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writes:Hi, I'm straight and have always been with men. However, i just realized that i like to watch lesbian porn and i like to look at pictures of naked women on the internet. I just find women beautiful. I wouldnt never be interested in looking at naked men online. And when i do watch heterosexual porn, what turns me on the most is when the guy goes down on the woman. Does that make me a lesbian?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2012): No, it doesn't make you a lesbian. It's pretty common for girls to have fantasies with their same sex, you just appreciate the beauty of a woman.
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reader, Candycane1234  +, writes (13 June 2012):
 No, heterosexual porn is boring. You're straight don't worry.
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reader, Discovery +, writes (13 June 2012):
I'm a guy so my opinion is a bit (or maybe a lot) biased here but I too quite prefer lesbian porn to heterosexual or anything else. As a general rule, it is a lot more sensual, calm, and romantic. Just a lot more relaxing and arousing to watch. Plus women just look (and behave) a whole lot better than men lol.
What I'm trying to say is, you're fine and totally justified. What you actually do is more defining but that seems to be pretty set. Not like it really matters anyway.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Most heterosexual porn is made from the 'male gaze' and is centred around the pleasure for the male involved. Women in it are just objects to be used to attain pleasure for the male. When you watch a man performing cunnilingus on a woman, the focus, for a change, is on the woman's pleasure. So it's natural to feel turned on by it. Similiarly, lesbian porn is a lot less violent and degrading and focuses on mutual pleasure, not on the pleasure of one partner to the exclusion of the other. Watching it does not make you a lesbian. It makes you normal for wanting to focus on your own body and your own pleasure instead of eroticising your own oppression (by getting off on violent heterosexual porn).
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): At best it makes you bi-curious but not lesbian. If you feel you are attracted to women or the desire to sleep with them, than you should experiment and see where it leads you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): nope it does not make you a lesbian
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reader, crummyscreenname  +, writes (5 June 2012):
having sex with other ladies makes you a lesbian. everything else is a grey area.
Don't worry too much about your fantasies- they're just that.
If you feel like experimenting to find out if you're actually interested in women, maybe you should. But just liking to look at pictures of women does not necessarily make you gay, plenty of straight women are into that. it's pretty embedded in our culture.
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