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writes:I was friends with him for the whole of last year and we are getting closer all the time, with our friendship turning into the beginnings of something else. He was married for a long time and has been single for two years now. I am slightly concerned that at 40 years old he is spending a lot of his time with young guys of between 18 and 21 years. He told me that when he was working on Monday evening, one of them went up to his house, built a fire for when he got home and stayed overnight (the guy is 18) and his parents house is not far away. I've started to wonder if I'm wasting my time with him as a potential partner. After all, on the few occasions I have stayed over at his, we have shared his bed and even had our arms around each other, but it has never gone any further. I'm trying to find the right moment to ask him some questions and trying not to let my imagination run riot. I expect some of you would handle it better....!!! Any advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 September 2008):
Just ask him straight.
"where is this going?" tell him you are looking for a boyfriend and you really like him but you don't want to keep holding on forever if all he wants is friendship.
Once you know what he wants then you can say "ok we can stay friends I just wanted to know." Or you can have your happily ever after.
As for his younger friends.... I think you'd just have to accept that as one of his quirks. If you ever moved in together you could put limits on them coming round when he isn't in.
Good Luck!! xx
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