My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep....is it rape or "silent sex"?
Q. my husband had sex with me when I was drunk and asleep - I woke up as he pulled out and was climbing off me, cleaning himself up with tissues, I have confronted him and he says he thought I was awake - there is no way he thought I was awake as we ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi Hunny! Im sorry you had to go though this, and i hoped you heal up from it. i agree with you that the word "rape" has tainted the responses here, and if it wasn't in your origional questioning it was at least implied. You said you were upset ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to close a 27 yr old wound she rec'd from her ex-husband!!
Q. My wife of 10 years has informed me that four days ago she made contact with her first husband. They were married for 12 days when they went to sleep in the same bed as his best friend. Sometime during the night she woke up and thought she was kiss...
A. 2 April 2008: I can see that there are two sides to this story too.
The wife wants to get together with her old husband to “close old wounds” while the husband us trying to stop it.
If the wound hasn’t healed in 27 years one quick personal visit w... (read in full...)
Do I make men behave this way or I just "pick" men like this, the aggresive and controlling type? Is this reason enough to leave them?
Q. I recently went on holiday with my boyfriend (3 year relationship) and it went badly - we argued and at one point he moved towards me in such a way I thought he was going to hit me. I threw a cushion at him and he shoved me backwards I fell on the ...
A. 2 April 2008: Men as a whole are more aggressive, its their nature..its the testosterone thing...so i will excuse some of that. But if he ever does strike you, I would try to get him out of my life. I like men who are aggressive and strong, but not when it gets ... (read in full...)
You can't be 100% happy and completely satisfied all the time, can you?...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 3 months. We are still in that 'honeymoon' period, and I really fancy him, physically and personality wise. But sometimes I have doubts. Is this normal? You can't ever be 100% happy and completely satisfied all the...
A. 2 April 2008: No you cant ne 100 percent happy! You can be 90 percent happy and compromise on the ten percent. I dont think even the best of relationships everybody sees eye to eye and is perfect. thats why you have to put some effort in making a relationship ... (read in full...)
Her fling "meant nothing", how do I come to terms with it?
Q. Hi hope you can help. I met my current girl friend 3 years ago. We were friends for about 4 months, talking regularly by email, telephone and meeting up. We had both experieced breakups and had been honest about our pasts and i felt there was a re...
A. 21 March 2008: Im sorry about this hunny. I know this had to hurt. Her email said everything you need to know. This fling was bigger than she admited to you and clearly you are "second place" for her. If it was just a onetime thing, a little sex and nothing ... (read in full...)
Wife is begging me for "Rough Sex" and wants me to call her a "Whore", how do I do it?
Q. I read the gentlemen's question who said his wife wanted rough sex, and begged for it even... but he was guilty. Well, my wife is begging me for "rough sex" more and more. She also said to me that she would like for me to call her a "Whore and a ...
A. 19 March 2008: if it isnt rough it isnt right! i dont know how i can tell you to be rough...thats something to judge in the monent i guess. Just follow her directions as you go along is the best i can say. slap her butt while you go doggy style, fuck her like ... (read in full...)
I'm homeschooled - and worried about not meeting new people, one of which should be my BF!
Q. i want a bf but i'm homeschooled so i don't have any guy friends i want true love,i want somebody who will like me for me,i'm 12 and i'm not getting any younger so please help?!thank you...
A. 19 March 2008: 12 and not getting any younger!...well, I would say you havent gotten much much older yet to worry about boyfriends! Are you kidding!
But if you want to meet new friends..girls too, you should try to get involved in groups and activiti... (read in full...)
My ex has always cheated and now I like his best friend! Should I go for it?
Q. well okay so i was with this guy we were together 4 years and we have a lil girl together but the whole time we were together he cheated on me this last time it was with my sister yes my sister but thats a whole nother subject ok so i have this ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hunny your question leaves me breathless and dizzy. But aure...go for it and try to hook up with this guy. He sounds like a good guy for you and it could be good. ... (read in full...)
Worried about sizes... and the future.
Q. okay, im overweight, and i have a 4 and half or 5 inch penis(its hard to measure...), i'm 17 and i get made fun of by these other kids i know for being a virgin, but i have to know am i too small? will there really be someone out there who except...
A. 19 March 2008: hey hunny....
Your small penis is not the only way to pleasure a woman. There's oral and other ways to make a girl happy. So stop letting it hold you back. basically girls dont fall in love with a man's dick but the man himself, whatever the size... (read in full...)
Is a "blow job" considered sex? Do girls do this for fun?
Q. I am curious as to why so many teenage girls, and maybe even some older girls and women, don't think a blowjob is sex. Do any of you girls or women here think a blowjob isn't sex? If so, why do you think that? And if a blowjob isn't sex, would...
A. 17 March 2008: Oh yes a blow job is defintely sex, and i thnk its as much sex as fucking. Ive done blowjobs with guys I know for fun, but i would still call it sex, anyone who doesnt think its sex is fooling themselves. a handshake is a handshake, and a kiss may ... (read in full...)
I thought it was a girls-night-out, drank too much, and woke up next to a naked man...what should I do about telling my husband?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. My husband went away for a business trip that extended into last Saturday (because he had a late Friday meeting, and he was several hours away). My in-laws took the kids for the weekend for a visit. My girlfriend invited me ...
A. 15 March 2008: Well, hunny, I’ll say this first: if you just woke up to a naked guy after a long night of drinking, something did happen. You didn’t mention if your clothes were off and maybe because they were still on you think nothing happened….is that why you ... (read in full...)
We've been together 2 months and he's cheated on me. How do I know for sure he won't do this again?
Q. Recently my boyfriend admited that he cheated on me. I forgave him after a period of time. Up to now I am not having any trust issues but I am worried that it may happen again we have only been together for 2 months but I really like him and I think ...
A. 12 March 2008: Cheating doesnt count after knowing someone two months. You barely know each other. When I started dating my boyfriend I slept with a few guys even before I got intimate with my guy. I just didnt want to rush into sex with him , but still needed ... (read in full...)
I want him for nothing other then pure passion, but could we remain friends?
Q. ok i need help!! i'm with my man for years now and i love him to bits don't get me wrong. but there's this guy who's in the same situation as me and we both want eachother soooo much, just for sex like! we always tell eachother that it cant happ...
A. 12 March 2008: You cant deny the fact that you want to fuck each other, so I say go for it. there's no harm in just sex, as long as you have your head together. You may up really liking him then its bye bye boyfreind...oh well. But dont be shy, be adults and ... (read in full...)
Married, and I fancy this other guy, I moved away but cant shake that feeling,help!
Q. I have a problem...a couple really. Firstly, I am married to this really lovely, steady guy. He loves me, we have kids. We get along well, and he is truly my best friend. We have a lousy sex life, but that's not really anyone's fault - more that ...
A. 12 March 2008: Well i think this younger guy is just what you need since your sex life with your husband is going nowhere. Have you ever tried the direct approach...just go up to him and tell him you want to fuck him. Most guys do not refuse sex if they are asked ... (read in full...)
He has to work at getting an erection with me yet he gets one no problem when he looks at other women. Should I be worried?
Q. Most of the time my boyfriend has to work at getting an erection so we can have sex. He tells me that I turn him on but he has also told me that if he checks out another woman and is turned on by what he sees, he gets an erection quickly. Is this ...
A. 12 March 2008: Oh my god girl, if he has to work at getting an erection for you he sounds like a loser. I would dump him so now. Give him a viagra and playboy and throw him away. I hate to be blunt but any guy im with better get an erection for ME or its over.... (read in full...)
We had sex but she says she loves her husband too much!
Q. I'm in love with a married woman. She has 7 months of marriage. We had sex one night. She loves me but says she will not leave her husband because she does not want to make him hurt. I can't really let go. What should i do ?...
A. 4 March 2008: I think she has a right to pursue whatever she wants, and you have to be adult enough to accept her wishes. Let her go and be happy you got to know her for a while. she has her own reasons for staying with her hsuband and you have to stand back ... (read in full...)
Old flame has made me feel a spark that is missing in my marriage...how can I work through this??
Q. I've been married almost ten years. I have children with my spouse and have been very happy. Last week an old flame from high school contacted me. We had a very short relationship (puppy dog type love...petting, making out) my freshman year and ...
A. 2 March 2008: I think you are in the middle of a perfect mix of things that sum up to potential affair here. It looks like you have time on your hands with your husband away, you don't want to damage your relationship but you want to have fun and need sexual ... (read in full...)
Are threesomes just a fantasy or do they really happen??
Q. Are threesomes only a man's fantasy or do they really happen that often? I believe it might be fun with the right circumstances. ...
A. 2 March 2008: Yes, hunny they do happen...and its not just a guys fantasy. Without giving away details have been involved in a couple threesomes and they were great experiences, and i have no regrets.
But i do hear the horror stories about threesomes breaking... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have anal sex more often but it's very painful for me but I want to satisfy him, what can I do so it won't hurt as much?
Q. Well my boyfriend wants to have anal sex more often but it's very painful for me but I want to satisfy him, what can I do so it won't hurt as much? ...
A. 26 February 2008: You need to do more foreplay before you go anal, and he can either use his fingers with plenty of lube to ease and loosen it up, or use a small dildo or butt plug. If you know your going to anal, you can wear a butt plug for a good while to ... (read in full...)
Why do I play games with nice guys? Am I lesbian?
Q. Hi. I am a bisexual female. I think I am totally turning lesbian. how do I tell my family. I liked a guy. I played mind games with him because he was honest with me.Why do I play games with certain guys.Probably because he is nice.Maybe it is ...
A. 26 February 2008: I only play mind games with guys I'n going to sleep with. If your playing mind games with this nice guy that you don't intend to sleep with the real game your playing is with yourself. It's kinda like when your chatting with a guy doing cyber-sex, ... (read in full...)
Am I gay for breaking up with my girlfriend?
Q. my friends have been saying i'm gay because i broke up with this girl because she told me she loved me the second day we went out i am very sensitive and compassionate am i gay for breaking up with her? my friends said i should've told her i love ...
A. 26 February 2008: No your not gay, hun, your just a nice guy. But it does sound like you freaked out when she said she loved you. Were you afraid she would do something scary after that? just becuase a girl says she loves you doesnt mean you have to run ... (read in full...)
I went abroad for my further studies, now I am having difficulties in trusting my gf, especially her good friend that is pursuing her!
Q. I have been in a serious relation for 4 years.During the 3rd year one common friend started coming very close to my gf.She started staying with him more than me on a few occassions, but eventually was with me 90% of the times.Still that made me ...
A. 24 February 2008: Hunny, I know how your girl feels becuase I have guy friends, some that I had slept with in the past that i still talk to. My boyfriend knows about it, but he has no say in it. My friends are my friends, and they are my friends forever. A lot of ... (read in full...)
My fiance can't come through sex, he wants a blow job which I find revolting
Q. okay. I've been in a relationship of a little over a year now and engaged for a bit of it. But my finance can't cum during sex. he can cum using his hand fine, this bothers me a bit, but I have gotten over it to some extent. I still feel bad for ...
A. 24 February 2008: Give the boy a hand hunny. Just do for him what he wants, and he'll give it back in return. You dont't have to use your mouth, just your hands. I'm sure you have touched grosser things...when its done you wash your hands and everybody's happy. ... (read in full...)
It appears the measurements grant different results, decreasing? What's going on?
Q. Alright, so I was starting to notice this a couple weeks ago, but figured I was imagining things, and now I'm possitive that I'm not. My penis is shrinking, I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. It wasn't big to begin with, only a...
A. 23 February 2008: I don't know if doctors are in the business of measuring erections. But it sounds kinky. All right pull it out and say ahhhhh!
I wish i didnt quit med school.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont go down on me
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for about 7 months. She has always said that she thinks sucking dick is disgusting. However she said that she has done it in the past to other guys. It is really starting to bother me everytime we talk about ...
A. 20 February 2008: Hunny I really feel for you. I think your girlfriend is wrong, but you have to respect her. Don’t take this so personally, its all about her past bad experiences, and maybe it will take time for her to come around to pleasing you the way you ... (read in full...)
How can I give my boyfriend a blowjob without hurting him?
Q. My boyfriend has phimosis which means he can't pull his foreskin back without it hurting him. I want to give him a blow job but am unsure how to do this because of the phimosis and I really don't want to hurt him. Any ideas on the best way to do ...
A. 13 February 2008: If he doesnt pull his foreskin back, how can he keep it clean down there? When i discussed this with my boyfriend he told me it was painful too when he started to pull the skin back, but after practice the pain goes away. This was before we ... (read in full...)
Work mate said he wanted me, but he is married! HELP!
Q. Dear Aunts... Well i have a little problem.. I have been seeing some one from work! We havent actually done anything and i dont know what he wants.. It started like this.. A couple of weeks ago i was out in town with a friend and we seen some people ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hey hunny.
So if your asking if its ok to sleep with him my answer to you is no...don't do it. he's married and you don't want your life complicated.
But...if all you see in this is a one night stand, then the only thing stopping you are... (read in full...)
My ex is having Sex with somebody knew. It's upsetting me and is making me feel VERY jealous. Any advice?
Q. I'm feeling jealous towards my ex. We've managed to be friends since we broke up nearly a year ago. Even though we are friends, I've never felt like I've truly gotten over her, even though we have both agreed that getting back together wouldn't be a ...
A. 13 February 2008: Baby boy...I feel for you, and i thinkits time to move on and stop thinking bout your ex. you were both overdue for a new relationship and she just beat you to it. you have to accept that and find your own happiness with other girls. Maybe a ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi its me again!
I have a couple things to say…
First, to the original questioner. I am very sorry if I came of as angry towards you. The venom you read was towards Ms Anon, who I will address after you. In light of the new information you ... (read in full...)
Every time I see him, I end up with a painful vaginal opening that lasts for weeks.
Q. I'm in my late 40s and going through menopause. I have a boyfriend who I only see once in a while, outside of a long term monogomous relationship. Every time I see him, I end up with a painful vaginal opening that lasts for weeks. He's not massively ...
A. 13 February 2008: Ok naughty girl, it looks like your boyfriend is tearing you up down there...big or not. Im not judging you hunny, you gotta get yours any way you can. You should probably see your doctor anyway or go to another doctor for an objective medical ... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 13 February 2008: You were foolish and really made a big mess with your behavior and throwing your husband out, then moving out yourself....and then falling for this other guy...all based on a lie! How can you live with yourself if you hoked up with this man? I ... (read in full...)
What are the best male sexual enhancers?
Q. I was just wondering, I think I need some help, so I was wondering what are the best male sexual enhancers? Like ones for increasing stamina, sex drive, and better orgasms? and has anybody had success with these? ...
A. 13 February 2008: You are too young to be worrying about enhancers like viagra. my guy is much older and never uses any pills. If you excercise and eat healthy you dont need those things until much later on. But if you do have a problem go and see a doctor. There ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 9 February 2008: To Ms anon who hates porn…wow...you have a serious problem...not us. I’ll just hit a few points here in response to your anti porn rant.
First of all hunny, if your research is serious why don’t you interview some of the biggest stars in the i... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner be open about his fantasies?
Q. Recently I found out my partner has been looking at porn and signing up for online dating sites. I had confronted him about this and he said the only reason he is on the dating sites is to look at sexy photos of average women. I asked him why it is ...
A. 8 February 2008: He might be telling you the truth and you can't accept it. A lot of guy have no imagination even with sexual fantasies. some porn juat has no imagination at all period...its just straght sex. and thats cool too. i like watching gonzo or amatuer ... (read in full...)
Shave vs. not shaving
Q. I wanted my wife to shave her private area, but she says it is because I want her to look like the porn stars. I would do the same. Anybody have an opinion on this?...
A. 8 February 2008: You gotta tell her thats its normal. You obviously cant prove it to her by showing her porn...that defeats the purpose. So do as suggested by the previous post, which is a great suggestion...have her ask us here directly. I am not a porn star and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a stripper
Q. OK well this really isnt a normal scenario although having a girlfriend who is a stripper isnt normal to begin with. Anyways it makes it harder for me since i am in the military. Before i start we are both in our early 20's. I come back from bei...
A. 8 February 2008: You can't have it both ways...Not once in your question did I hear you offer to help her out with her debts. Are her debts your problem....no they are her problem, but if you try to help her make ends meet then maybe you can be in a position to say ... (read in full...)
Scared to date because my penis is too small-what can I do?
Q. This is mainly aimed at the ladies. I'm 2 scared 2 get with girls b/c of the size of my penis. I know 2 some girls size dont matter but surely when its 3inches normal and only 5 when erected its an issue....
A. 6 February 2008: I think your normal or just slightly below normal, but dont be sad. There are a few guys like you...and I met some that were smaller. Its true that size can be a factor for some women. I have to be honest and say it matters to me. I do prefer ... (read in full...)
Should I date other guys before I decide to marry my 1st boyfriend?
Q. I just need some advice. Is it crazy to marry youre first boyfriend? I am so in love with my boyfriend of one year. I never wanted to get married or have kids, and now that I see how powerful love is, i can't wait to have kids. I honestly think he ...
A. 6 February 2008: In my opinion yes you should date other guys before you marry, especially at your young age. He may be the actual best man for you, but you dont have a big point of referernce to know do you? If he is the ONE....you both have nothing to worry about. ... (read in full...)
He can't ejaculate! Could it be his meds?
Q. My husband is 29 years old, and for the last 4 mornings he has been waking up limp. Let me tell you in the 10 years we have been together this is a first. He has no problem getting it up, but he can not orgasm. We have tried the last 4 days for ...
A. 6 February 2008: Yes, i thinks its the medication. It sounds like its affecting his blood circulation. I had a boyfriend once who couldnt get his penis hard and it was real embarrassing for him. He ended up finding out it was because of something he took for ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to laugh during his orgasms?
Q. When me and my long term boyfriend have sex, when he cums, he laughs and is often forced to stop the stroking motion. He says it's not a bad thing at all, but doesn't seem to be able to explain it... or maybe he just doesn't want to. Why does he ...
A. 6 February 2008: I think its a wonderful reaction. Sex should be enjoyed and why not express your happiness with laughter. I've experinced that kind or reaction and it makes me smile back and laugh too! Smiling and laughter is very sexy and should be part of the ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 6 February 2008: I watch porn and i dont think its cheating. I watch porn while having sex with my boyfriend. its entertainment. thats all it is. I masturbate and use toys too...i dont see that as cheating either even if Im in a realtionship. I think the ... (read in full...)
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