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writes:Right.. My Ex-Girlfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. I have been in love with her for 5 years. We were going out for 6 months and it wsa really good and working well until she broke up with me because she thought we were having problems..During the next two months she made out with 5 other guys including my best mate and got fingered by some other guy. Now she has a new boyfriend who is the complete wrong guy for her. They have been togeteher for two months now and im still completley in love with her. What ever I do I cant get over her, If I stop talking to her I will just start talking to her again because im so in love with her.A while ago we were flirting quite a bit and I gave her my T-Shirt after a water fight and she said she wears it in bed because it smells nice. She then said the flirting meant nothing even though I think she knows it did. We have nicknames and she refers to me as 'her' spackerboy (Dont ask about the nickname lol)I cant get her out my mind and everytime I see her I feel more in love with her. It phyicaly hurts when I think about her and her new boyfriend and about me and her. And I dont know what to do..??Plus, I still think we could and should end up together and Im not sure if she feels anything for me still or not..?
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reader, CSB123 +, writes (8 June 2010):
CSB123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what you all mean and that I should move on.. But I really cant.. beleive me I have tried.. And people have told me that it could still happen with me and her but i dont know what I should do to get her back. Can anyone help?
And for anyone who wants to know. We broke up because we had an argument about not seeing eachother enough and she said she didnt want to get hurt again and didnt want a relationship anymore..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): look. ino exsaltly how you feel and its horrible. i went out with this guy for 8 months and im not with him now we spilt up in september? and my feelings are growing hugely. ive still been doing stuff with him and it makes me love him even more. ive asked him to try our relationship over and over again but he says he doesnt want a girlfriend so ive tried my hardest but he doesnt seem to care unless he gets me to do things with him. all i can say is dont think about it cus thre is nothing else u can do. and crying helps honeslty it does.xxx
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Spacker....? No, no no I don't even want to go there. Sounds like you've got it pretty bad. Also sounds like she's playing the field...alot. I think what you should do is chin up and focus on your studies, sports, or whatever it is that you're into right now. You need to get your mind off her for awhile. Give yourself some room to breath and see what's around you.
Get a hamster or a gerbil and name him, Fred. Chase your mother around with him or your sister, too. Carry him in your shirt pocket and talk to him in public as though he understands you. This will certainly prove to be distracting.
I'd say you have a pretty bad crush on this girl right now but if you redirect yourself into something or someone who will return your affection and attention like you deserve you will find that while she's out having a snog here and there, you're getting along just fine without her. Just give it a try or a go as they say in the UK, interest yourself in something that is not her. And let us know how you're getting on with things!
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (27 May 2010):
 This sounds awful :(It sounds like she's still leading you on because she knows you still love her, which is completely wrong of her.It sounds to me like she's using you as her safety net to fall back on when nobody else will pay attention to her.I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but just deliberately spending some time away from her might help you.If you don't normally, go to some events without her there, so you can meet new people (not necessarily girls - just new friends) so that your social life doesn't have to necessarily have her in it.This might make it easier for you to draw some space away from her.I hope this helps :)
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reader, iiSparkle +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Wow, well i understand because im in the same situation.She broke up because you were having problems? what sort of problems? or did she break up because she was getting bored of the relationship or was there another guy?Girls love to flirt with guys, even if they have a boyfriend they'll naturally do something which makes the opposite sex think they like them but they may not. If she did like you then she would flirt big time, and drop big hints, but because she has a boyfriend it seems really confusing.i Think that you should leave her to do what it is she is doing, let her carry on, so she gets the impression you have moved on. Then when she splits up with this guy then start talking to her and become close friends then maybe she'll feel something. Other than that theres nothing you can do, unless you want to be rejected again, i think its best if you wait for a while then get to know her again.If she decides to flirt with you, causually smile and make comments but dont be that flirty as girls love guys who do this. Hope that helped.Best of Luck :) x
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reader, lostinstereo +, writes (27 May 2010):
 if she's going around being a slag (no offense, but she's under sixteen getting fingered and getting off with five people!) and an idiot two months after your relationship ended, it sounds like she had been using you or using those guys to get over you. First option is more likely. she also sounds like the flirty type, so she could if you went back out could be using you.she's trouble, try to not think about her and try and cut most contact with her in an attempt to forget about her.i hope you don't take any of this the wrong way...good luck!
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