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writes:right so i'l try and make this short, basically me and my boyfriend nearly split up about 2 weeks ago and it was his choice he was saying he doesn't know wether he wants me or loves me anymore and we came to a decision that we were going to give it a week and see if things were better by then, and obviously i was absolutely upset!the week went on and things did get so much better, we saw eachother a lot and he phoned me every night and on my breaks from college and it was all getting good, and i started to get happier. but just a couple days ago i came across his facebook profile, now it doesn't sound bad but when he made me delete my myspace, bebo and facebook profile you can kinda understand why i was shocked and angry to find he had one! there were loads of pictures of him on there, ones with other girls, and he had his status to single and that he was looking for a relationship and was there for dating, and we ARE together by the way so obviously he isn't single! and i know it sounds bad but i needed to check it out, i went on his emails and got his password for it and read his messages and there were some of him saying he wanted this other girl, and because shes in a relationship he will keep dreaming and waiting! now when i found that out i didn't feel bad at all about going on his emails and getting his password! i confronted him with it as you would, and he said the single thing was a mistake and because things weren't working out he said that about wanting another girl, and was saying he didn't really want her. fair enough, but he didn't say sorry he didn't see it as anything wrong infact he blamed it on me for saying something in the first place :S when anybody would. so now im confused as what to do? do i believe him? am i better off without him? i need to know what to do please?
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reader, little_goth_bladez +, writes (17 September 2008):
right im sorry to put this bluntly but there are people who are looking for girlfriends then there are people who jusrt want loads of girls and doesnt care about any of them plus he makes u delete your account on bebo etc get in his face and tell him to delete his otherwise just tell him its over im a boy and if u ask me that is just disgusting i would never tell a girlfriend to do that while i had one it is WRONG
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): Get rid of him, he doesnt sound any good and quite controlling. For one who has the right to tell you you cant have an account on facebook etc when half the population does,, INCLUDING YOUR BOYFRIEND!! do you think maybe he said this so you had no reason to go it and find out what you did. I have been in a similar situation where an ex tried to have a go at me when i was out with males friends of 10 years...... little did i know while he was preaching to me he was having sex with other girls behind my back and somehow i was in the wrong again,,, im not saying he's cheating im just saying relationships are hard enough without dishonesty and lack of trust. Get out there and enjoy your life
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 September 2008):
Don't believe him, that is the biggest load of rubbish I have ever heard. Even if he clicked on single by mistake when setting up his profile, he would then have had to ACCIDENTALLY click "dating" as well and then ACCIDENTALLY accept friends requests from all these girls who must have added him and then ACCIDENTALLY persue them and send them messages about how he wants them, and then they send one back saying they have a boyfriend and he ACCIDENTALLY tells them that he wants them and will wait.
Yeah.
The fact he tried to turn it round on you screams tht he has a guilty conscience and is being defensive.
How dare he demand that you delete your profiles in the first place? He shouldn't control you like that.
Dump him and do what you want in life.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CNKlives  +, writes (17 September 2008):
I say move on. If he is pretending to be single of websites then he isn't truly happy. If he is making you delete your profile on websites that he has profiles on, then he is hiding something. I know when you have emotions for someone you don't see things clearly and you want to believe with everything that there is another reason...but be clear headed....he says he is single, looking for a relationship, hitting on other girls and making you delete your profiles so you don't see it....
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