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writes:Alright so about a month ago I had to put my dog to sleep and since then I have gained about 10lbs and I am super paranoid about my husband cheating on me. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive anymore and he's been completely ignoring me. I've been eating healthy and exercising as I always have, but I just gained weight from being so depressed. My question is if a woman is 150lbs and 5'6 is this highly unattractive to a male? Is gaining 10lbs enough for a man to lose interest or is it just my own insecurity percieving it this way? Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor the last person posting I've been working out 4 to 5x a week for the past 6 years. I'm a dedicated runner and run several miles a day. I haven't just let myself go, I certainly count my calories and eat vegan. I am getting the situation under control. What I was saying was that the past month until this current point I was an emotional wreck and am now at a point where I am getting it under control and losing weight again.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 First of all, you don't gain weight from just being depressed. Depression can lead to 'comfort eating' and this seems to be the cause of your weight problem.To be blunt, I hate to see a woman who has let herself go. Your husband is used to seeing you a certain way and may indeed go off the new you. And gaining 10lbs may just be the start, where will it end? There really is no excuse for not exercising more.Your problem is one that can very easily be fixed. You're already making a start with your healthy diet, just up the exercise routine. Join a gym to lose weight AND take your mind off losing your furry friend.So, instead of worrying yourself sick about the consequences of your weight increase, DO something about it - it's in your hands.Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Sounds to me like it's your own insecurities talking.
Have some faith in your marriage, your love for each other and for yourself.
And if you are NOT happy with your weight, work on it FOR YOU.
I'm sorry for the loss of your fur-baby - it's never easy to say good bye to a beloved pet.
Chin up.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Wow. If gaining 10 pounds would be enough to ruin your marriage, you married the wrong person. You seem to be extremely insecure and paranoid, because it seems pretty ridiculous that he would mind 10 little pounds. If you're that worried about it, hit the gym. And if he is a loving and supportive husband, he would hit the gym with you to help motivate you. But if he does lose interest because of a little weight gain, divorce his ass and find a real man! Seriously.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 My guess is that it is your own insecurity. You are aware that you have gained this weight and you feel bad about yourself because off it. If your self esteem takes a knock them you are going to start thinking to yourself that you are unattractive. If your husband really is being more distant than normal then sit down with him and talk to him about it, my guess is that if he is then maybe you are pushing him away without realising it. You are both married so you need to communicate with him.
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