Keen to hear your take on my weirdo neighbors!
Q. For anyone with an interest in psychology/human behavior, I'd LOVE to hear your opinions. I'm a sensitive person and usually have a pretty good gut instinct bout people. My new neighbors, a married 50's couple, put my stomach in knots! Firstl...
A. 18 February 2022: You say you and your partner are private and live a quiet life yet accuse your neighbours of being weird. You are the weird one. You sound obsessed by them and incredibly nosey.
Some people don't wasnt to get to know their neighbiurs so let t... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant by another man
Q. I have a problem with my wife I do not know how to deal with. We have a happy open relationship with one child, we have been married six years and my wife has an African American boyfriend. She recently told me she is pregnant I know the baby i...
A. 18 February 2022: Why get married if you chose to bring third parties into this relationship? You are making marriage a joke. This is what happens when you allow other men to sleep with your wife.
You'll have to take responsibility of this situation because ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels trapped and blames me
Q. Hi Aunts! My long-time live-in girlfriend of 10 years keeps saying that she feels trapped in our relationship and doesn't see a way out except for suicide. She says I am controlling and despite my many good qualities we are not compatible and s...
A. 18 February 2022: Alot of people like to complain but don't want to do anything about changing their lives. Why did you choose to support this woman for 10 years?
Once a woman gives up financial independance to a mate, it's over. You have to be prepared. If you'r... (read in full...)
I'm worried because I can no longer keep up with my husband sexually
Q. I don’t know why but I feel really insecure because I don’t want sex as much anymore and my husband may end up leaving me because of it. Last week during a boozy get together with my husband and another couple we got talking about our sex lives. I...
A. 25 January 2022: You may have a drop in your hormones. It's best to go see your doctor and have some test.
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Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 25 January 2022: No, they're not right. You handled the situation like a mature adult. She is your sister, not a friend so over reacting and man handling her would've caused more problems than it would've solved.
If your sister does it again then maybe react ac... (read in full...)
Have I already blown it with her?
Q. I'm really struggling with this girl I like. We've been on a few dates but because of how her last couple of boyfriends were with her she's got this impression that I'm the same and am gonna treat her like s*** basically. She's not said outright ...
A. 7 January 2022: Don't allow her to punish you for her past relationships. It's not your job to convince her you're a nice guy.
Don't waste your time. Find someone who is open and ready for a relationship with you.... (read in full...)
Will he ever reach out to me again?
Q. Hello, I was having some marital problems and became frustrated after nothing changed. I got close to a very good male friend. Last summer, we began having an affair. He was everything I had dreamed of and I fell deeply in love with him. I loved him ...
A. 7 January 2022: Move on. This is a result of having an affair. You expected him to feel the same way about you as you did for him. Now you know he wasn't who you thought he was. You were the married one, not him so technically he wasn't doing anything wrong. ... (read in full...)
His behaviour leaves me questioning his commitment to me
Q. Hi, Just wondering how I deal with a long time boyfriend with extreme anger issues. He throws things when he gets angry, like forks, pillows and his mobile phone. Tonight he threw a piece of pizza against my kitchen cupboards after we argue...
A. 7 January 2022: You're paying the price for being the other woman. What he does with you, he'll do to you.
You will not get peace of mind, stability or security from hom because of his unfaithfulness to his wife and you as his mistress.
My sister has spent... (read in full...)
I am beginning to wonder if my marriage or myself can be saved
Q. I moved from America to India to marry my husband 7 years ago. Things had been going well, but after almost 2 years in lockdown (very strict in Mumbai) I'm losing my mind. I don't speak any local languages and even if I did, I'd never have anyone ...
A. 23 November 2021: This marriage can't be saved. He is treating you like a traditional Indian wife. What did you expect when moving from America to India? Did you have a discussion on how your marriage or relationship would be when moving there? Sounds liek you ... (read in full...)
Is My girlfriend taking me for a fool?
Q. Hi guys, you’ll have to bear with me on this one. It’s complicated to say the least. Just before Christmas last year my girlfriend cheated on me with another man. She aborted his baby as well just to add to the mess. I found out back in September ...
A. 19 November 2021: If something doesn't makes sense then it's not true. You can't continue the relatioship if she isn't being 100% honest and transparent.
The first sign of difficulties and she has a fling? Is that what you want in a wife? She isn't emotiona... (read in full...)
Why did she act this way? A boyfriend back home?
Q. Hi everyone I just wonder what people think about a situation I've found myself in as my instincts are telling me one thing and I'd just like to know if anyone comes to the same conclusion. I met a girl a few months ago, we got along really ...
A. 19 November 2021: It doesn't matter the why the reason is. She told you from the beginning that she wouldn't be venturing into serious relationships because she will only be in the country for 12 months. She also told you she didn't like the idea of a relationship ... (read in full...)
My wife's obsession over bills and no sex has lead me to having an affair
Q. I'm a 33 year old man who's been married for 5 years. I am writing in embarrassed but I caused the problem and don't know how to get out. I've been having an affair with a 24-year-old woman since September and this has all been because of my ...
A. 15 November 2021: Blaming your wife for your affair is a low dog thing to do. No one is to blame for you having an affair. We are all in control of our actions. Your wife did not lead you by the hand into the arms of another woman. Grow up and stop acting like a ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a married man has feelings foe me?
Q. dear cupid, How can I tell if a married man has feelings for me or is just being kind and caring to a lonely, single, bereaved woman? We started chatting a year ago and are the same age. He "tested the waters" with me and I said no because ...
A. 15 November 2021: You've come to the wrong place seeking permission to cheat. You are missing the point of what being married means. It doesn't matter how nice he is to you or his grandchild. His true character should be based on him wanting a relationship with ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but interested in someone else for quite a while. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years now, however 3 years ago I signed up to some dating sites and on one I met this woman who lives near by, we talked a bit - obviously me hiding my relationship, and actually met a few times. There was a real ...
A. 12 November 2021: This woman off the dating site is smart. She knows you're hiding something and doesn't want to be in the middle of your secrets.
How horrible are you? Going on a dating site, yet in a relationship. End your relationship with your current ... (read in full...)
How can I love myself when I feel no reason to?
Q. Hi, I'm currently in a bad state of mind and not sure what to do about it. I've been single for the past 2 years, and been looking for the past 4 years. In that time I've only had one relationship, which lasted two months and ended because sh...
A. 12 November 2021: You are still so young to be thinking like this. Stop feeling like you need a relationship to validate who you are. Focus on yourself and take part in things that give you happiness. Find passion in what you do and sooner or later, someone ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure where I stand with this guy, both sexually and otherwise
Q. I've been seeing a guy 22, I'm 33. We clicked instantly with the same interests it made it easy to talk and get into hours of conversation at a time. He said he wanted to go out and we did and had a great time. We talked for hours and it felt very ...
A. 1 November 2021: You fell for his bullshit, hook line and sinker. He told you straight up he has attachement issues and has not felt anything emotionally for anyone in a long time. Why one arth would you sleep with him? Sex to woman is emotional. Did you think ... (read in full...)
Is a year and and 4 months enough time for a proposal? Am I being that crazy girlfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since summer 2020. We’ve been in a happy committed relationship. He just turned 27 this week and I am turning 28 in December. Since then we have made huge strides. We live together, own a dog together, pay ...
A. 1 November 2021: Did you make marriage a requirement before deciding to move in? You didn't. You moved in and this showed him that you are fine woth how things are.
Have a discussion with him and hear what he has to say on the matter. If, after all this tim... (read in full...)
My dad confessed he's been having an affair for 24 years and loves the woman more than my mom
Q. I'm 35, and have lived with my girlfriend for the past 7 years now. Moved from California to The Bronx, I'm originally from Huntington Park. I've changed names here for privacy reasons. But it's not me and my girlfriend's relationship which ...
A. 1 November 2021: I'm so sorry that your horrible father would involve you in this sordid secret he has kept all these years. I myself know all too well how these things can go.
My older sister who is now 40 has been with a married man for 22 years. She has wast... (read in full...)
Feelings that I don't know how to address
Q. Hi all thanks for taken a moment to read this. I just need some help with a situation I have found myself in. I have a boyfriend we have been together 3 years, we are okay together sometimes. I feel somewhat unloved and not cared for as I should b...
A. 1 November 2021: End your current realtionship first. It is clear you are not getting what you need from the relationship.
Have you discussed your problems with your boyfriend at all? Does he know how you feel? Have you shard with him what you need from him... (read in full...)
I think my husband of 4 years is gaslighting me
Q. Dear cupid I think my husband of 4 years is gaslighting me. Short back story, I came to this county to work, had two failed relations,get my husband thru work, dated for 2 years and married. At first everything was fine, then he started saying I...
A. 1 November 2021: It's clear that both of you are emotionally immature. You push him to do things he doesn't want to do (You admit that) he does it and it makes him unhappy. His response is to not talk to you and express how he feels which causes you anguish.
... (read in full...)
I'm worried I have outgrown him and the relationship
Q. Ok so i asked this question already and dont think i worded it very well. Context: - I have been with my partner 8 years. - We recently got married. - We live with his parents (Mum and Dad - Dad who constantly makes crude remarks and touch...
A. 25 October 2021: DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN IF YOU FEEL LIKE THIS. Be a grown up and talk to him about the issues you are having. Marriage is about working through difficult times together and finding a solution so you can move forward and be happy. If you have ... (read in full...)
Feel Like A Toy Should I Leave Him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over a year now, we made our relationship "official" a few months ago. We are in a long distance relationship, living in separate countries. He's never really planned anything for us to do together, like w...
A. 25 October 2021: Wait a sec. You're crying and feeling hurt over a virtual relationship? You've never met this guy, touched him, kissed him or seen him on video chat? He doesn't see you as a prioroty because you are not in his life (Reality).
Your mental i... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her
Q. My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her. What do i have to do....
A. 5 October 2021: What you have to do is invest in YOUR recovery. She doesn not deserve your pain or love. It will get easier, I promise.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend preoccupied with hobbies neglecting other things
Q. I just moved in with my girfriend and this is what i observe: she spends most hers days gardening or doing craft then doing nessesary everyday things like making dinner or cleaning. This is the situation: I moved into her house, i pay her ...
A. 5 October 2021: Move out. It's that simple. You resent her for having an easy life as you say. So what if she has 2 mortagage free houses? Why does that bother you? Does it bother you that she doesn't have to work as hard as you? You said you are paying her ... (read in full...)
My 8 year relationship ended for the second time and I am devastated. How do I take care of my autistic son in this state of depression?
Q. I am in a great deal of emotional pain and I feel depressed, to the point where I cannot even get out of bed. And I have a son to take care of. I NEED HELP. A few days ago an eight year relationship ended for me. The man I was with was married...
A. 1 October 2021: Deal with it because you didn't care that he was doing the same thing to his wife while he was galivanting with you. My sister has been a mistress for 22 years, 2 kids and is fat and her looks have gone. That is what happens when you have a ... (read in full...)
My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now.
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now. He talks only when he need something essential from me, do not respond when I talk. Eats if I cook, refuse to sit with me, sleeps on the same bed but pushes me away i...
A. 20 September 2021: Wow. He is behaving terribly towards you. I was once in this situation. My previous partner who I was with would stop talking to me for the most silly things. I had a work event which went on until 10pm. 1 hour more than usual and I got home at 11. ... (read in full...)
How does a first time father prepare for triplets?
Q. My wife is pregnant with triplets. We are prepared with all the stuff they will need like diapers, bottles, clothes, beds, etc, but I am not mentally prepared at all. Twins run in her family but I never thought we'd have triplets. Especially not t...
A. 13 September 2021: Well done for reaching out and being honest that you don't feel mentally ready to be a father of triplets. Unfortunatley there is no book to help being a parent after they are born.
But there are parenting classes that you can take, councell... (read in full...)
Morning sickness has left me completely exhausted! Help me please!
Q. Hi everyone I am about to turn 32 and I’m 8 weeks pregnant with our first child. Although I knew pregnancy wouldn’t be easy, I didn’t realise I would be so sick! We didn’t plan on getting pregnant but I stopped the pill after 10 years for blood ...
A. 10 September 2021: Smell alcohol wipes. It's great for stopping the feeling pf nausea.... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and dissapointed by my family
Q. I feel betrayed and dissapointed by my family. I'm not sure is it me or what i'm doing wrong that i deserve this kind of treatment. Basically it's favouritism just because i'm a daughter and not a son that develop into some kind of trauma that ...
A. 6 September 2021: I can understand how this feels and wether you should keep contact with your family. You have to ask yourself one question. Do you want to be happy and free from toxic people? Unfortunaltey, the toxic people in your life are you family.
I had... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if what he says is true or is he just using excuses not to see me
Q. I wrote on here asking for advice on dating a man with children and where do I fit in at. I’m really starting to think I need to walk away from this situation. I met him for a few hours and he told me his first ex has being diagnosed with c...
A. 6 September 2021: If a man always says his ex partners were the problem then the problem is actually him. Why would you settle for a man who has children to different women? None that he married.
You'll never be a priority so walk away and save yourself from a p... (read in full...)
Is it selfish that she organised this party knowing our wedding will only be a few days later?
Q. My partner and I are getting married in a few weeks time. His sister has organised a birthday party for her kids a few days before our wedding and invited 30 kids and lots of the guests who will be attending our wedding. We are worried that if one ...
A. 6 September 2021: Only your wedding is important to you. Stop expecting others to stop their plans just because your wedding is in a few weeks. Those kids were born before you even decided to get married so why on earth do you think that their parents should ... (read in full...)
Guy has criminal background. When do you let the past be the past?
Q. Over the course of a year, I have fallen in love with a man who occassionally comes to service my work place’s building. He has also developed feelings for me which we both recently admitted to. The characteristics he has exhibited...
A. 25 August 2021: Everyone has that one thing that is a deal breaker. It sounds to me that him having a criminal background is your deal breaker. It also sounds to me that all the info you have about him, comes from him. It sounds like he brags alot about himself, ... (read in full...)
Is a 17 year age gap to much?
Q. Is a 17 year age gap too big? I’ve being dating a man who’s 17 year older than me. He’s got three kids to two different women. He’s never been married and I don’t know what went wrong with the two ex’s. It’s early days so I don’t want to ask too ...
A. 16 August 2021: Why would you want to be with a man who has 3 children to 2 different women and has never married any of those women? That in itself is a red flag.
You will never be a priority to this man because his children will come first then the mothers ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is grieving the loss of his mother and has pushed me away
Q. Hi I would love some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend who is grieving and has pushed me away. He told me he needs time to deal with the death of his mother who was very ill for sometime didn't die suddenly and says he needs peace and quiet ...
A. 11 August 2021: Consider the relationship over and move on with your life. Don't wait around for him. He has lost his mother and he's focusing on his grief and family.
Do what he asks.
I bet in the near future that he will get in touch with you wanting to r... (read in full...)
My husband makes disgusting insinuations that our son isn't his!
Q. Hello So my husband and I have been together over 4 years. We share a son together. My husband makes remarks that really hurt and offend me. He implies his son isn't his. I have been faithful throughout this journey and he has not. I'...
A. 2 August 2021: Do a DNA test and show and settle the problem he has.... (read in full...)
I broke with my ex. Why do I want him to be sorry
Q. I finally broke up with my narcissist boyfriend. He was mean, controlling and made me miserable. He wanted me to gain weight and get thick. He never helped with the baby financially. He called me names. He never bought me anything. He was mean ...
A. 9 October 2019: You cannot make someone feel something they can't. Learn from this. Never bow down to the demands of a man who wants you to change just so he is happy.
Move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Was I too harsh on my boyfriend when he suggested anal sex?
Q. I flipped out at my boyfriend for suggesting we have anal sex and now I feel really guilty. Did I overreact? We’re both 17. Last night he was round at my house and we were about to have normal sex but I realised I’d run out of condoms. So instead we ...
A. 9 October 2019: He is a boy that is inexperienced in anal sex. It's not just about ramming it up there. It takes technique and relaxation skills to prepare the other person for that kind of sex.
Most important, both of you need to be on the same page sexually... (read in full...)
Am I being an egomaniac or does this matter?
Q. Hi, I am a 38 year old female and have been dating a 45 year old man for 4 months. In that time 2.5 months has been long distance. We were recently having a conversation and I mentioned that a long time ago I was dating someone who a lot of people ...
A. 9 October 2019: You are being an egomaniac who has double standards. So, it's ok for you to mention how gorgeous your ex was but he can't? He said the same thing you said, just a different way.
And why are you dogging on the ex's looks and intellect. You kno... (read in full...)
Help me find peace living with my nagging mom
Q. My mom brings out the worst in me. She complains about Everything from doing her own laundry, cleaning her own house and overworking herself even when she is not in good condition, making her condition worse. I was recently left by my fiance who is ...
A. 27 September 2019: Why do you think it's the responsibility of another man to put a roof over your head?
Do it yourself.
If you chose to move back in with your mother with your child and I assume rent free, then you can't really complain. You just have to suc... (read in full...)
His disastrous ex keeps popping up and I can’t figure out why I’m being called jealous and insecure!?!
Q. the guy im crazy in love with has finally filed for his divorce and custody. his 12 year relationship, from an outsiders perspective i suppose, was pure insane. she cheated on him constantly with men and women, which is appearant just by looking ...
A. 20 September 2019: I couldn't finish your drawn out story. It is clear that he is manipulating you into thinking his ex is the problem. Come on, he knew those pics and vids were in his phone. He saved them on the drive for gods sake. To enjoy? maybe. For you t... (read in full...)
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