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writes:Hello there....I've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now...In the beginning, he was the most affectionate and romantic person in the whole world! He would kiss me and hug me all the time which I really enjoy since I'm very affectionate too. He works freelance so he has to go to another city for work from time to time...In the beginning, he would text me like 10 times a day telling me how much he loved me and missed me and how lucky he thought he was to have me as his girlfriend. But I notice he's no longer as romantic as he used to...He kisses me and hugs me less...And he texts me less and less....Two weeks ago, he would still say good morning and good night to me but now? Not anymore...He wouldn't even reply to my good night text...I'm sure he isn't cheating on me so please don't tell me he might be cheating on me...I'm totally confused and miserable...we've been only together for 2 months but it feels like he's lost interest and passion already...I really don't understand...I wanna know if it's common and natural for a guy to stop being romantic once he's comfortable in his relationship? I'm not a needy or clingy girlfriend...I know he may be busy so I usually just text him once or twice a day to say good morning or good night to him...I'm not that kind of girl who bombards her boyfriend with texts asking what he's doing who he's with where he is blah blah blah...He has his own life and I do have my own life too! But I'm missing him so badly and I just feel its important to talk to each other and show we care when we're apart...Right?I just sent him email telling him that I understand he's busy and I can't expect him to text me all the time...and I told him his texts and emails mean a lot to me when he's away, making me feel like he's right here with me...Did I sound too needy or clingy?What can I do to get him text me more without sounding needy or clingy? Anyone please help me...I would love to hear from both guys and girls!! Thank you so much!!!!
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reader, tiffanylovepandas  +, writes (28 July 2011):
 First off, talk to him. Tell him how you really feel. If he loves you then he'll understand. Being clingy is not all that bad. A lot can be annoying, but either way, it just shows you love him and that you actually took your time to actually make you relationship work. Being clingy just means you care and sometimes even love the person and avoiding the thought of ever losing him. Just get some alone time with him and talk to him. If that doesn't work then he is definitely not the one and not the right person for you. You will feel that way even if your mind tells you differently. Do what makes you happy and if he wants you happy, then he'll work for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2011): wow only 2 months and his behavior has changed so drastically? then I'd say either he's lost interest in you, or his romantic-ness at the beginning wasn't "real" and thus he couldn't keep it up.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (28 July 2011):
 if you had been together a long time then i would say that his lack of attentiveness is because he is settled/comfortable/complacent even BUT you have only been together a matter of weeks and part of that time he has spent working away so really it is still the early says of your relationship. you have told him how you feel in the email and i think it is fine to tell him. his behaviour is upsetting and confusing you. sometimes when a guy cools off like this it is because they are not really interested in the relationship. it is rude to ignore a text, it is hurtful to ignore one especially as he was the sort of guy who was very loving at the beginning.maybe he is just too busy with work or maybe he is someone who enjoys the thrill of the chase and then when they have 'caught' you emotionally or sexually their interest wanes. it is quite common. it does not necessarily mean you have done anything wrong to them, just that they are not really as into you as they said they were. words are easy. always look at the behaviour of a man if you really want to know how they feel about youx
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (28 July 2011):
 From what I've seen and experienced myself, for the first part of the relationship, a guy will try to be what he thinks you want him to be more than he normally would. Because he really liked you, he may have acted a bit more affectionate than is natural for him to ensure that you wouldn't leave him if you maybe wanted someone a bit more romantic (especially when he's away in other cities), and now he's seen you're not going anywhere, he's just letting this lax.I'm sure it's not because he feels differently, but I can understand how it would bother you. If you don't want to approach the situation sounding too serious, you could possibly try bringing it up in a jokey way, asking why he didn't text you back then laughing. This might get it through to him, or if not, try on your cutest face and say that you like waking up to a good morning text from him (that's how I managed to get morning texts!)
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