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*hadowre
writes:Well theres this dude and hes really nice and confident. He got my number and started to txt me. It was all grand until he was started trying to persuede me to have sex with him! like i dunno if he was serious but he like wouldnt let it go. I am not even going out with him. I dunno what to do about him. I have 'meet' him before. and he keeps calling me his girlfriend. wtf. please help, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymousmale1  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 You are very welcome. Thanks for allowing me to assist you with this issue.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (19 September 2009):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well anonymousmale1, you make a hell lot of sense! I will definitly do what your suggesting. He totally ignored me when i saw him 2 days ago but is txting me now! Like what the hell? thanks again. oh ye and thanks emilyanswers x
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2009):
He sounds like a bit of a nut job to me.
He may be nice and flirty and stuff, but seriously, this is not the normal way a guy should ask.
He could be a psychotic rapist for all you know.
Tell him to bugger off and leave you alone.
Do you honestly think that this is what you are worth? Some low life asking you for sex?
You are worth more than this. EVERY girl should expect more than this.
Don't put up with it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Anonymousmale1 +, writes (17 September 2009):
Hi Shadowre,Although you may not know it, you created this situation and only you can put a stop to it. By failing to correct him when he first started texting you about sex, you gave him the confidence to continue pursuing the issue.In his mind, since you didn't put a stop to it he feels that eventually you'll give him what he wants. Your problem is actually bigger than you know. You've allowed this guy to disrespect you and thats not good. You can pretty much bet that he's also talking to his friends informing them exactly what he's saying to you and in the process eroding their views of you. In the end they too will not have respect for you and eventually they will start to say any and whatever they want to you, because you have allowed him to.On the other hand, if you give into his wishes you'll become labeled some very unflatering names that I am sure you really don't want.In your post you wrote that you don't know what to do with this guy. So I am going to tell you, so that you can get him as far away from you as possible before he destroys your reputation. OK?The next time he texts you, simply text him back and inform him that your father or older brother saw the sex texts and that they are not pleased that he is disrespecting you in this manner. Inform him never to text you again and to never attempt to contact you again in any manner. Explain to him that if he does then chances are that he will have to deal with your father, brother, uncle or some other male family member.He should get the message and he will stop texting you. If not then you may want to mention it to a male family member that you would like for him to leave you alone, they'll take it from there.Now before I go there is one other thing I need to say. As a young woman, never, ever allow any man to talk to you in a manner that is disrespectful. People treat you the way you allow them to, in this incident you failed to correct his behavior. In the future you should sternly admonish this type of male behavior and force him to respect you as the young beautiful, intelligent, caring woman that you are.Good luck with this, I know you can do this.Sincerely,anonymousmale1
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