I want to take a break to work on things! Should I?
Q. Ok so I have been with partner for 6 now. We have lived to tether for a little more than 5. About 2 years ago she was unfaithful, when I found out was devastated, hurt, and angry. I couldn't understand why she did it. Well I forgave her, and went ...
A. 18 June 2012: Assuming this post is serious, you really need to separate. There is no exclusive relationship here or one based on mutual trust and respect. At all. I think you both need to take some time off being single and figure out what you want and where ... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 18 June 2012: After reading this, just wanted to say you sound like a great man in a great relationship. Awesome for you. Hope you can work out this mother-in-law inconvenience.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated and lied about it. Do I want to get him back?
Q. ( sorry this is long, a lot of explaining to get the full picture) I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now, before then we were best friends for 6 months or so and i can safely say even now that he knows me better than anyone. Ever ...
A. 17 June 2012: No, you don't.
Why would you want to put up with being hurt like that? You're really young too; don't focus on guys so much at this time.... (read in full...)
I make excuses even to myself about my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm new here and don't really know how this works but I really wish to talk to somebody about a problem I have, I'm so sad about it and I hope that someone on here can help me! :) I am seeing this guy, he's 33 and I'm 21. He said that he as ...
A. 17 June 2012: I'll just say one thing that immediately came to mind. You're SUPPOSED to hold your fork in your left hand in the so-called fancy dinners - not right as he seems to think. Guy's a clown :P - he seems to be too stuck up in himself honestly. I'd find ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 2 years and then I had sex with an ugly girl, why would I do this?
Q. So I'm in my 20s and I haven't had sex in 2 years. Then this girl I haven't talked to in awhile wants to have sex with me. She's fat, smelly and has an ugly face and yet I still had sex with her. I did not enjoy it, I just sat there letting her do ...
A. 17 June 2012: Well... that was a bit funny, sorry. Anyhow, I haven't had any for 24 years - and I'm 24 now :P. It's quite okay if you just don't have it. The temptation gets really damn strong sometimes but I'm still alive despite not falling for it @ at any ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife that I cheated on her once?
Q. I need advice on an age old question. To tell or not to tell. I cheated on my wife one time. After 1 year of marriage. I felt horrible and vowed to never do it again. Promised myself I'd make up for it by being an amazing husband. And I have been....
A. 17 June 2012: Your marriage is long over. Either you will feel forever guilty, eventually start to resent her for being *perfect*, and leave her. Or she will find out and leave you.
Yes, you should tell her. You don't need to go into all the details about ho... (read in full...)
B/f says he feels guilt because he cheated. Should I let him go?
Q. okay me and my guy have been together for 5 years now. and our begaining wasnt the greastest . lets just say we end up togther even though we were with others but now he tells me about all this guilt he has so about it . so my question is should i ...
A. 17 June 2012: Yeah, I'd start over. If both of you were in the habit of cheating around, that's really not something that can be easily forgotten or forgiven both ways.... (read in full...)
3 times he cheated! Will I ever trust a man again?
Q. I've been on and off with the same guy for seven years now. We started when I was 15, he was 17. The first time we dated lasted 2.5 years. Then he cheated on me. Twice in one week. With my then best friend. I hated them both for a little while (four ...
A. 17 June 2012: Do yourself a favor and never get back with him again. You've got a man who betrayed you three times, screwed up his best friend's wedding, fathered someone else's child, and managed that all within a few years by 25. I'm not sure it gets a lot ... (read in full...)
G/f cheated and now I don't feel the same. Is this normal?
Q. After my fiance cheated on me we broke up for 2 weeks and in the end i got back with her. Anyway i feel i have moved on after this event but i dont think i feel as strongly for her as i once did. I feel the urge to go out with friends and chase ...
A. 17 June 2012: I'm surprised you're wondering if it's normal and haven't yet ended the relationship. Shows how much she cares for your 4.5 years and affection. I'd never fully trust someone like that again; and without full trust what's the point?... (read in full...)
Husband masturbates to porn so much that he can't have sex with me
Q. my husband prefers watching porn to watching me.he doesnt bath with me anymore and spends the whole day downloading porn videos and the whole night watching and masturbating.he cant keep his erection anymore and each time after sex(thats when he ...
A. 17 June 2012: If you can't resolve the issue move on, break up with him, and find a better partner.
Don't even think about cheating! It won't solve anything. It won't make you feel loved or wanted. It will be a piece of short-term pleasure that you'll inevitab... (read in full...)
Nearing 25. Zero experience. Completely lost. Need all the advice I can get. Long rant.
Q. Okay, this is going to get a bit long but I have a lot to say and a whole lot more on my mind - been accumulating it for years now afterall ^^”… I would really appreciate anyone who reads this and offers up any similar experiences, advice, or any ...
A. 17 June 2012: Let me start off by saying a huge thanks to everyone who responded with their thoughts. I really, really appreciate it. It gave me an enormous amount to think about and put everything into a completely new (and better!) perspective. So much so that ... (read in full...)
Why out of the blue did he text me saying we needed a break? I need closure!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Like any other relationships we've had our ups and downs but always work stuff out in a matter of time. We love eachother a lot, my family loves him and his family loves me, etc. ...
A. 16 June 2012: If he is around your age - being 18-21 - while that sucks it's not something that's totally unexpected. Maybe your relationship was becoming more serious than he was prepared to handle at this time/age. A number of guys would want to suddenly back ... (read in full...)
I saw my husband groping and touching his younger friend! Is my husband gay?
Q. Dear Cupid My hubby and I have been married for 30 years and together for 34 years. He likes to drink but not everyday. Just on weekends. Last Friday night when him and his friend who is young enough to be our son came home they were both dru...
A. 16 June 2012: Yeah, I was thinking same thing. Cheating is cheating. Whether you think being very-drunk is a valid excuse or not is up to you - to me it's not.
6 years without intimacy is a really long time though. Enough to drive anyone's hormones up the wall... (read in full...)
I used my mom's phone and discovered she's getting way too friendly with a man. Do I confront her? Tell my dad?
Q. I need help! I'm 28 years old, and recently I went to my parent's house over the weekend and i discovered something that has my blood boiling right now. My parents are fairly older with my mom being in her mid 50's and my dad in his late 60's. ...
A. 16 June 2012: I'll skip over the whole ask permission to use phone topic since that's irrelevant to what I want to say...
I can see the people who say it's none of your business and I can also see that it's also definitely your business. I don't know exactly ... (read in full...)
Why are straights more curious about whose gay than the gays?
Q. All "straight" and "gay" answers are appreciated. Why is it that my coworkers (females) are constantly asking me about my personal life? They're always curious to know whether the person I'm dating is male or female. In my head I'm like who the fuk ...
A. 16 June 2012: I'm not sure what you didn't understand in my statement. Maybe the wording was bad. I just said people should not bother others with needless questions; so people should leave you alone and not care who you're seeing.... (read in full...)
He admitted he wasn't physically attracted me...is he joking?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a strictly platonic friendship with my guy friend that I've known for over a year. We talk on almost a frequent basis and hangout whenever it's convenient, despite our hectic schedules. One thing I admire about our friendship i...
A. 16 June 2012: Not being attracted to you doesn't mean you're bad looking in the slightest. You could be absolutely gorgeous. Everyone has different preferences though in what they want to see in a partner - and some of these preferences are more important than ... (read in full...)
Why is this younger guy hitting on me? I just want to be friends
Q. I m in my 40 s with really young men hitting on me ALL THE TIME, Yes, I m pretty, in good shape, look younger, but aren't they afraid that if I say yes, they will have to see my naked not very young body and do things to it? I had children, breas...
A. 16 June 2012: Sounds like they think a lot more of you than you think of yourself. I'm sure that they already considered everything you're worried about lol. If you like them back, great, if not then no harm done and just feel complimented.... (read in full...)
Why are straights more curious about whose gay than the gays?
Q. All "straight" and "gay" answers are appreciated. Why is it that my coworkers (females) are constantly asking me about my personal life? They're always curious to know whether the person I'm dating is male or female. In my head I'm like who the fuk ...
A. 16 June 2012: I think that the two camps aren't completely comfortable with the other so that's the reason. That said, sometimes it's better to just keep your opinion to yourself and not stick your nose in others' business.... (read in full...)
I got drunk and acted out of line with our friend. How do I talk to my husband about this?
Q. I (age 26) and my husband are married for last five years. We had a calm peaceful and joyous life. Though there were some disagreements. But recently there are some disturbances popping-up in our way. Our sex life is good. A close friend of my husba...
A. 16 June 2012: Well, since this didn't create a big issue with your husband, just move on. I'd suggest you avoid getting drunk in the future. Alcohol is no excuse for anything that happens after - since getting to that stage is by choice - but no point to make a ... (read in full...)
My bf cheated on me, please help, I feel sick, nauseous and ill!
Q. Dear all, I guess I just want to share this with you and get your views. I checked my BF's of over a year and a halfs emails a couple of nights ago and he had emailed a girl saying hi babes, and then went on to say that she must remember him as he ...
A. 16 June 2012: "We had a strong emotional and sexual bond between us"
No. As painful as it is, don't delude yourself. Only you had a strong emotional and sexual bond to him. Not the other way around.... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with a fwb, now what?
Q. Hi everyone I know this is a common question but I really need help I have fallen completely in love with my fwb who said he didn't want a relationship which I thought I would be fine with he has just moved and I am absolutaly gutted have any of you ...
A. 16 June 2012: Well, if you don't tell him you automatically lose. If you do tell him, you will probably lose. If it's important to you, you're better off telling him but don't get your hopes too high up :(.... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 16 June 2012: Absolutely false. Smoking has nothing to do with it.
And smoking is really bad for both partners' health too...... (read in full...)
My bf cheated on me, please help, I feel sick, nauseous and ill!
Q. Dear all, I guess I just want to share this with you and get your views. I checked my BF's of over a year and a halfs emails a couple of nights ago and he had emailed a girl saying hi babes, and then went on to say that she must remember him as he ...
A. 15 June 2012: You did the right thing to end it on the spot. Don't second guess yourself on that. As for your awful feeling, just hang in there. It will pass =\.... (read in full...)
I feel that my boyfriend is ashamed of me and is keeping me away from his inner circle and family
Q. Im 21 and my bf is 30.... and we have been together for almost a year. When I first met him I was just head over heels for him because he's everything I thought I wanted. But lately I just keeping asking myself should I leave. I mean we get along ...
A. 15 June 2012: My case is a bit different but I totally see myself trying to keep my GF away from my *inner circle and family*. One; because there is almost nothing left of it and Two; because it's a hellhole that I do not in the slightest want to seep into our ... (read in full...)
When she was a teenager, why did my wife walk around the house topless in front of her parents?
Q. Thank you all in advance for your thoughts. My wife and I have been working hard on our relationship over the past several months. If you have read my prior two post you will have a pretty good understanding of things. Basically tonight my wife...
A. 15 June 2012: Nothing wrong with walking around naked in your own privacy or around people you trust who don't mind it. A lot more people do it than you think. Some even walk around fully naked about their house. Just traditions, level of comfort, and what's ... (read in full...)
Times are hard and today my girlfriend started working as a stripper, but I'm feeling awful about it!
Q. So ive been with my fiance for three years and we live together in a nice apartment..im disabled and get a tiny check every month thats only enough to pay the rent and i receive food stamps...and my fiance is a CNA at a local hospital so everything ...
A. 15 June 2012: My personal opinion is that's definitely not a job you want her to have. I'm not saying there is something inherently wrong with it but just yes, I don't think it will fit into your relationship at all and will most likely bear some slight or major ... (read in full...)
There are so many other good looking, smarter and generally better women out there, why would a man chose to be with me?
Q. Is there any point to me being in a relationship? I feel like as there are so many other good looking, smarter and generally better women out there, why would a man chose to be with me. I try to be single, but something happens and I end up stuck in ...
A. 15 June 2012: So you dumped a guy who liked you just because you didn't think he should like you? Or something like that x.X Everyone has their strong and weak points; and everyone has something to like in them. You do too. All those other girls you think are ... (read in full...)
How do I get enough confidence to have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7, almost 8 months and they have been amazing. He is such a great guy and is so good to me. The only problem is that we haven't had sex yet. He has been very patient with me, and it isn't that I don't want to have ...
A. 15 June 2012: If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you. It's really simple. When he says you're beautiful; he means it. Don't worry so much about it.... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that there is a difference between an accident and an intentional reaction?
Q. I accidently kicked my husband in the groin (he was standing behind me) as I was explaining to my older son that it was unacceptable to constantly thump my younger son. My husband suddenly ran and lunged at me with his thick MBT shoes on and kick...
A. 15 June 2012: What. The. Hell? I'd never hit a lady even if she hit me on purpose - I might try to restrain her if I was forced to defend myself but that's the extreme of it.
I don't see how any sane man can see that as an attack and do what he did. Was he p... (read in full...)
What do men think of breast implants?
Q. Hi just wondering about breast implants what do males think of them? and people who have them down short story i have a breast problem when i was 15 i knew i had small boobs but they said when i grew older they would grow to be similar size ( o...
A. 14 June 2012: I'm not sure if posting in old questions inappropriately bumps them up anywhere but I just wanted to throw out my *professional* male opinion on this :P. (or just my preference lol)
Larger breasts (not gigantic) smaller breasts everythi... (read in full...)
My mother needs psychiatric help but I don't want to abandon her. Has anyone else went through this?
Q. How do I deal with letting my mother go like this. Everyday she seems to be losing a bit of herself little by little. It's to the point where she's frequently screaming at the top of her lungs senseless gibberish. I love my mother and it tears me up ...
A. 14 June 2012: I lived and kind of still living through a very similar thing. Best thing you can do is let her get professional help. She may not understand it or appreciate it and neither might you but it's for the best.
My mom had come to a point where ar... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 13 June 2012: Is he your bf or just someone you like? Polite or not, I think he is just telling you his preference and what he is looking for. You're entitled to do what you want and he is entitled to err, want what he wants. Sounds like this is an important ... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian pornography make me gay?
Q. Hi, I'm straight and have always been with men. However, i just realized that i like to watch lesbian porn and i like to look at pictures of naked women on the internet. I just find women beautiful. I wouldnt never be interested in looking at naked ...
A. 13 June 2012: I'm a guy so my opinion is a bit (or maybe a lot) biased here but I too quite prefer lesbian porn to heterosexual or anything else. As a general rule, it is a lot more sensual, calm, and romantic. Just a lot more relaxing and arousing to watch. Plus ... (read in full...)
Our marriage has hit a rough patch and his way of dealing with it is masturbating to pictures of naked girls. My feelings don't matter. Help?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years and for the second time we have hit a rough patch. When this happens he becomes glued to naked pictures of girls online. He even goes so far as to masterbate to them. We have recently talked and are ...
A. 13 June 2012: Can totally understand you being hurt by it. If it makes things any better, I strongly suspect his intent is not to hurt you and he probably doesn't even fully realize he is. I think he is just quite confused and withdrew into his own world for ... (read in full...)
Will this guy tell everyone that I don't shave down there?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old. The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago. He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there. Th...
A. 13 June 2012: Beyond what others said, one more thing to remember: Everyone! has hair down there and many people don't shave. There is nothing new or wrong about it. So even if others find out it's nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
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