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writes:Sorry for those that hate reading long questions but I feel that I need to do so in order for you to be able to accurately and seriously give me a proper answer that I NEED, you will need to know the full or relatively full properties of my situation. So Please don’t pester me about it. I really need good answers.ok, in middle school I was always kinda like the….oh how should I put this…..anonymous player?….( really don’t wanna sound cocky but this was the case.)I had A LOT of girls liking me but I never bragged about it to anyone and never pursued them because well in short I am really picky. And At the time I was really looking for the perfect girl and than bam. Shanea showed up. At first I really didn’t have much interest in her. My friends and a whole rack of guys where all hyping her up and stuff and when I took a look at her it was like meh…she’s ok don’t see why she’s so constantly hounded…..however, later on after I started noticing her eyeing me frequently and the fact that she seem to perfectly pass threw like all my little test’s ( something I do in my head to evaluate girls….kinda weird but that’s what I do.) it just seem like my prayers where answered, she was nice to everyone, she wasn’t a whore as she stated that she would not have sex until after marriage and rejected a lot of guys that approached her nicely, and all this despite what I later released her very gorgeous gorgeous and huh…..voluptuous body and figure…..anyways, as stated before she started eyeing me a lot and always pretending to look away ( she was horrible at it though. Even my friend Russell catch don to it telling me to go talk to her.) and this with all the stuff I previously stated and these intense almost movie directed moments we had ie: once we both turned around and FACE TO FACE proximity ( while she smiled I may add..) eye locked each other for like a couple seconds that felt like the best in my life…. And just other moments of just these uh…….in a nut shell…..I was hocked bad and everyday I could pass by her in the hallways made my day….I started to memorize her class formation just to pass by her and wanted my friend to take a picture of her so that I could keep it…..( yeah kinda creepy as he stated as well but I just needed to like see her whenever I wanted….she’s so gorgeous…. I will show you a pic below so can understand…) Anyways cutting off a few details I took to long to make a move and she later went out with the biggest douchebag ( well probably second biggest.) in the school that also hated and hey guess what?!! Picked on me in class like everyday for no ******* reason!! ( oh the icing on the cake..) She still eyed me though from a far but not as frequent. And later when I heard that she it was her last day in school my heart skipped a bit and the whole day I was wondering if I should make a move or tell how I feel about her in the bus ( as she also conveniently moved where I lived at and so took the same bus….I tell you I was set up for this…karma or some ****….everything just fell in to perfectly….) anyways I was to chicken and didn’t do anything in the bus and now the past five years after that I have tried to get over her and am unable to. ( no girl seems to compare.) I searched her up and found her myspace and stuff and occasionally pass by to take a look at her once in a while….. I can’t and haven’t gotten over here despite all this time passing and I was wonder the following: - How can I get over her?Will I be able to forget her?Do you think that I Was special to her in a way…?Am I creepy for going to the lengths I did and stuff…….?Was I hit with an intense dose of karma?What do you think she thinks of me? Does she think of me at all? Would you if you where in her shoes?By the way I am 17 and I did try to talk to her in myspace ( only reason I got one.) but she replied once and told me “ why didn’t you make a move?” and never replied back to my reply ( I haven’t pestered her though and just left it at that…this happened a year or so ago just so you know and I still can’t get over her….) she seems to have a boyfriend that she “ loves” so I think that she doesn’t want to cheat on him so that’s why she isn’t replying….or maybe she’s shy? Please give me your take on this as well and thank you for reading…also please go easy on me…Plus pics of her….[Moderator Note: Pictures have been deleted for safety]isn’t she pretty…? ( wow…I must sound really creepy right now…)
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (31 July 2009):
I would agree with the other responses. We can all think about the things we wished we did but didn't at the time. But the past is the past and all we can do is learn from it and move forward. I would say you could strike up a friendship with her by talking to her via myspace as you did. But if she didn't respond to your further messages, there's really nothing you can do.
Getting over something where emotions were involved is never easy. But you have to take it one day at a time. And maybe most importantly, take whatever you have to remind you of her, including any pictures, and simply put them away somewhere. I'm not saying erase her from your memory. But the longer you remind yourself of her, the harder and longer it is going to be to get over her.
Good luck!
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reader, Charlpop  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 It sounds like you did take a little long. Girls never make the first move, and she was probably getting a little put out by the fact that she was giving you signals, and you weren't acting on them.It doesn't help that a lot of girls liked you! Maybe one of her friends liked you, and she was being loyal to her friend.However, if you've lost connection for a long time, then it may take a while to get back to where you were.You did the right thing contacting her on MySpace - because it's neutral ground, it's not like you climbed through her bedroom window or something. But perhaps you should have started with all the 'Hey, haven't see you in ages, wuu2?' stuff like that.Also, if there's any parties coming up that's she's going to, you could go and there's an opportunity to talk to her. Or if you're going to one, you could ask her if she's going to ______'s party [as long as it's someone she actually knows].I hope this helps, and it wasn't just completely unhelpful!P.S. If you want to get over her, you'll be able to, it just takes time, and you will forget her.It does seem like she thought about you in a similar way to how you thought of her, you just waited too long.You weren't creepy - half of my friends have stalker pictures of their crushes on their phones or computers [including me lol]If I were in her shoes, I would wonder why it took you so long, and why you haven't contacted me in a year!! Get on MySpace!
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