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writes:Im over-weight and my bf says he loves me just how I am. He's the tall, dark and handsome type with not an ounce of fat on him.He calls me beautiful, says Im perfect just how I am even though he knows Im trying to loose weight because I cant stand being fat.Anyways his ex's have all been bigger too but what I want to know is what is it with guys? why do they say Im fine the way I am but cant help but stare at the girl with the perfect figure accross the street?Or oogle at actresses on tv and say how hot they are and check out girls when their on a night out?It makes me feel incredibly insecure because my body is so far from perfect, I wish my body was nice and slender but it isnt. So why must guys say your perfect then go check out the girls who are thin with big boobs and bums?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2012): He may want to keep you from losing weight because of his fear of possibly losing you to another guy.
If you don't feel good about your body, then do something about it :) Do it for you! I lost 30 + lbs after having my two kids. I wanted to look better and feel better about myself. I am glad I did it.
Guys are always checking out other women, I don't think your weight has anything to do with it. I noticed that before losing my weight and after ... Some things never change I guess lol ;)
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Tackle one issue at a time.Ok, you recognise that you're overweight and you can't stand being that way. So, don't just TRY losing weight - DO lose weight - just DO it! So many people in life wish for this and dream of that but do bugger-all about it.Next, your bloke is being insensitive in, presumably blatantly, ogling other girls. Just know that ALL guys do this, you'll never change this, it's in our makeup but most of us do it surreptitiously.So, next time he opens his big mouth, just tell him you're not the slightest bit interested in knowing about his pervy likes and fantasies, and doesn't he realise how insensitive he's being? And say it like you mean it!If he laughs and persists, consider a change of bloke, one with more maturity.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): Some guys may just tell their partner what they want to hear to keep them happy, then go ahead and lust after, or even cheat with slimmer women.
Why would you think your guy just tells you these things to make you feel happy? Does he stare at slimmer bodied women whilst out and about?
Not all guys are the same despite what some people might think or say.
As you have also said, your boyfriends ex's have all been on the slightly bigger than average size, maybe he prefers that in his women?
I know I don't particularly find bony girls attractive, I prefer a woman to have a bit of meat on her as its healthy, and also is more attractive to look at.
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