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*ebeccaa
writes:Me and my boyfriend sent a couple of naughty texts to eachother. My parents some how saw them, they're worried about me. I dont no what theyre worried about theyre not mad just worried and i dont no why. They keep asking me what im going to do about it, but i dont no what they mean, i dont no what they want me to do about it. Why are they worried? What do they mean by what am i going to do about it? What should i do about it?Ive told my boyfriend i think its best if we break up for now, i didnt realy want to. Please help, some advice?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok and thankyou, yes my uncle is here to guard me to make sure i dont go anywhere, im not allowed out the house, so im bored all day. x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 August 2011):
 tell her the code then (unless there is more stuff you don't want her to see) get your phone back but then, like i said before you will just have to delete things before they check. it is horrible to be secretive but they have invaded your privacy and continue to do so, so this drives a person to be secretive. what's your uncle got to do with this? have they put him there to guard you or something? your parents are being overly protective of you, you are a young adult. maybe you need to show them you can be mature and responsible and they will trust you more
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, i do understand where they are coming from. The boy was my boyfriend, and my friends say that they would be mad if it was then, but i told them i cant be bothered with arguing so i just let them get on with it. I hope my uncle is not going to be coming to stay with me everday, i no he is again tomorrow, i heard him say to my mum before he left say time again tomorrow, and my mum said yes please. Then my sister asked why he was here shes only young and doesnt no whats happened, and my mum siad because he had to be. My mum also said i cant have my ohone back untill she knows the pin code x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 August 2011):
talk to them about this, put your point across in a mature way and when they really think about it hopefully they will realise how unfair they are being and will give you the phone back. i would probably not trust them to not snoop again if they get the chance though! so if you do not want to look dodgy by putting another pin lock on the phone, just make sure that you delete things that you would not want them to see. you should not have to, you are entitled to privacy but lots of parents think they have the right to invaded this, because they care about you and can't stand the thought of you making mistakes that will harm you.
i can see where they are coming from and i am sure you will yourself one day if/when you have kids of your own. its a tough one, they are not likely to change their minds and just let you get on with things, so might be better for you if you just humour them!
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, and they paid for my phone but i pay for the credit. x
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 August 2011):
they have no right to take your phone off you. apart from anything you NEED a mobile for your own safety, like if you are stranded somewhere and need to get in touch. do they not realise that taking away your ability to send naughty texts does not take away your ability to have sex? i can understand their concerns but you are an adult and should be given a bit more privacy, respect and trust than this. did your parents buy the phone for you or pay for your credit? maybe you could provide this yourself and then they will have absolutely no right to pry into it and to take it from you
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the advice i appreciate it :)
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the advice everyone. I changed my pin code on my phone and because i changed it my mum took my phone away from me?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy parents just said how they are just worried incase i do something i regret or i get hurt. My mum said she had an idea something was going on so she checked my phone and then told my dad
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy dad said they were only talking to me about it because they dont want me to do anything i regret, or get upset about anything
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou x
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (2 August 2011):
 First of all, if neither you or your boyfriend showed your parents those texts, that means they were going through you're phone and that's wrong. You're old enough to have your own privacy now and they shouldn't be snooping, so you should probably talk to them about this, so that this doesn't happen again.
They're worried about you getting hurt, is all, and they're probably just scared if your boyfriend's going to use you. If he hasn't met them properly yet, bring him over for dinner a few times and let them get to know him so they know he's not messing you about.
Your age says you're 16-17 so it's legal for you to have sex, and you're emotionally mature enough to decide who you want to have sex with.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (2 August 2011):
don't break up with him if you don't want to. parents are not happy when they realise that their child has grown into a sexual adult, but as long as the texts were not detailing any dangerous sexual practices then they need to just get over it and stop worrying about you.
be safe, use condoms, don't disrespect their house rules by having sex at your home if they don't want you too, and don't leave your phone lying around again!
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