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Why does she take days to respond to my texts? is she playing hard to get or is she disinterested?

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Question - (10 February 2013) 5 Answers - (Newest, 10 February 2013)
A male Canada age 36-40, *hippymunk writes:

There's this girl I really like whom I met about 4 months ago.

We see each other only once a week along with a group. I am friends with her sister but not too close to her (although we get along great).

At first, she use to reply to my texts in a timely manner but recently she doesn't reply until 2-3 days later.

I get that she could be uninterested in me, but she would take this long to reply even for things we arranged a week prior.

For example, I asked for her help in buying something (since she had much more knowledge than I) and she agreed to help me. But when I text her the plan, she doesn't text back, even though it's drawing really close to the date we settled on.

Now I know she isn't "too busy" because her sister tells me that she's at home just sitting on the couch all the time.

I also know that she knows I'm interested in her. So, is she just trying to avoid me? Playing hard to get? or what?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (10 February 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntare you sure she got the text? texts are sent as piggy back packages on other data on the network... that's why texting is so cheap.... it's not a primary important item for most cell phone companies... therefore you can't always count on texts getting through... important information such as MAKING plans should be left to phone calls, face to face conversations or in a pinch... email you can verify delivery... you can't verify she got the text so for all you know she's thinking your a jerk for not finalizing the plans.

texting is no way to have a relationship. Pick up the phone and call her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013):

If she knows you are interested it's probably not a good sign. She's possibly holding back to try to keep a friendship with you, without giving you false hope that she wants anything more.

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A female reader, chinana Romania +, writes (10 February 2013):

chinana agony auntDear OP, why dont you just call her and ask her out on a date. If she is interested she will say yes if not she will give you some soppy excuse why she cant go either way you will have your answer.

Texting in my opinion is wack way of showing interest, as a matter of fact I have a two week rule. If i meet a guy and give him my number and all he does is text and never calls then I will assign a small percentage of my time into chatting with him. Call her and get to know her face to face and stop texting like some coward. Goodluck.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (10 February 2013):

Most people are done playing hard to get at 4 months. You should accept the reality: you guys aren't meant to be.

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A female reader, XoLove07 United States +, writes (10 February 2013):

XoLove07 agony auntMaybe you should try not texting her for a while and see if she texts you instead. If she does, then she WAS playing hard to get but if she doesn't, then you'll know that she doesn't care. And if she's not interested, then you're better off without her anyway! Hope this helps! :)

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