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female
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36-40,
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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 7, almost 8 months and they have been amazing. He is such a great guy and is so good to me. The only problem is that we haven't had sex yet. He has been very patient with me, and it isn't that I don't want to have sex, it is that I am very insecure about my body.I have always had body issues. I am 5'10", and am very curvy. I like my curves, but I have a bit of a stomach and cellulite on my butt and thighs., and boobs aren't that big. I don't really talk to him about it because I don't want to come across as a whiny girlfriend who wants to complain all the time. I do work out, I walk/run every day, I eat healthy. But the problem areas just haven't gone away. To add on to the insecurity, his best friend/neighbor's girlfriend is a nude model. She has a naturally thin frame and fake boobs. I know he probably thinks she is hot. I want to be sexy for him, I want to be confident. But it is hard when there are women like that living next door! Also all of the porn images and what not men, as well as women, are subjected too.He does tell me I am beautiful, but I don't know if he really is just saying that. He is the most handsome and good looking man I know. I want to be that for him as well. I need some advice please! How do I deal with this! When the time comes, I want to enjoy making love without worrying. **Please don't be mean :( **xoxoxoxo
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reader, citadel  +, writes (15 June 2012):
Explain ahead of time to him about your issues, insecurities, vulnerabilities, have that talk first. I'm sure if he loves you he'll reassure you every step of this journey. Be comfortable with this talk, be open, that's the start of good love making. Clarity before Barity.
LOL. The sex starts in your head than your heart than your skin. You're inlove with your lines, your curves, that's wonderful. That's sensual and that will come across.
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reader, Discovery +, writes (15 June 2012):
If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you. It's really simple. When he says you're beautiful; he means it. Don't worry so much about it.
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