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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:( sorry this is long, a lot of explaining to get the full picture) I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now, before then we were best friends for 6 months or so and i can safely say even now that he knows me better than anyone. Ever since i've known him i've stressed how i hate liars and always prefer to know the truth, and he's always promised me that he has and always will tell the truth. when we started going out properly i was quite paranoid as he was always a flirt before, and it made me feel selfconscious so i asked him to stop and i admit that prehapes i had blown up at nothing occationally but he never took me up on anything, so i suppose my jealousy and paranoia got the better of me. but i soon calmed down as he slowly appeared to stop flirting. About 4 months ago my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and i needed him more then ever and he has always been my best friend. As i came to terms with this i started to get angery and i see now i took it out on him, and i have apologised, but these arguments meant that we broke up for a while. My friends then told me all the times over the last 2 years that he had hit on them and various others. i was shocked. when i confronted him, he came out with a load of other times, that i had no idea about. i felt like a laughing stock, that every one knew about these things but me. I got him to promise me that he had told me everything, decpite the lies, i dont really mind the flirting, as i am a more confident person now then i was two years ago. but the lies really got me. so as he promised there was nothing else we started to get back togethe. but then one night i asked him about a girl i know he had met at a party the year before while i was on holiday and he told me he had cheated on me with her, and constantly lied to me and himself about it. Now i dont know what to do as i know i will end up with him because i will always love him. but i dont know whether i should spend this summer away from him (Ive only ever been with him while him and all my friends have had that one night stand) experiencing things, or just try and move past it and enjoy this summer relaxing with him.... i cant tell what i want and my friends that are in relationships say get back with him and those that are single are telling me to go out with them on the pull... i dont know what i should do as i want to pay him back but is it really about that?
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reader, Discovery  +, writes (17 June 2012):
No, you don't.
Why would you want to put up with being hurt like that? You're really young too; don't focus on guys so much at this time.
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