My parents saw some naughty texts exchanged with my boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about ...
A. 2 August 2011: First of all, if neither you or your boyfriend showed your parents those texts, that means they were going through you're phone and that's wrong. You're old enough to have your own privacy now and they shouldn't be snooping, so you should probably ... (read in full...)
How can I prove my feelings for her and win her back?
Q. Bare with me on this guys, I know I sound like a complete idiot for what I've done but if anyone can give me advice then I obviously need to say what's happened in the past. I was with my girlfriend for 1 year and 4 months. It started well, th...
A. 1 August 2011: If you felt you had to break up that many times, maybe you just weren't meant to be in the first place. You're exactly right when you say you've broken her heart too many times. You can't keep hurting her by getting back together with her then ... (read in full...)
He wanted to hold my hand and stroked my face after sex, does this mean anything?
Q. Hey :) so I've been seeing this guy for five months, but we aren't officially a couple. I slept with him for the first time a month ago, but I thought that he was just using me. But the last time I slept with him he wanted to hold my hands and he s...
A. 1 August 2011: Maybe it just means he's ready to be more affectionate with you, rather than just sex. So if you're worried about him using you, this seems like a step away from that.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking that we're too far along in this relationship to play hot & cold "thrill of the chase" games?
Q. Still negotiating through my 1st relationship (9 months so far). Here's the situation: I adore my boyfriend. I love him and love to take care of him--I want him to succeed in life, to feel loved and cared for, to realize the potential he has. ...
A. 28 July 2011: It is not wrong of you at all! After 9 months, you should know exactly where you stand and how he likes you to act. Asking him whether or not he likes cuddling, etc would be the best way of getting a sure answer, but if you'd feel awkward, you could ... (read in full...)
Should she enema before first time anal?
Q. I am looking for advice on whehter my GF should use an enema before first time anal sex. I have heard many pros and cons. Pros being that they obviously clean things out, cons being that they can irritate and make poo that would otherwise stay ...
A. 28 July 2011: I know it's a little embarrassing, but taking your girlfriend with you to a local sex clinic or your GP will probably give you the best individual advice!... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend text me more and become romantic again without sounding needy or clingy?
Q. Hello there.... I've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now...In the beginning, he was the most affectionate and romantic person in the whole world! He would kiss me and hug me all the time which I really enjoy since I'm very affectionat...
A. 28 July 2011: From what I've seen and experienced myself, for the first part of the relationship, a guy will try to be what he thinks you want him to be more than he normally would. Because he really liked you, he may have acted a bit more affectionate than is ... (read in full...)
What do I do when she comes back with feelings for another guy?
Q. My gf went back home for summer. Her cousin was the only one that takes her out. He started holding her hand and hugging her and kissing her on the neck after a hug and on her checks. And she used to kiss him too on hes neck and hes checks. And ...
A. 12 August 2010: I can understand your concern but my advice would be to trust her when she says she didn't cheat. It's understandable for her to have found a temporary emotional replacement for you when she's away from you because she will have missed you, but that ... (read in full...)
I want to stop being her friend without interfereing with our social circle
Q. I need advice on how to deal with my so called best friend. We have been friends for 5 years and were at one point so close we knew what each other were thinking and even had our own coded language. Over the past year though we have not been getting ...
A. 27 May 2010: Hi :)
Sounds like this is a really awkward situation :S
But I would suggest that before you try breaking friends with her, talk to her about it.
I know you said she can't deal with conflict, but it doesn't need to be conflict
Just talk to ... (read in full...)
How can I build my confidence and self-esteem and meet more people that I can trust?
Q. I dont feel part of a group anymore. Every friend of mine and even the closest ones I could say something about which makes me doubt them. I have lost trust in loads of my friends and can only trust one person fully. The rest i just don;t know. I ...
A. 27 May 2010: Hi :)
You might have to remember that your friends aren't perfect, and even though you can think of bad stuff about them, you can also think of good stuff too! :)
To get new friends, you could maybe get to know friends of friends better, by just ... (read in full...)
Every time I see her I just love her more
Q. Right.. My Ex-Girlfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. I have been in love with her for 5 years. We were going out for 6 months and it wsa really good and working well until she broke up with me because she thought we were having problems.. Duri...
A. 27 May 2010: This sounds awful :( It sounds like she's still leading you on because she knows you still love her, which is completely wrong of her. It sounds to me like she's using you as her safety net to fall back on when nobody else will pay attention to her... (read in full...)
I don't have the guts to leave him but I don't want to stay either
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years. We have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. I was 19 when I fell pregnant and at university 3 hours drive from my parents house. I moved in with my partner and I feel that the last few years I have ...
A. 27 May 2010: You poor thing, you sound completely trapped!
I don't know much about parenthood, but I know that you need an escape.
I would say that you should go on a holiday, without your partner or your daughter.
If you don't want to go by yourself, go... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to cope with looking after my elderly father
Q. My mother died January 2008 and now my 84 year old father lives with my husband and 24 year old son. My father is from the old school where he doesn't know how to cook, laundry, etc and cannot be left alone at night. However, he is alone during ...
A. 1 September 2009: I can sympathise with you. My Mum and I look after my Grandma everyday (meals etc, the lot), and it can be incredibly exhausting, physically and emotionally.
Thankfully my Aunt (who lives a few hours away) comes up about one weekend every 3 week... (read in full...)
We can go 2 days without speaking. Is this because he's busy or because he doesn't care?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Lately, I feel he has been acting distant. He is busy with work and school, so there are times we go 2 weeks without seeing each other, and I am understanding about that. But what frustrates me is that ...
A. 17 August 2009: Since your relationship is 7 months, he might not be getting distant to you, he could be just taking your relationship for granted, so he might not feel he has to work on it as much as he used to, or as much as other things in his life right now.
I... (read in full...)
I don't know who to pick...what do you think?
Q. sorry for all the writing but this is important for me to get your opinion.so please take time to read this.and tell me who is best for me? thanks. ok im stuck.i dont know witch boy i want or need. ok so theres eric who is my current boyfrien...
A. 17 August 2009: I would go with whoever makes you happiest, and who you feel safest with in a relationship (who's the least likely to break your heart?)
Hope this helps :)... (read in full...)
Is making out with my sister incest?
Q. I could use advice. I was playing with my sister and we started to make out i kissed her and she didnt pull away or get mad.I kissed her more and touched her breast and began to suck them she was just wearing a tank top and tight shorts i began ...
A. 17 August 2009: Kissing her isn't incest but it sounds like what you've done has seriously crossed the line.
You're asking if making out is incest, but you have to be honest that you've done a lot more than that (although, a bit of kissing with tongue action is a... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to clean up his appearance without sounding rude?
Q. Alright...so my boyfriend and i have been together for about two years and i lovee him. He’s always a gentlemen and is such a sweet guy to me.however his style, haircut, and lack of shaving has been driving me crazy lately. There is no doubt I love ...
A. 17 August 2009: My advice would be to compliment him a lot whenever he shaves, etc. Well, basically cleans up a little. He'll probably want to do it more often to please you :) As for the haircut and clothes, perhaps you could go shopping and invite him along, a... (read in full...)
Mother in abusive relationship, won't leave, I don't know what to do!
Q. hey im 13. my mom has been in a relationship with this guy. over the years he has started getting more and more controling. they fight every single dayy... okay well last year we have bought a condo.. my mom cant afford it on her own and he helps ...
A. 10 August 2009: First of all, stop ignoring your Mum, you need to speak to her!
It's awful you have to witness all this, and you don't feel like you can do anything about it.
I understand this is a really tricky situation, with the money and all, but somethin... (read in full...)
Could I be bisexual?
Q. (i am a 16 year old girl)ok, so for the past year now i have been questioning my sexuality. i have gone out with one guy before and that was cause i have never gone out with anyone before. that was in 8th grade and then i had to break up with him. ...
A. 10 August 2009: You might not be bisexual, just curious.
And just because you think girls are pretty doesn't mean you like them, and if you don't really know if you like them, I'd say you don't.
If you seriously think you are bisexual, then you could always t... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 5 August 2009: I know I'm not 50+ but I like helping =)
My Mum likes Sui Dreams by Anna Sui
However, each person is different so.. =)... (read in full...)
How can I gain this weight?
Q. I’m 14 years old 5'5 and about 100lb. I’m too skinny. My parents were skinny till they were in their late 20s; my mom didn’t like eating and my dad ate alot but didn’t gain weight. I don’t eat alot and don’t gain weight. I don’t have much of an ...
A. 5 August 2009: Oh, how I wish I wanted to lose weight lol.
I would suggest eating high-calorie foods that you enjoy eating [pizza, chocolate, etc.] and drinking energy drinks to gain weight quickly.
However, this isn't the most healthy way to do it.
The most ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering about my body...
Q. [Moderator note: Two questions by this poster combined into this post.] Question 1: well i want my boyfriend to finger me and perform oral but what if im not wet enough? i get turned on by him but i only get a little wet. Question 2: well im a vir...
A. 5 August 2009: Question 1 : You'll probably get wetter when he touches you, if you're not wet enough in the first place. Just because you don't feel damp on the outside doesn't mean you're not on the inside.
If you don't get wet when he touches you and it's unco... (read in full...)
Ever since sex I've been bleeding!
Q. ever since i've had sex with my boyfriend, i've been bleeding. does this mean i have a disease or anything? we used protection but not a condom, could he have anything too?...
A. 5 August 2009: If this was your first time at sex [as in you personally first time EVER] then your hymen will have broken, which causes bleeding.
It differs from woman to woman on how much you bleed.
If the bleeding exceeds five days, you should talk to your Gen... (read in full...)
I need ideas for a job for me!
Q. Hi, I am a 13 year old girl and I am looking for ways to make money. All the jobs I have found so far appear to be scams and they ALL turn out to be just that. I need money because my mom is married to a jerk and he won’t pay for anything so and she ...
A. 5 August 2009: For someone your age, it can be Hell finding a job that doesn't treat you like rubbish, but when I was having the same predicament, I got a job working for my Gran (gardening, etc.) which gave me money but not the stress of having to get used to an ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of him being a liar and a player and I just want him out of my house.
Q. My boyfriend has lived in my house 3.5 years. At first I paid his way, then in the last 1.5 years he paid mine. I own the house and he pays all the bills. At first I had money, now I don't and he has money. When I got tired of his daily emails...
A. 5 August 2009: I would tell him straight how you feel.
He cheated on you, which is pretty unforgivable in my eyes, and he's been saying awful things to you.
If you're sick of his behaviour, you should tell him so.
It's your life, your house and your career, so i... (read in full...)
How do I keep my "skinny jeans" skinny?
Q. I have a few pairs of "skinny jeans" that are pretty loose, especially around the ankle. They look like regular jeans. Would you know how to make them tighter around the ankle? When back to school shopping time comes, I don't want to buy ones that ...
A. 5 August 2009: I hate it when my skinnies do this!
They always do, so my friends started naming them after me - baggy skinnies are 'Charl skinnies' lol
Until I complained to my Mum and she washed them in cold water for me - yay!!
It worked!
It's not perm... (read in full...)
Nervous of what boys will think of me
Q. i want to meet other guys and be flirtty but im really scared ill be a slut or theyll think that im looking for a relationship when im looking for just fun.i really am nervous guys will reject me aswell i know im preatty but I don't think guys will ...
A. 5 August 2009: From experience, guys only think girls are slutty when they've slept with every male within 10 miles, so a bit of flirting will be harmless!
If you want to sleep with a guy but not get into a commitment, just tell them straight, but don't do this... (read in full...)
How to I initiate phone sex?
Q. 0k.. i am very young so i havent experienced most things and i want to have phone sex but i just dont know how to start it off or anything can someone help me??...
A. 5 August 2009: If you're sure you really want phone sex, then I'll give you advice, but be warned! If you have phone sex with your boyfriend, next thing you know he'll be getting hot and heavy in person - so use your phone wisely! =) Usually it's the guy that 'in... (read in full...)
What's the reason for all these mixed signals?
Q. I have finally "got in there" with a girl (I'll call her Holly) who I've fancied for a while.....so I thought. I presumed I was friendzoned before until just recently. She had told me (a few months ago) that she would like to go out with someone...
A. 5 August 2009: It sounds like she does like you, but perhaps today she just didn't feel up to it. She might be feeling down lately [for one womanly reason or another] so you shouldn't shoot her down for it. Also, girls tend to grow cold if things are going too fa... (read in full...)
I feel so bad for my daughter, Any advice on how to help her?
Q. My daughter is 22 and has not had a boyfriend since she was 17. A boy she went out with for a couple of years broke up with her. She is a pretty girl and a little bit overweight (size 14) not huge. She is starting to feel like something is wrong ...
A. 5 August 2009: As her Father, she might not react too positively to your trying to be involved in her love life, but it's wonderful that you're trying to help her!
You could suggest that she have a few of her friends round to the house to have a night in with a co... (read in full...)
What can I do to get boys to like me?
Q. How can I get boys to like me when im ugly? I need help... i feel really ugly all the time. Everyone around me is so much prettier. I get made fun of because of my short hair. I am 15 and a boy has never shown any interest in me, plus I am flat ...
A. 5 August 2009: Don't put yourself down so much, I very much doubt that you're ugly.
A lot of people suffer from body dismorphia, where you truly believe that you are less attractive than you actually are, so be aware that you may have this.
As for short hair, sh... (read in full...)
I like my friend's ex but I don't want to cause any problems!
Q. My friend just broke up with her boyfriend, who I secretly liked. Now I would never want to hurt her by trying to take him from her! Don't get me wrong, I'm not like that! But I'm not that sure they'll get back together. Something about being ...
A. 4 August 2009: I know this isn't what you want to hear - but trying to be with him now isn't really the best time, especially as your friend wants him back.
Remember that your friends are more important than a guy you like [cliche - but it's true].
If they're ... (read in full...)
If he had lost interest and found someone else, then why did he tell me he'd love to see me?!
Q. Hi everyone, hope you can help me out! Im 17 (today =]), and have a 28 year old guy who is 'after' me. It all started out with facebook emails. He would tell me how beautiful, amazing and gorgeous i am, all the normal chat up lines i suppose....
A. 4 August 2009: First of all, happy birthday! =)
I'm sorry to say this but I think this guy was just leading you on, and possibly only wanted you for one thing [I wonder what that could be! Lol] and if you didn't reciprocate, maybe he decided it wasn't worth the ... (read in full...)
What should I do if I run back into my crush?
Q. Hi every one i got a problem i have hade thes huge crush on a girl for years ever sence 3rd grade we would play at recesse and i moved away in 6th grade and moved back at the end of 8th i was there for two weeks and i thought she moved away and i ...
A. 1 August 2009: Just talk to her naturally. You have common ground that you can talk about, so she shouldn't back off. The best way to get close to someone is by becoming their friend first. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
How can I admit to being sexually assaulted to my friends and family?
Q. how can I admit to being sexually assaulted to friends/family when I feel so embarrassed or ashamed to tell them? I also don't want them to worry about me or feel concerned about me so that I can't relax. I have reported it to the police and it is...
A. 1 August 2009: I'm sorry to hear this.
You'll probably find it easier to tell your friends first.
I'm sad to say I have a friend who was in your position, and she found it a lot easier to tell her family after she'd confided in friends first. You choose your fri... (read in full...)
Is it possible to put your baby in temp. foster care and then claim it back at a more convenient time?
Q. hi im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant. i know my options, abortion, adoption, or keeping it. i don't want to give my baby up for adoption because i dont think i could handle carrying it for 9 months and then giving it away but if i abort it ...
A. 30 July 2009: Yes. As long as your baby only goes into foster care and not up for adoption.
But I would think really hard about your decision. I've heard foster care isn't the best way to grow up, but it is your decision.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 is that to young to be in love?
Q. OK so im 14 and recently I've been wondering if I can truly be IN love, because I think I might be. There was this guy and I liked him for quite a few years but nothing happened between us and I was beginning to think I'd never get over him, but ...
A. 30 July 2009: People who say that people in their teens are too young to love just can't remember being that young, and so patronise us.
I've got it off my Mum so many times, it's so annoying!
But actually she's told me that what they mean is that they can't be... (read in full...)
5 years later and I'm still crushing on her - Help
Q. Sorry for those that hate reading long questions but I feel that I need to do so in order for you to be able to accurately and seriously give me a proper answer that I NEED, you will need to know the full or relatively full properties of my ...
A. 30 July 2009: It sounds like you did take a little long. Girls never make the first move, and she was probably getting a little put out by the fact that she was giving you signals, and you weren't acting on them. It doesn't help that a lot of girls liked you! May... (read in full...)
Women- what do you do after an unromantic proposal, and Men- why do you do it?
Q. Anyone, who got a proposal of marriage, which wasn't special in anyway and to be honest, very disappointing, but still said yes to it (because you are certain that he is the one)? How do you deal with it? Women, what do you do after the engageme...
A. 30 July 2009: I have never been proposed to, but I have grizzly tales from my Mother! She has been married twice, and neither proposal was romantic, and both times she had to go out and buy her own engagement ring! But that doesn't mean that the marriage... (read in full...)
I turned him down and now he's threatening me!
Q. I met this guy recently who i thought i could be good friends with. i thought he was nice at the time but when i told him i didn't want to date him after he asked me to go out with him he changed. He started saying things like he was looking for sex ...
A. 30 July 2009: You shouldn't give into him, at all! Maybe try keeping an eye out for him around town the next couple of times, perhaps make it public you're going to town [put it as your Facebook status or something] and then see if he follows you. If there's ... (read in full...)
He says he flirts with other girls to feel better about himself, could this be true?
Q. Ok, guys i been with my mate for a few years now. like more than 4. Lately he will do anything to get another female attention, or like he need some type of validation from another female. He recently admitted to me that he have low self esteem and ...
A. 30 July 2009: This might not be what you want to hear, but hearing 'You're gorgeous' from someone you're in a relationship with, and hearing it from a randomer aren't the same thing. It's like hearing you're Mum tell you you're gorgeous. It just isn't quite the ... (read in full...)
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