Two dates does not define a realtionship. If she is going to be that controlling then you are better off without her. Consider yourself lucky that she found out and you discovered what she is like. Move on and find someone who is more grown up.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 September 2008):
I think that although you had only just begun dating, and even though she told you she didn't want anything serious... She still wanted you to have eyes only for her and to worship the ground she walked on. She wanted you to try and win her heart and fall in love with her.
This is how it happens in books and films.
This girl is very immature. She is not ready for a real relationship. If it hadn't been this you would have done some other tiny thing that would have been The End Of The World!!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Rapaz +, writes (18 September 2008):
Rapaz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 How can you break up when you weren't even together?
You both said that this wasn't serious..meaning you are allowed to date/kiss/hug other girls. This is the "getting to know you phase" and she's definitely overreacting.
If you really like her, i say give it time, Then call her back and simply explain to her She had no right to get angry cause you did not do anything wrong. You weren't together to be considered "cheating". If she dissagree, and refuses, then it's best to cut her loose because she will only get more jealous and possessive down the line.
UNLESS...YOU MADE PROMISES TO HER THAT SHE WAS THE ONLY ONE. AND YOU WEREN'T SEEING ANYONE ELSE.
THEN she probably looks at you as a player, and that is why she ended it because she doesn't believe a word you say anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): She's outta line. Whatever you do before her is not really any of her business, unless it was wit like her mother or sister or somethin, and even then its still only just a kiss. If shes dis overreactionary about it then count your blessings and run away! Even if you had had somethin more wit that other girl, even then, you weren't goin out with your girlfriend at the time. Not properly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): I think she is just hurt that you would kiss someone and not tell her. She doesnt think she can trust you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 September 2008):
 I think she sounds like a nutcase. After two dates she considers a kiss cheating? I hear warning bells Buddy!
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