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writes:I'm sixteen and I feel like I don't fit in a lot. I'm 5'11 and most of the boys are shorter than me. I hate going to dances. I went to my semi and wore shoes that made me 6'2. I'm freakishly tall. I like this boy and I think he likes me. I feel too insecure and shy to talk to him. Does anyone have any ideas on how to approach a boy and be flirty?
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle  +, writes (28 August 2008):
Hey I'm the same height as you and I don't like it ALL of my friends are short. I have one male friend who is 6 ft 3 and thats it the rest are well under 5 ft 5. So me and the tall guy stick out like sore thumbs, at least if we are out together it isn't so bad. I used to date a guy who was 6 ft 2 and he didn't like me wearing heels in case I was taller than him. My bf now is shorter than me; believe me it took a LOT of getting used to but now it doesn't really matter.
I don't hate being tall but I live in the UK and unfortunatley there is only ONE shop in my area where I can buy decent trousers/jeans from. They cost a minimum of £40, where if I was short it would be at least £10 chearper. Mens jeans in the same shop cost £15, I don't get it, being a tall women I am charged MORE money for jeans because of the extra length (but fat people don't pay more for the extra width GRRR-its the same principle) BUT mens jeans in the same length are well under half the price.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): hey!girl, do you know how many other girls there are out there way taller than you..like over 6 foot? lots!!I am 5"10 myself and I used to be the same as you.. I hated being tall and used to slouch a lot..now i have learned to love it! Some girls are happy with being small but other girls would KILL to have legs like yours!So embrace what you have got- be confident in yourself. Most guys love tall girls with long legs anyways!! Clothes look better on us because they hang better-thats why most Supermodels are very tall ;)as for flirting: just be yourself! have a laugh and smile :-) and guys will definetely will think your amazing! X
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (19 August 2008):
hey girl! You need to love yourself more, if a guy "problem" with you being tall, well boo hoo, it's his loss. You should walk tall with your head held high! Be proud of who you are!
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reader, daletom +, writes (19 August 2008):
I am a guy, moderately tall at 6'2, and I am sometimes self-conscious about my height in many different social situations - so it's not surprising to me that you feel like you do.
First off, you are NOT a freak and you are NOT unattractive. Many men prefer tall girls - I have given it some thought, and concluded that I could be easily attracted to a woman as much as 3 or 4 inches TALLER than I am! My son, about the same height and build as I am, recently dated a lady who was about 6'0, maybe 6'1. I thought she was beautiful; I don't think her height had anything to do with their breaking up. (A mismatch in intellectual ability probably did.)
Pay attention to your dress and grooming! People who are large, in either dimension, are more attractive and make a much more favorable impression if they are dressed up a bit. That doesn't mean a 24/7 regimen of high-fashion, it just means don't let things slide and try to maintain yourself a fraction of a notch more dressed than those around you. If you appear sloppy, or (especially!) of poor posture, the shortcoming is almost certainly magnified by your height.
You may find it easier to interact with people from a seated position. Your height is less apparent, and certainly less intimidating, if you are sitting down.
How tall is the boy you're interested in? At your age, you should keep in mind that you are probably at, or very close, to your adult height. Boys, however, are still growing - many don't reach their adult height until they're almost 20.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 You should visit Holland some time. The Dutch are the tallest race in the World, I'd say at least one in three women are your height or more (in the North at least), and the average male is over 6 foot!
That's no solution to your dilemma I know, but it might make you at least feel not so 'freakishly tall'.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I really can't relate to you. In fact, we're totally the opposite. I've always been one of the shortest of my friends. And all my life I have wished I was a bit taller. I'm 5'2" (I'm proud of the 2 inches!). Although I have been told my height is ideal for most guys (as they think they could protect me), it does bring some disadvantages.(Like being mistaken as weak, for example)
Now, don't worry too much about your height. Yes, some guys are put off by you being taller, but not all of them. I remember that when I was in high school, there was a girl as tall as you (maybe taller) who was girlfriend with the homecoming king. Yes, he was shorter than her, and their relationship was real (They had been going out for a year). So really don't give up on guys!
Now, I want you to read these articles:
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-with-a-Guy
http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting_2.htm
http://www.topdatingtips.com/flirting.htm
They give great advise on flirting and making the guy you like feel very attracted to you, despite your height.
But just remember, you're a beautiful person no matter what. And accept your height as it is and take the best you can get from it. Although I have no experience on how to get the best from being tall, I know how to do it with mine. With my youthful looks and short height, I can get free or reduced priced meals at most restaurants.
Anonymous reader:
How can you say to "forget" shorter guys than you? Being tall (and taller than you) doesn't show the personality of the guy. A guy may be tall and he may be strong enough to protect you, but he may as well be a complete jerk. And also, don't judge a book for it's cover. There are some "short" guys(I put it in quotes cause you have said you're pretty tall) can stand up a fight with a tall guy. I don't know how come you've never seen this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): first of all.. never be ashamed of who you are. and i think tall is one of the best things you can be. what short models do you know of? tall is beautiful :)
but trust me i understand you do not want to be towering over the boys. just try and wear flatter shoes. thats what i alwasy did. ihave always been one of teh tallest too. and you dont want shorter guys anyways. who needs them? you want a man that can protect you and look up to literally :) haha. and at dances just hang out with your friends and have fun. tahst all that matters.
try your hardest not to be nervous because there is no point. i know it hard to control. dont think that your not good enough. because you are more than good enough for any person. they should be honored by your presence. think in that way..because its true. just hold your head up high and be proud of who you are! put your insecurities to the side, because evryone is insecure no matter who we are. no one is perfect.
you should just make arrangements to hang out with him. just make sure you dont chase him. you should have him chase you a little too :) it makes it more interesting. i know one on one "dates" can be nerve racking so make it liek a group of friends hanging out. wehn you see him just be yourself
1.be smiley
2.be happy
3.be near him..but let him come to you too
4.when your talking just tap his shoulder lightly, to be flirty. liek so you make some contact.
5.look in his eyes (but not in a creepy way lol)
6.just try and be outgoing
7.and most importantly just be yourself!! you have nothing to be nervous about if you are with your friends. they will help you be less nervous :)
i hope this helped and good luck !!
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