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I'm wondering about my body...

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Question - (5 August 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 August 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

[Moderator note: Two questions by this poster combined into this post.]

Question 1: well i want my boyfriend to finger me and perform oral but what if im not wet enough? i get turned on by him but i only get a little wet.

Question 2: well im a virgin, but when i finger myself it doesnt hurt. the first time i did it, it didnt hurt. does this mean my hymen is already broken?(i hope)...

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A male reader, NotQuiteWisdom United States +, writes (5 August 2009):

I agree with Charlpop's advice, you may not be wet enough on the outside but on the inside are fine. Also, if you stress about it, wondering if you're doing it right or anything, that can cause you to not be relaxed enough and would make it less enjoyable for you. You'll just have to go with the flow of things. I hope this helps some, you're always welcome to message me or anyone else here if you have other questions. Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009):

I hope your age is wrong, you are way too young to have your boyfriend do anything like that. I will answer you as if you are 20 yr old ok. You are not wet enough on the outside because you're not turned on enough or he might have not done something right. He might be too rough the way he fingers you or when he does the oral, his tongue might have touched the wrong spot, you have to guide him (men need a map sometimes). Moving his tongue the right speed also makes the difference, you can cum faster and easier if he does it right.

Question #2 See the answer from Charlpop

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A male reader, Beleren United States +, writes (5 August 2009):

your to young to be getting fingered by someone else stick to masturbating and wait till your of legal age for sex

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A female reader, Charlpop United Kingdom +, writes (5 August 2009):

Charlpop agony auntQuestion 1 : You'll probably get wetter when he touches you, if you're not wet enough in the first place. Just because you don't feel damp on the outside doesn't mean you're not on the inside.

If you don't get wet when he touches you and it's uncomfortable, then you're not ready for it. I would suggest moving up to this gradually.

Question 2 : Just because it doesn't hurt, doesn't mean your hymen is broken. It's good that you can pleasure yourself without discomfort, but you might not be penetrating deep enough to have actually broken your hymen.

Since it might not have broken yet, be careful when having sex for the first time because it might hurt.

Remember that hymens can be broken in other ways, too, e.g. horseback riding, strenuous exercise, etc.

Discomfort during sex isn't all caused by the hymen being broken, but can also be due to the muscles in you being stretched to cause discomfort.

Hope this helps!

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