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writes:I'm in college right now, and in a long distance relationship. ive pretty much been in a relationship since i was very young (different long term relationships, one after another) my boyfriend just finished school and is getting really serious about everything, and seems happy about everything (marriage..kids...and life) set and stone with us. For a while i thought i was sure i wanted to be with him, but that was only temporary and ive realized that i have no idea what i want. im not even 21 and ive never been able to be single and free do live my life completely by how i feel. i love my boyfriend, or at least i think i do. I just dont know if i could be happy forever without ever experiencing being alone. i know that if i end my relationship i cant expect to be able to go back to it when im done being a normal 20 year old, but i almost feel like its a risk im willing to take. how do i know for sure, and how do i put this on my boyfriend who has no idea about my doubts?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2008):
Talk to him about your dreams and what you want to do in life.
Do you want a career? Do you want to travel for a couple of years and see the world? Do you know what country / state / city you want to live in?
Don't let him think that you are going to go straight from college to motherhood. What was the point of going to college if you are just going to start popping them out.
Talk to him and tell him you want to experience life.
Is there no way of being with him while you find yourself? Or do you want to be single to meet other guys and flirt and date as well? Nothing wrong with that if you don't want to be tied down. But be straight with him about it.
Talk to him about how you are feeling trapped and as though your life has been mapped out for you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 September 2008):
 Please talk to him about it, and don't play games. If he gives you some alone time, don't call him up, oh baby i miss you so much, blah blah balh. Take the time, and use it to decide what you want.
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