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writes:Me and my partner have been together eleven years. he recently had his head turned by someone at work. I made him move out and she was the only place he could go. After a few weeks he knew he had made a mistake and i accepted him back but now she is pregnant. He has told her he does not want it but she is determined. We have two children of our own. I want us to move on and have a future but can I accept a real life mistake!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 September 2008):
You can't blame her for getting pregnant.
She can't be the only person he knows who has a sofa, and you seem to have conveniently skipped over the bit where he had no where else to go, and then had un protected sex with this woman for a few weeks, before coming back to you. If he didn't want a baby then he should have worn a condom. Or not had sex with this girl.
He did and now he has to face up to the responsibility.
You just have to accept that he has done this, or kick him out and let him be a dad to all three of his children.
If you did tell him to move out I bet he would move straight back to her rather than finding a place to rent of his own.
It's your decision to stay with him, and you'll just have to accept this woman and her baby into your life if you do that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (17 September 2008):
 Babyduck is right on the button. Cant add anymore than that really. But i feel for you. Both of you, meaning this other woman.
Hope you get it sorted soon.
C xxxxx
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reader, CNKlives  +, writes (17 September 2008):
It is hard for me to believe that she was the ONLY place for him to go....well nevermind, I DON'T believe that. It is great that you've accepted his apology but don't act like he didn't go live with another female and get her pregnant. It takes two to tango, did he accidentally sleep with her? No. She is pregnant, if she chooses to keep the child you can't dislike her but you can't blame her. Also, you CAN accept a real life mistake...think about what you are saying..are you really going to resent an innocent child for something 2 adults did? Be mad at the adults, they made the decisions not the "real life mistake".
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