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*upidlover89
writes:Hi, I have been seeing a man for two years now. He seemed in the past few weeks to be needling me for truthful feelings. About a week ago we got into a small argument. I said some things and he did as well, which has happened before... After that I asked to see him and for two days he gave very short answers, something he does not usually do. Now for a whole week he would not speak to me at all. Ive called texted a millions times. I have begged him to tell me whats going on, ive told him how I felt and ive apologized for any wrong doing. I even said I was ok with him not wanting to see me again, but I needed for him to tell me if that was it. Still no response. I have begged him! This is something he has never done. He is a very kind hearted person, and I am confused about his behavior. What could be going on? What should I do? Im so hurt and I want to tell him how I really feel. Is he doing this for a reaction or to teach me a lesson? Did he do it to get my real feelings out of me? I am very guarded.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (18 March 2013):
 Dear OP, give him space and time. You have apologised and taken time out to try mend the fences. Now take a step back and let your apologies sink in. Its pretty normal for couples to argue but try by all means not to spurt out sh*t you cant take back cause you will go too far and push away the person who loves you. (Sorry have to get into preacher mode on you). He is obviously sensitive to whatever you said or maybe he is fed up with the arguments who knows. Your words can be your worst enemy and you have to watch what you say because the wrong words can make you unlovable in an instant. As for damage control back off a bit give him space and time. If after a couple of days he hasnt called, call and ask him out on a date in a very calm manner, dont ask him why he hasnt called blah blah blah and attack him when you call. If he turns you down then you know you are pretty much in the red and he is letting you go. If not then take that date as an opportunity to discuss your issues openly and honestly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): He probably had enough of you. Probably you've hurt him too many times and now he is done with you. Why do you think he's doing this just to get a reaction from you or teach you a lesson? Is that what you've done to him in the past? Why else would you assume this to be a likely explanation for his behavior unless you've done it often before? If so it would be very telling about how you've treated him in the past and thus why he feels so negative about you now. Just leave him alone and consider this relationship as over.
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