She's flirting with my boyfriend right in front of me! What should I do?
Q. I have been feeling very sad and stressed out lately. I have a boyfriend of two years. For a while now, there is this girl who's mutual friends with my boyfriend and his friends. I've known her for a while and she has always had a problem with me ...
A. 28 March 2013: Dear OP, I know this is tough but don't, don't play that game with her. That's what she is after, getting you upset which could lead to fights with your boyfriend and possibly a split. Smile and be happy, dont tense up around her, its an act ... (read in full...)
Am I too nice to my boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend going on two years now, and everything (for the most part) is going well. But I'm starting to think I'm too nice to him, and that he's either taking me for granted, or maybe sees me as being too "easy" or even boring. ...
A. 28 March 2013: Dear OP, if you are naturally a caregiver then thats alright because thats who you are BUT if you are faking the caregiver personality to get a ring on your finger then you might come across as being too eager to please.
Have you encounte... (read in full...)
How do we motivate the crowd when we rap?
Q. How do I go with this?? Well am a rapper and me and my friend rap a lot, single I rap in my school with my school friends and peeps scream he also does that in his school too. Well lately we have both been rapping together and we got crowd in a ...
A. 18 March 2013: Watch some christian rappers performing live on youtube, get some ideas from that. Then rehearse, rehearse, rehearse until you can do your rap in your sleep. Goodluck!!!... (read in full...)
We had a disagreement and now he won't speak to me or contact me. He's never done this before!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing a man for two years now. He seemed in the past few weeks to be needling me for truthful feelings. About a week ago we got into a small argument. I said some things and he did as well, which has happened before... After th...
A. 18 March 2013: Dear OP, give him space and time. You have apologised and taken time out to try mend the fences. Now take a step back and let your apologies sink in. Its pretty normal for couples to argue but try by all means not to spurt out sh*t you cant ... (read in full...)
Is my BF genuinely getting a divorce or keeping as his mistress
Q. My bf's story...he met this girl she got pregnant they got married and before the baby was born she cheated on him, he tried to stay with her for the baby but he just couldn't deal with her anymore so now they are going through divorce and soon they ...
A. 18 March 2013: Dear OP, you are being told one side of the story here, his version, I am sure if you were to sit down and chat with his wife she would tell you a different angle of how things unfolded. My advice is listen to what he says but watch his ACTIONS for ... (read in full...)
He unfriended me for no good reason
Q. Good day to all my lovely agony aunts and uncles. Hope you all have been well. :) Tbh, this is more of a friendship-love problem instead of a relationship one, but it would be nice if I could still get help. Recently, one of my closest friends ...
A. 13 March 2013: He probably liked you more that just a friend and the fact that you have a boyfriend now doesnt go down well with Tom so he got upset. By deleting you off the social networks its about self-preservation, he doesnt want to see pics of you with ... (read in full...)
Should I just end things so he can have a happy relationship with his daughter?
Q. I'm dating a guy with a 3 year old daughter. Ever since we've been dating its been nothing but drama between me, him and the child's mother. She has not allowed him to see his daughter since we've been dating. She say's that he is picking me over ...
A. 3 March 2013: Dear OP, you must bear in mind that the baby mama's behaviour indicates a very bitter, jeolous and angry woman. There are some people who just cant let go when they have been hurt. She wants to purnish your boyfriend and when you leave she has won. ... (read in full...)
Major drama with my former FWB - Am I wrong for destroying his bicycle? Secondly should I return it to his mother's house and ask for my friend's bike back?
Q. I did something terrible, yet I don't regret the pain. I had a friend I was kind of intimate with on and off for a few years and now we've completely hate each other even though he denies and says I make stories. We're parellel, I mean 1stly he's ...
A. 1 March 2013: Dear OP, its understandable you were hurt but you dont go around destroying peoples property when they show you that they dont like you. Yes his actions make his sound like an immature jerk but you are equally as immature and silly as he is. Sorry ... (read in full...)
Why does she take days to respond to my texts? is she playing hard to get or is she disinterested?
Q. There's this girl I really like whom I met about 4 months ago. We see each other only once a week along with a group. I am friends with her sister but not too close to her (although we get along great). At first, she use to reply to my texts in a t...
A. 10 February 2013: Dear OP, why dont you just call her and ask her out on a date. If she is interested she will say yes if not she will give you some soppy excuse why she cant go either way you will have your answer.
Texting in my opinion is wack way of showing ... (read in full...)
What do we have together? He will not confirm if we are in a relationship.
Q. Hi cupids any chance of a little help?? Been seeing a guy for 5 months now, it’s been ok-ish. I've began to fall for him and I’m not sure I’m doing the right thing allowing myself to as he's so complicated. He’s got a lot going for him, he ...
A. 6 February 2013: Dear OP, here is what I have learned from past relationships. when I invest time, love, energy, care etc into a relationship I believe that I should receive the exact from my partner. If my feelings are not reciprocated then I know that he is not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: Dear OP grow a pair and kick that woman to the curb. She doesnt love you, you are her safety net, her spare wheel if you may. She knows she can get away with anything because you genuwinely care, but she is a Jezebel. You will never have a peace of ... (read in full...)
Was that a nice way of blowing me off? Or does he actually want to see me again?
Q. So I went on a date with this guy the other night. We had a nice dinner and a few too many drinks. We ended up making out a lot and I decided that I shouldn't drive so I slept at his place. We slept in the same bed and he wanted to get physical but ...
A. 4 February 2013: Dear OP dont text, call him instead and tell him you wanted to know how he was blah blah just be casual and relaxed, as a matter of fact smile when you call him. The purpose of calling is to hear if he is keen to see you again or not. If he sounds ... (read in full...)
I'm 16. Is it wrong for me to have unprotected sex, already had a miscarriage and want to get pregnant?
Q. ok so heres the deal...me and my bf have been dating for almost a year now...we stated having sex 5 months after we began dating...but we NEVER used condom...we are 2 highschool students and he is to graduate this year...i have suffered a miscarrage ...
A. 3 February 2013: Dear OP, why arent you and your boyfriend using protection? Sleeping with your boyfriend is not a crime, not using protection that's wrong especially at your age and from your post it seems like you already know this. You and your boyfriend a... (read in full...)
I thought we were almost BF/GF and now it's just a gray area. What should I do?
Q. I was acquaintances with this guy for 2 years. Three months ago, he said he wanted to get to know me , and we started going to dinner , drinks etc. After a month of this, he went away on holiday for 2 months. I took a weeks vacation and met him. It ...
A. 2 February 2013: Dearest you feel confused with your situation that’s pretty normal. But if he hasn’t initiated a date in the last 3weeks then it I think it’s an indication that he just isn’t that into you. Your therapist is right, a man who is looking for a commit... (read in full...)
I feel as if I go out of my way for everyone and no-one can be bothered when it comes to me.
Q. Its' my birthday today. A milestone. A special one. I've had a tear in my eye most of the day – not because I have reached 40 but because I feel so let down and now I'm feeling that maybe I'm being unreasonable, selfish and ungrateful. Situat...
A. 1 February 2013: Dear OP, I think it is better to give and not expect much in return. If you do stuff for people expecting them to reciprocate with the same enthusiasm as you then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. It would have been sweet if you ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him in a few weeks. Does that mean he wasn't interested?
Q. I met someone a few months ago. He is a lot older than me (15 years) and when I met him he was just finishing a relationship and we had a few dates. We spent the night together a few weeks ago but he wasn't sure about it because of just coming out ...
A. 1 February 2013: Dearest in the future try not to sleep with a man who is not offering you a commitment especially when you want something serious. Chances are you get emotionally attached and he will tell you he is isnt ready for that, then you will just get hurt. ... (read in full...)
Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?
Q. Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...
A. 29 January 2013: I will agree with the anonymous reader who said it could a cultural thing. In some non-western cultures its perfectly normal for the woman to stay at home, cook, clean and take care of the kids. And yes if she is doing these things it is considered ... (read in full...)
Do nice guys really finish last?
Q. Hello. I know I'm a very nice person at a great heart, because towards everyone I treat them well, except those who are not worth being nice to or who pissed me off. I am smart, kind and being sensitive is my weakness. I have researched over ...
A. 28 January 2013: There is nothing wrong with being a caring, sweet and kind guy. However, i have realised the the nice guys have a tendency of seeing the girl they like and not making a move because they are too sensitive and scared of rejection hence they finish ... (read in full...)
How can I stop hoping my ex will get back to me?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams last summer. We hit it off quickly and it wasn't long before we changed our status on facebook to 'in a relationship'. We live in different towns, but would meet up a couple of times a week. Then we stayed at each other's ...
A. 28 January 2013: Dear OP, i am sorry that you are going through such a horrible time. But from my own experience once the person you love decides to move onto the next relationship and pretty much leave you in the cold, they are heartless and spinless and really ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating and insecurity
Q. Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
A. 28 January 2013: Well I suppose a hello here and there is harmless. But you have to be wary.
Assuming you are in a serious relationship now, how would you feel if your boyfriend stayed in touch with his exs, if they called and texted each other or he still ke... (read in full...)
On off ex boyfriend won't stop contacting me even when I've told him to stop. There's another woman in the picture. What's he playing at?
Q. i was in a relationship with this guy. at first things were okay.. then we started having fights because of various reasons. i had also been talking to my ex - just talking btw... could that have also messed the situation up? ( because he kinda ...
A. 27 January 2013: Dear OP, he keeps calling you because you are entertaining his calls. Stop all contact with him, that means blocking him on all social networks and delete/block his number if you genuinely, i repeat genuinely want to move on, just cut the cord. Dont ... (read in full...)
He stopped replying to my messages what should I do?
Q. Hey guys,,so i met this guy in our new neighbourhood and he seemed very nice! He's so cute and i began taking interest. So i friended him on facebook and we began talking but after a while,he stopped replying my inboxes! I sent like 4 to him and ...
A. 17 January 2013: Dear OP it could be his way of telling you he is not interested in a friendship or maybe he just isnt that into you. STOP inboxing him and take his silence as hint. If he wants too chat he will get in touch but dont get your hopes up. Goodluck. ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating and insecurity
Q. Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...
A. 9 January 2013: I just recently came across your post and I would have to say I agree with the last part of your article. I think having a boyfriend or girlfriend that overtly compares you to an ex whether in a good or bad light is a no-no and it brings about ... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 9 January 2013: If she is looking for a serious and long term commital relationship of which your Ukranian friend is not in a position to offer her because of the colour of her skin and the prejudices that this guy and his culture has against blacks then what is ... (read in full...)
Is there absolutely anyway I'll be able to get over my ex and move past what she did to me? What am I supposed to do with my life now?
Q. So I dated a girl for 3 years, invested everything I had into the relationship: my time, my money (albeit we started dating when I was only 15 years of age) and she absolutely drove me into the ground. I found out halfway through the relation...
A. 28 December 2012: Dear OP, you seem very angry and bitter and who can blame you? You loved someone whole heartedly (100%) but that person did not give you back their all they treated you badly. Thats the downside of love each person has had to experience at some poi... (read in full...)
Please help me get him back :(
Q. there's this guy that I dated almost a month. we went to highschool together but we never talked . but we have mutual friends and that's how it all started. it started off as just hooking up and then I told him how I felt so he asked me out this is ...
A. 27 December 2012: You know there is no harm in taking things slow. Some guys are just not into public display of affection it could be a cultural/ thing. You mention that he is black, is he African or maybe religious? Culturally the really mature and serious guys... (read in full...)
How do I tell this shy guy that I like him?
Q. Basically, I've been at Uni since September. And there's this guy there who I really like, and I think he likes me, but we're both quite shy (a reason I've never been good at the guy thing) and I know that if I don't tell him how I feel then I doubt ...
A. 26 December 2012: Hi OP. Since you guys get to see each other almost everyday why don't you casually ask to hang out with him or something, you could suggest you go to see the latest movie or some local band or sports event or something. You might have to take the ... (read in full...)
I invested so much into this guy but he has dumped me for his sister's friend! What should I do?
Q. I am in relationship with a guy, he had a problem in school so he left. we see each other on hols and had sex, so many times he confessed his love to me and i went for it. i was happy until he sent me a msg on whatsapp that he is in love with his ...
A. 19 December 2012: Oh dear OP what an awful time you must be going through. I truly feel for you, but the truth of the matter is SOME boys not necessarily all of them say all kinds of things to get sex. Yes they will even tell you that they love you when they don... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend only sees me when he has nothing better to do!
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. The problem is it seems like he only sees me when he has nothing better to do. I cannot get him to agree to do anything at the weekends because he wants to wait to see what else is happening, plus ...
A. 19 December 2012: Hi OP. Am sorry to have to say this but unfortunately it sounds like your boyfriend is taking you for granted, like oldbag mentioned at this stage of your relationship he shouldnt be acting like this. Maybe another heart to heart talk with him will ... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer light skinned girls?
Q. Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything ...
A. 11 December 2012: Sorry to have to say this to you OP but the world we live in is infested with shallow minded people. Their definition of beauty, for a long time has been dictated by those glossy magazines and other media forms, and has created a society that is ... (read in full...)
How do I feel confident when my crush said I was unaatractive?
Q. I'm not pretty and i don't think any guys will love me because i'm ugly. Every girl that i've have known who had a boyfriend were pretty and then there's me who wants a boyfriend and to know what it feels like to be loved. People find me ugly ...
A. 11 December 2012: Dear OP, its pretty sad that your crush told you, you were unattractive, but any guy who opens his mouth to say crap like that lacks manners and has a bad personality, just thank your lucky stars cause you dont need a guy like that around you and he ... (read in full...)
Is it best to just forget this guy? I know I deserve better
Q. I am legally separated from my husband and will be going to be divorced soon. I have made plenty of friends online for the last 3 years. One of them, a guy and I have become quite close. We have been chatting on skype for 2 weeks. There was a l...
A. 9 December 2012: Hey OP. Am sorry to have to say this but it just seems like this guy does not have the same level of interest as you do. He might have liked you before the maid joke but really that isnt something a mature person would take to heart. His attit... (read in full...)
How do I get over my past abusive relationship?
Q. I'm going to try to shorten the backstory as much as I can, but it is a bit of a long one. I was sexually, emotionally, and psychologically abused by my first boyfriend, first everything really. He coerced me into everything but intercourse, i ...
A. 18 November 2012: Oh dear, you are so young and yet you have gone through so much hurt. Have you spoken to anyone about the abuse? I would suggest you talk to someone you can trust and who is supportive. Getting over abuse takes a while, unfortunately there is no ... (read in full...)
One of my best male friends has cut m,e out of his life, because of is new girlfriend.
Q. I'm feeling really down and lost. a male friend of mine, who was also one of my best friends has cut me out his life. Everything about the situation is getting me down from the fact he wont speak to me, the fact he doesnt seem to be the person he ...
A. 17 November 2012: From your post its pretty obvious you probably had a thing for him but dont want to admit it or at least thats how it seems. But now that he has broken all channels of communication with you, dont you think its time to back off and let bygones be ... (read in full...)
My friend uses guys for sex and sperm to have their kids. She then purposefully drives them away!
Q. Please forgive me for the length of this letter. I have been friends with this girl for almost 6 years. She used to be so awesone, sweet, positive, energetic and excited about life, and now she is the complete opposite of all that. Let me tell...
A. 16 November 2012: You know what just cut this woman out of your life. She is 28 and she is an adult who is apparently making bad decisions for herself, but thats her choice. I am sure as a loving and caring friend you have given her the best advice you can give but ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get together for sex - does she really want more??
Q. i've been seperated from my girlfriend for about a month now. we split due to differences between us. for example, she's very high strung, i'm very laid back. she's very conservative with how she wants to raise kids (which we both decided we would ...
A. 14 November 2012: Thats strange, for a women you claim to be conservative she is being pretty liberal about sex???
But anyway, you guys still have feelings for each other and throwing sex into the mix after your break up might complicate the 'letting go' process.... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with PMS
Q. I have PMS and a week before every period I suffer with terrible anxiety, irritability and a short fuse, I can get extremely angry if anything pisses me off, where normally I am well controlled. Does anybody have any suggestions of how I can imp...
A. 7 November 2012: I get very anxious and snappy a few days before my period, but since trying chamomile tea and yoga, it sought of calms me down and reduces the symptoms. Maybe you could try that out.... (read in full...)
If I become a Chartered Accountant will it turn off girls? Will they see me as boring?
Q. I'm already a bit shy and not good with girls. I'm trying to figure out what do to as a career, and I'm considering becoming a Chartered Accountant as I'm good at it and it does pay exceedingly well. But I'm worried if it will turn girls off. ...
A. 24 October 2012: Its important that you pick a career that you love, are passionate about and will give you fulfilment rather than worrying what girls will think of you.
However, Chartered Accounting is hard work, you will spend many hours at the office but the ... (read in full...)
I am seeking people's opinions of my actions in this failed relationship. What do you think?. I did some bad things, so did she.
Q. so i started seeing a girl as friends id heard a lot about her ( she's easy,been with this person,been with that person etc etc) but i didn't care because i make up my own mind about people and me and this girl got on great so after about a month of...
A. 24 October 2012: This relationship didnt bring out the best in you so its best to just let go for good. The woman just isnt relationship material, you might have feelings for each other, but it seems she has too many issues for you to handle. Just reflect on the ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what's going on, she's done a complete 180 from being over the top, to completely ignoring me!
Q. Well where to begin. Basically, I met a girl who at first appeared very forward shall we say, in her feelings for me. I received many flattering (although false) compliments from her, and she was quite touchy feely, a little possesive, alway...
A. 31 March 2012: Sorry to say this but it looks like she was playing some mind games with you and she isnt that into you. Just ignore her as well and stop contacting her and move on. ... (read in full...)
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