The only place I feel I fit in is at home with my mam and dad. Please help.
Q. Well this is a bit stupid to be honest. I just don’t feel I fit anywhere, I think, would people notice if I wasn’t here? (I’m not suicidal or anything like that). I do get involved with friends but I always feel like I’m the odd one out. I’m quiet ...
A. 22 October 2008: hey Spirit Of Iona, that was nice, thank you :-)... (read in full...)
Is it ok to try new things without discussing it or am I right to be upset?
Q. I am sexually active with my bf of 9 months. Last night we had sex and he pulled out and jizzed all over me. He's never done that before. We use birth control and he didn't need to do that. I got mad because he didn't ask first. He says he shouldn't ...
A. 17 October 2008: He's done it now, and he knows you didn't like it so maybe next time he will ask. I'd personally hate it, I hate the smell of it. What's kinky about pulling out and squirting warm, sticky, smelly stuff all over someone?... (read in full...)
I think my little sister is having sex. How should I handle this?
Q. I’m 20 male and have a 15 year old half sister who leaves with my Dad. I know she has had a bf for the last 4-5 months of which I didn’t think anything of it. The problem is, whilst I checking her social networking site for weird people and stuff...
A. 15 October 2008: Talk to her, ask her, take her to get contraception, tell her about it etc, make sure she is ok, tell her you are there no matter what. Tell her if she needs to ask you any questions no matter how stupid you won't judge her and you'll be happy she ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems, am I overreacting? He neglected me on my birthday!
Q. of course I didn't expect to have a party or anything like that. I live with my boyfriend, so I expected him to at least do something nice. I don't care about a gift, I just wanted him to be nice/thoughtful because he never is. So I got home from ...
A. 15 October 2008: If he knew it was your birthday then yes I'd be upset, if he didn't know it was your birthday or that it was coming up then he can't be blamed really, he can't prepare for something he didnt know was happening can he.... (read in full...)
He told me he loved me in my native language, but it's difficult for me to trust people. Did he mean it?
Q. hello I have a problem with my boyfriend, I am a very defensive person, because it is dificult for me to trust in people, my boyfriend is a very good guy. The thing is that as I am forein he is learning my first language that is spanish, so ...
A. 15 October 2008: OMG he loves you, he told you in your language not his, thats got to mean something, I think it would be even sweeter for him to say it in your native language rather than for him to say it in his language, he probably thought it would mean so much ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that my boobs are an ok size?
Q. My boyfriend always seemed to like my body. But he was very critical yesterday. There are things I can change, but there's one that I can't: my breasts. Full B's. But he says he'd prefer they were bigger. He says I look good anyway, but if they were ...
A. 15 October 2008: Tell him you'd like him to have a bigger "manhood" since you know boys who are bigger!!! He's an idiot. ... (read in full...)
Found a long black hair in his shower...is he cheating?
Q. About 2 or 3 weeks ago I found a semi-long black hair in my boyfriends shower. Kinda on the wall stuck from the water. I have very blonde hair and his hair is black but very short. None of his friends have black long hair and neither do any o...
A. 15 October 2008: It might have been stuck to your hair/got tangled in your hair (or his but I think it might have been noticed) blown on either of your heads from the wind? It is unlikely. As someone else said it may have been stuck to clothing that has rubbed off ... (read in full...)
Why are fine-looking women so worried about their appearance? Do women have some kind of competition or acceptance problems with each other?
Q. Alright, I just wanted to express my opinion. From a male perspective, and not that of a guy who looks around hungrily for sex. Women seem really image conscious, a little too much I'd say. I mean it's surprising how much women actual...
A. 14 October 2008: Because we are self conscious. I was in a fast food restaurant last week during the day and I watched a girl (late teens/early twenties) apply lip gloss, I watched her for at least 5 minutes - she then got her food (oh no she would need to reapply ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 2 October 2008: Well I'm English, 24. Got a Degree in Physics with Medical Applications and a Masters in Pipeline Engineering. I work as a Pipeline Engineer.
I have a bf, been together almost 2.5 years, I have 2 birds and 8 goldfish.
I am VERY jealous of uncle... (read in full...)
Why do guys only like skinny, slutty girls and why don't they like overweight girls, who are great people on the inside? Any insights?
Q. i want to know why guys are so mean and picky that they only like skinny girls that are slutty and why they don't like overweight girls. It really hurts my feelings that they judge me based on the way that i look and not whats on the inside, I ...
A. 2 October 2008: Well if men are at a pub and there is a Barbie girl and an over weight girl which girl are his friends going to pick on him for? I think it’s a status thing, look at her body but she’s an airhead inside (ok not all are but a lot are), men will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't believe I lost my virginity to him and thinks I've deceived him all this time. How can I convince him?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't believe that I lost my virginity to him. But I did. One, he knows that I gave oral sex to a friend (no longer a friend actually) years ago. Two, I lied to him about this. But of course I came clean, that's why he knows. But th...
A. 30 September 2008: He might be looking for a get out clause?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't believe I lost my virginity to him and thinks I've deceived him all this time. How can I convince him?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't believe that I lost my virginity to him. But I did. One, he knows that I gave oral sex to a friend (no longer a friend actually) years ago. Two, I lied to him about this. But of course I came clean, that's why he knows. But th...
A. 30 September 2008: He might be looking for a get out clause?... (read in full...)
Is this normal behavour for a straight man in a woman's company?
Q. i was out with my boyfriend last week having a few drinks when a gay man sat down and started chatting to him. he then preceeded to rub his hands over my boyfriends face and through his hair and admired his voice. the gay was asked to stop, but my b...
A. 30 September 2008: Maybe it was s set up to see how you reacted? I don't think ANYONE out with their partner would accept that from a stranger, if it was a friend maybe it was a bit of friendly banter? In my experience (not all believe me) but a lot of gay people (men ... (read in full...)
They all think I am gay! Why they are saying this about me?
Q. I just started hs, and i think theres been a rumor abt me being gay. Well it all started in May when we had a pizza party 2 get 2 know all the freshmons. I met this girl, there and we were just talking and then just randomly her boyfriend comes up ...
A. 30 September 2008: They are just being stupidly immature, maybe even distracting attention away from himself?
You could always use the line "takes one to know one" but then they could say that because you didn't deny it then you are gay. Name calling is just stu... (read in full...)
Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?
Q. ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...
A. 24 September 2008: Ok I'm a girl but I LOVE curly hair. It always looks so pretty and nice, most of my friends have curly hair and they always look so nice with it, I on the other hand have stupidly straight hair and if I attempt to curl it or anything it just drops ... (read in full...)
How could I bring up the subject of sex to her and get her feelings? Any tips about sex with a deaf partner?
Q. I have had a long time friend who is a beautiful deaf woman. Despite being deaf she still looks normal and works at a professional job. We have been dating for a little while. We enjoy spending time together and doing things like watching...
A. 17 September 2008: Ok,
“Despite being deaf she still looks normal and works at a professional job”
“She is a normal woman except she is deaf. I assume that she could enjoy sex despite the fact that she can’t hear”
“Would extended foreplay be important to a deaf wo... (read in full...)
I get self concious about my height. How can I loosen up and approach the guy I like?
Q. I'm sixteen and I feel like I don't fit in a lot. I'm 5'11 and most of the boys are shorter than me. I hate going to dances. I went to my semi and wore shoes that made me 6'2. I'm freakishly tall. I like this boy and I think he likes me. I feel too ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hey I'm the same height as you and I don't like it ALL of my friends are short. I have one male friend who is 6 ft 3 and thats it the rest are well under 5 ft 5. So me and the tall guy stick out like sore thumbs, at least if we are out together it ... (read in full...)
Please awnser this question, are ghosts real or fake?
Q. Look i know this aint a love question, but i want your opinion on something. Ghosts, are they real or fake? i want to know what you think, as personally i think they are real. please awnser this question with your honest opinion, i will apre...
A. 28 August 2008: I don't believe in ghosts.
However, Years ago I'd went over to my friends house; saw what I assumed to be his mam standing on the stairs holding their new baby (it was definitely a woman). His mam didn't like any of his friends and was always r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a "minute man". Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend is almost 34 years old and is a "minute man". He's the first guy I've been with that didn't have a little more control over said issue. Are there any men that might have some advice? Is lasting longer a genetic thing, a mental thing? ...
A. 1 August 2008: My boyfriend is also a minute man, I know people say have a quickie first or a BJ then go for it, but in my experience he gets what he wants why should he have to go again. Either way I loose!... (read in full...)
I found hair on the carpet that wasn't mine, is he cheating?
Q. So, today I was waiting for my boyfriend to get back to our apartment and I was sitting on the floor with our puppy. Well, I brushed my hand across the carpet and my finger got (grossly) tangled in some hair. I absolutely hate loose hair...but ...
A. 14 July 2008: It might have been innocenly dragged into the house from a shoe or a coat. A coat may have been hung up at work, next to someone with long hair, the hair got stuck to either yours or your boyfriends coat and been brushed off onto the floor? It might ... (read in full...)
Do you think this new guy I have been seeing may have a fetish?
Q. Okay I am just curious, I know there are people out there who have bizarre fetishes and such. I am wondering if this new guy I have been seeing may have one. I am curious here.....he recently set his myspace status to "I love coloring ;)" It soun...
A. 25 June 2008: In the Sex and the City Film they are talking about sex and one of them doesn’t want that word said in front of her daughter, so they change the word to colouring. He’s obviously sent the film and thought it was funny. ... (read in full...)
Where can I communicate with lonely females without paying a fee or getting hooked up with the spam message?
Q. Does anyone know where you can communicate with lonely females without paying a fee or getting hooked up with the spam mess? I like to email back and forth about whatever, maybe adult content sometimes maybe other stuff. thanks...
A. 10 June 2008: Go on a search engine and type in "Free Chat sites". ... (read in full...)
Am I psychic?
Q. Heyy ! Im getting rather freaked out . I think i have physic ablilities. This has only happened twice but it only begun recently. First Occasion: I had a dream about a man in a bear suit in some toilets , the day later the exact same bear outfit +...
A. 5 June 2008: Stuff like that happens to me as well. I'll be sitting watching a film and then go "oh I've seen this, this happens..." then someone will say "but its the first time its been on tv" etc. That is just one example.
My most freaky examples... (read in full...)
When your boyfriend plays video games for hours and hours a day does it turn anyone else off?
Q. When your boyfriend plays video games for hours and hours a day does it turn anyone else off? My boyfriend and I live together, and he is always on, and when he isn't doing that it's porn. His love of video games is so juvenile and puts me in a...
A. 29 May 2008: As has been suggested, get out of the house together more. Ask him if he would like to visit some places/go for a night out, if he says no then you go yourself with friends and tell him how good of a time you had - he will start to get jealous and ... (read in full...)
I do love him, but we can't compromise on religion!!!!! What should we do?
Q. Hi...i am wondering how many of you have married someone who is of a different religion than you are? If you did, how long did it last? Were there any major issues? My fiance and I are of two different religions and I can't imagine what it ...
A. 29 May 2008: A maybe simple solution would be if you did marry him and have kids, you bring your kids up with 2 religions and let them choose which one/both/none or different religion they would like to accept.
... (read in full...)
Saw her in a shop, and want to meet her! What do I do?
Q. I saw this gorgous girl in a shop working. She had an amazing smile n she kept looking me in the eye n smiling. I really want to compliment her and get her number but take it one step at a time. What can I say?please help. Thanks...
A. 28 May 2008: The two previous posts are very good. I would say go for it - if she says no then at least you tried rather than thinking what if. Two of my friends met this way, and they are planning on getting married next year. Go for it just be careful :-) x... (read in full...)
What are the rules of cheating?
Q. i was just thinking... what are the "rules of cheating" or what would be considered cheating?...
A. 19 May 2008: The rules of cheating are do not do it. Cheating is anything that you would not do in front of your partner, or anything that if he did it then you would not like it. x... (read in full...)
How to tell him I want longer sexual encounters without offending him?
Q. How do I tell my boyfriend I want him to last longer during sex without offending him? Also, how can I get him to last longer?...
A. 14 May 2008: A BJ before hand would make him last longer - however the down side is that he has had his pleasure so maybe he won't want sex afterwards? If he does then I would have though if you did it all the time then he will not want the sex afterwards as ... (read in full...)
Are teenage girls so worried about pubic hair?
Q. Hello I was talking to my girlfriend about "stuff" yesterday and turns out that herself and most of her friends are all a little worried about how their pubes look, like how they shave them or how they don't shave them. Can any other women ...
A. 14 May 2008: Yes, because there is the image of the perfect woman (and in most teenage boys I would hazard a guess that it involves looking like a porn star).
I think if a guy wants a girl to shave then he should repay the favour?! It's all childish really, ... (read in full...)
Why can't I say I love them?
Q. Hi, It’s not a major problem as such. I can’t tell my boyfriend I love him and I also have issues telling my parents I love them as well. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it (I imagine my life without them and obviously its unbearable), it up...
A. 14 May 2008: Well firstly BigSis glad you got so much amusement out of my name (I got it from a board game I used to have when I was little lol), and I thought it was funny :-).
I don’t think it is so important that I don’t say it, its just other people d... (read in full...)
Can a man get an erection even if he doesn't like the girl?
Q. Ok this is mainly a question for the men out there, but womens responses are more than welcome too. Anyway, if a guy likes a girl he can get an erection when cuddling/sitting with her etc (normal stuff). If he doesn't like a girl 'in that way' wi...
A. 14 May 2008: I wasn't asking because it is happening to me :-P. Its just me and my bf were talking about is the other night and I said I bet he (ok not him specifically, just men in general), their little member would be like "oh girl, girl girl, *stands tall*" ... (read in full...)
How do you define a "long term" relationship?
Q. OK here I go thinking again, ok its another question about peoples points of views. After reading questions on here about people in long term relationships...How long does a relationship need to be to be long term? I don't know how you would cl...
A. 14 May 2008: Hey everyone, thanks for your answers. I was just curious for other peoples points of view. Thanks x... (read in full...)
Is it true going on the pill makes you put on weight?
Q. hey i was just wonderin my mum has suggested i go onto the pill and at first i thought this could be a good idea but some people have told me it makes u put on weight..is this true?...
A. 7 May 2008: I went on Microgenol and after almost 2 years I've put on about half a stone (which I do not put down to the pill at all). So long as you eat sensibly then you should have no worries. When I first went to the Nurse for the pill she gave me leaflets ... (read in full...)
How can you tell is a guy is not a virgin?
Q. how would you know if the guys are already not virgin?...
A. 15 April 2008: You cant unless he tells you.
I don't really agree with 2112rush2112's comment " there are a few hints like if u two are close together and he starts to get hard", the rest of the comments are fine.
Just because he gets hard from being next ... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 3 April 2008: Oh I completely agree with you Dazzerg. To be honest I think it depends upon the context at which the "assumption" is taking place. Like I said it's an interesting discussion for different peoples points of views :-) ... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 3 April 2008: Lol it was more a discussion question. Everything every one has said is true, I was just interested in other peoples points of views on the matter. As Allenrobin said it is not lying…but it is not telling the truth. This didn’t happen to me its... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 3 April 2008: Lol this is interesting. The thing is everything that has been said here is true. It was more a discussion question. As Allenrobin said it is "not lying" but its not telling the truth, so is it lying? as askoldersister stated!... (read in full...)
She cries out as if in pain when we make love... IS she in pain???
Q. 36 year old from India. Married with a kid. We have sex atleast 4 times in a week. During the climax, my wife cries and shouts a bit. I am afraid, whether she is in pain. When I enquired after some time, she is telling me that, she had ...
A. 26 March 2008: Some people just like to make noises when they are enjoying theirselves. Maybe you are just hitting the right spot all the time?!... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I love him in a way he'll understand?
Q. Ladies: What is the best way to tell a guy you love him? I know that guys aren't as touchy-feely as we girls tend to be, and I know that their minds usually have a tendency to work VERY differently from the way ours do. What's the best way t...
A. 25 March 2008: If you feel it, say it. People are saying wait 6 months to a year...if you feel like saying it earlier then say it. My boyfriend said he loved me after a WEEK; I don't remember exactly how many times he said it but definately by about 4 months he ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he's not there for me...
Q. I like this boy, his name is Chris and we've been going out a lot of times since we met but we kept on breaking up over and over again. Then on 3/13/08 we start going out and we were having sex and now I'm pregnant and he's not there. What should ...
A. 20 March 2008: So you sttarted going out on the 13th of March and having sex and now by the 20th March you are sure you are pregnant?!!!!... (read in full...)
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