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writes:I (age 26) and my husband are married for last five years. We had a calm peaceful and joyous life. Though there were some disagreements. But recently there are some disturbances popping-up in our way. Our sex life is good.A close friend of my husband usually visit our house on weekends and they both used to have some drinks. Some times beer otherwise something hot. They never get drunk. On occasion when he does not visit us on weekend I used to give company to my husband.Last week when he visited us I too joined them for a drink and by one glass of brandy mix I got a good kick.Unusually I took 1 more.I started speaking out quite openly. I was bold enough to tell that his friend is sexy. More to that I went ahead and sat next to friend and was freely touching him, hugging him, leaning over his shoulder. In fact I behaved without caring that my husband is in front of me watching all these.Next day he mocked on for this behavior. He told that I was behaving so sexy that his friend was a little embarrassed.I am having that on my head still. I feel so bad that I did all this. My husband did not scold me or anything but I feel I was so inconsiderate to him and to his friend.To this week his friend also did not come for visit. I feel it was because of my act.I am confused how to talk about this to my husband.Please help me to handle this thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2012): This makes me cool now. Thanks for all of you. Its Liberty.S who pointed the fact accurately. Truthfully I have a sexual attraction to the friend. I have spoke about this to my husband earlier. He just took it light by telling that 'its just OK and if you wish you just get him, which ever way you want'. The topic just went away from us.
But I never expected that I will behave openly this way. As all of you suggested my husband is quite understanding. But I doubt I took bit more if freedom (my husband might not have expected this). As well 'the friend' also might not have.
do you guys get the point, we used to talk openly about our fantasies. I talked mine and several of his he openly told to me. But this time I was trying to realize it without any shyness. How do I ask whether I hurt my hubby. I cannot go ahead and throw the topic on to his friend. I think the friend might have thought about me as whore or something. What else am I, right to behave this way!!!!
I want to talk to my hubby, I don't know how to start. Is there a big gap between us though we are frank to each other!!!!
I am afraid of this situation about his friend considering me as a woman who is ready to sleep with anybody- even taking liberty to such extend in presence of my husband.
Might the friend be thinking of my husband as an incapable!
why is this world this way! I can not control to weep when I am alone. If i can talk to my husband about this all it will be over. Please help me how do I start with????
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reader, Ayan Ganguly +, writes (16 June 2012):
 Your husband is a real sport going by the standard of indian men..you know what i mean...anything done under the influence of alcohol is not an offence but it's vulgar(if i can be harsh in terming the act)..but since your husband is cool with it its not a problem..but i suggest you can apologize to him for your behaviour and i guess your husband is generous enough to forgive you,if he did feel bad in any case, and maybe then you two can share a big laugh and the incident would stay in your memorie's as one of the funniest moments of your life..lol..
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reader, Discovery  +, writes (16 June 2012):
Well, since this didn't create a big issue with your husband, just move on. I'd suggest you avoid getting drunk in the future. Alcohol is no excuse for anything that happens after - since getting to that stage is by choice - but no point to make a bigger issue out of it than already passed. Be careful.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 June 2012):
 One thing is certain, you cannot change what has happened, you can only learn from it.
You made a mistake, not a huge one but your behaviour was inappropriate.
If your husband is a good person he will see this for what it is, you got a little drunk and made his friend fell uncomfortable...it's not the end of the world and nobody died!!
I'd just say 'Im sorry, It won't happen again' and forget it.
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reader, sexy boxer  +, writes (16 June 2012):
Well, I guess you and are husband are well -educated, so he would not scold you ! maybe you should talk to him and later send apologize to his friend too !
I am sure he will understand that you did all of this under the influence of alcohol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2012): It seems you can't handle drinking...so don't drink more than you should again. If you meet with his friend again, act normal, like nothing has happened before. Show attention to your husband and don't make a big deal out of it. Your husband knows that you weren't your true self (as you were drunk)..that's why he didn't scold you.
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