Like what
he writes?
... Add *noms to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *noms a private message | | | *noms's profile:im English, in my early 20s, what can i say i live for the gym, i love it. i always enjoyed helping out my friends with unbiased personal advice and dearcupid is no exception, if your happy to listen then im always in a good mood an happy to chat anytime:) |
|
Worried my insecurities will ruin sex.
Q. I know I am to young to have sex and I should wait till I am ready and in love but lately I have been very self-conscious about my body. All my friends have almost perfect bodies…but I don’t….when I get undressed its obvious I have baggy breast t...
A. 31 May 2009: i know a handfull of women that have what i would call "perfect bodies", but do you know what i hear when ever i compliment them? "no i dont im fat, i have a big ass, i have small boobs blabla" and this is coming from women i would consider worthy ... (read in full...)
Why don't underage kids respect the boundaries that are put in place to protect them?
Q. just something thats bothering me. There are so many girls from the age of 10 - 16 having under age sex and not knowing a single thing about it then going oops could i be pregnant. its really depressing because when i was little i was content as a ...
A. 31 May 2009: some good points their. in the west we abuse our rights of freedom way too much, and the kids nowadays have terrible role models because t.v, fasion, magazines and the internet sells so much sex these days and everyone will do anything to get just a ... (read in full...)
Is it innapropriate?
Q. Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...
A. 28 May 2009: that was a very good point posted in the previous answer. by the time i was about 9 (before puberty of cource) i had much older women in their 20s an 30s telling me how goodlooking i was allll the time, and i was totally flattered.. did i call them ... (read in full...)
Help... my friends keep ganging up on me!
Q. Since im the quiet one out of all of them and they are all so confident they sometimes gang up on me. I give up trying to stand up for myself because i never win anyway. I tried going off to find a different group of friends and i managed but then ...
A. 17 May 2009: oh this sounds really horrible, ok well it doesnt sound like much of a contest between your old and new found friends, so why dont you tell your new friends whats going on and that the other group are herting you and what not and maybe they will ... (read in full...)
I can't get a boyfriend
Q. 16 year old girl, at an all girls school, have a mixed group of friends that i go out with regularly and were even going on holiday together so i have guy-friends, its just guys never seem interested in me. its not that i want to go somewher...
A. 17 May 2009: wo chill out, 16 and your getting stressed over boys? i jus turned 24 an i never been in a serious relationship lol, but i know why that is.. cause like you i dont try hard enough. if i could have gotten over the whole "oh ther must be somthing ... (read in full...)
How can I skip this boring repetitive play?
Q. I seem to attract alot of attention when i dont try, but when i show an interest..thats when the games begin. so whats the best way to take it from the 'initial interest' and skip this boring repetitive game play? and how can you tell the diff...
A. 11 May 2009: thanx for your answers but you see i have two women that wont take a hint when im clearly not interested and its turned borderline harassment, on the other hand i know two women i would love to take out but whenever i try to arange somthing..they ... (read in full...)
He won't even talk to me...
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have been together for 9 and a half months. since the summer. were only in middle school. In the beginning, he would mess around with me saying its over blah blah blah..and it was kinda a joke just between us. so when school ...
A. 11 May 2009: well keep it in mind that you thought you would never find love, considering your very young it didnt take you that long for a start, so you have plenty more time lol
its interesting that his parents are unaware.. since your well aqauinted you coul... (read in full...)
She obviously likes me but is throwing mixed feelings around
Q. This is a long one, bare with me....So... I've worked with this girl for 3 years, we work in different departments so haven't gotten many chances to talk in detail, mostly just passing. One day down in the breakroom i get her number, text her later, ...
A. 11 May 2009: hey i was in a similar situation with a girl recently, she was constantly blowing hot and cold, hot: whenever we met up, cold: when we were'nt together, as in texting.. it was a little baffling but i didnt want to come accross as clingy either, your ... (read in full...)
My time is running out as an era is ending. HELP !!!!
Q. Hi. Please help me as I'm running out of time. Please skip to the end for the problem but it's easyer to understand Reading the full thing. I've known my friend who is a girl for about 5 years now, we know each other so well we even say "lov...
A. 11 May 2009: if i was you i would pic a time when you both have a moment to sit down and tell her everything you just said in your post, tell her how long you'v liked her, tell her it herts to see her with other guys etc and ask her if she ever considered you bf ... (read in full...)
Fighting over whey protein?
Q. my dad wont allow me to take whey protein...i do regular workouts and it is recommended by my trainer....my family just dont want to hear about protein shakes and tell me that it doesnt suit me as i had a kidney stone problem in the past ...i fight ...
A. 7 May 2009: you should explain to your parents that its just a type of dairy product extract, ther probably thinking that if you start getting to serious then you may eventually turn to drugs, but a couple of plain whey protein shakes a day is harmless and ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't even know I exist...
Q. hello everyone i realy hope you can help me!!! well here goes... there is this guy at school that i realy like. and it isn't "just a crush" coz it's been nearly 10 months and i still love him like i did that very first day i saw him. But there is...
A. 7 May 2009: thers abit of a problem with this situation, you already know he's seeing more then one girl (possibly 5) but your still facinated with this guy, do you want to be number 6? cause the only thing you could get out of this is casual sex at best, but ... (read in full...)
1st cousin and I want to be together but don't want to shame our family
Q. my first cousin from my mothers side recently came down 2 stay with me, he lives in london, me swindon. we were never close growing up and hardly ever talked we havent seen each other for 5 years, but when he was here we fell in love and got ...
A. 3 May 2009: why dont you tell your mother that you think he likes you and you dont know what to do, just to see how she reacts, im sure your not breaking the law in uk so you just have to see what the moral standpoint of your family is, but if you get a bad ... (read in full...)
I don't want to turn 30!
Q. I'm 29 and my birthday is tomorrow. I know that it's inevitable, but I can't help it. I don't want to be 30... Most people probably wouldn't consider that to be young anymore. I need words of comfort, please, the thought of my youth being over...
A. 3 May 2009: when i hit 13 i thought i was old, when i hit 18 i thought i was really old, an now that im in my early 20s i dont feel so old anymore lol because i stopped worrying sinse most of my friends are much older then me and they seem to be having a ball. ... (read in full...)
I like older guys because guys my age are too immature
Q. Is it normal for a 14 year old girl to like older guys? Like all the boys my age are so imature!!! They get on my nerves! So I like some of my male teacher but the 1's i like, flirted with me 1st so I just do it back to them. The boys my age are so ...
A. 24 April 2009: its not uncommon atall, infact older guys flirting with younger women happens allot more then some people care to admit. the biggest problem is that most guys dont know when to say no! and will happily take advantage of any underage girl that shows ... (read in full...)
How can I fight off all this male attention?
Q. I am getting so fed up with the male attention i just can't seem to shunt. After breaking up with my longterm boyfriend i accidently jumped straight back into another relationship. As soon as i began feeling overwhelmed i told him i didn't want ...
A. 23 April 2009: it really isn't that difficult to pull each of them to one side an tell them your not playing games and your genuinely disinterested . if you announce this infront of everyone an try emmbarras them it may lead to a confrontation, and it could come ... (read in full...)
Think I scared her off...How do I fix this?
Q. Hi im 18 and theres this girl whose 16 on monday and who i realy like, who lives round the corner from me who used to speak with me on msn,one time i got her number on msn and we used to speak on there evrey day and i couldnt talk to her without ...
A. 23 April 2009: hey pal dont beat yourself up if that chick doesnt appretiate you and your valentines flowers, she probably got a shock because most guys your age dont make the effort anymore. but rather then talking to her when your already drunk you should just ... (read in full...)
'Sweetie' said by younger girl to older guy. What does it mean? How should I respond?
Q. I've sort of made contact with this girl online via youtube (I watched her videos and made a couple of video responses which she seemed to like). She recently used the word 'sweetie' in a message though, and it's gotten me all confused... What sho...
A. 22 April 2009: wow dude i thought i overanalyze these things but you just stole my glory lol, ok well in truth there seems to be a heck of alot more guys chasing after average to decent looking women online these days then ever before, and if she said she gets ... (read in full...)
I'm falling love, should I stop?
Q. hi so the sitch here is that im falling in love with a guy and i don't think he knows! how does that even happen? i wanta tell him soo bad but i dont want to make him feel awkward. in general, im not a very jealous person but when there are girls ...
A. 22 April 2009: hi, well if you two hangout and flirt a little then thats most of the hard work done. so whats stopping you from asking him if he thinks your attractive? you could just ask him as a friend and if the answer is 'yes' then jokingly ask him why he ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if a guy really likes you?
Q. Hmm could you explain to me...wen a lad likes someone how do they act and can you sense it in the atmosphere. I don't just mean they look at you or something but can you tell sometimes just by being with them, how they act and the way they talk? I...
A. 22 April 2009: well other than the way he looks at you and smiles, i would have to say is he looking to get your attention and does he act the same way around the other women in the room. most guys would rather focus harder on one girl rather then two at the same ... (read in full...)
An honest woman's opinion needed.
Q. Hi, I'm encountering some problems that I see more and more of lately. Now I'm not a bad looking guy (so I've been told) and I like to weight train. Now here's the catch, the bigger I'm getting the more defensive I feel that women are acting around ...
A. 22 April 2009: thanks, and yes i continue to act as gentlemanly as possible and to put others first, and i always act rational as opposed to arguing but i seem to be missing somthing as it isnt enough. i can give you an example, theres this one women i work with ... (read in full...)
How to make a move at the end of a date?
Q. I have a hard time making a move on a girl. I can go out on dates and have a wonderful time but when the date is getting over i don't know how to close the deal. I guess what I'm tryin to say is that i don't know if she is interested or not and if ...
A. 22 April 2009: iv actually asked a few women i know this questian lately "how do i know when to make that move?" and most of them said that they wouldnt have met up with me or gone on a date in the first place if they werent sure about it, so in the longrun a kiss ... (read in full...)
How can I make her stop hating me?
Q. I'm 15 and I like this girl a lot, but the problem is she hates me, plain and simple. What can I do to make her not hate me. I'm not that bad of a person, I'm kind and considerate, I even write poetry about her, I haven't shown her my work and I ...
A. 22 April 2009: well if neither of them like you, and for no particular reason then you have nothing to loose by asking her or her best friend what the problem is. but if you want to level the playing field why dont you try an win over her bestfriend, its usually a ... (read in full...)
Why are you texting me if you don't want me?
Q. This is about texting. I know many people have many views on this topic. I don't mine if its not the only form of communication. My story is I had been talking to this guy, who use to call me all the time. We spoke several times a day and text ...
A. 20 March 2009: Maybe he's not trying to tell you anything other then let you know he appreciates your friendship, a lot of times it ends on a sour note but you should be happy, if he just likes to chat and isn't specifically spying on you (you'd know im sure) then ... (read in full...)
How can I word a text so my friend with benefits will be jealous and not let me move on?
Q. I don't know what to do - Me and this guy at work have been flirting since he arrived - after several missed opportunties and we finally kissed (about a year of flirting) he just wants friends with benefits I really want more because I like him so ...
A. 20 March 2009: instead of putting all this effort into making him jealous and pretending you like somone else i have a better idea.. go ask this guy at work if he likes you! it cant be that difficult considering you both flirt and kissed in the past, gudluk.... (read in full...)
If she is 7 months older is that a big difference ???
Q. hi .. she is 7 months older than me .. is that a problem ???? ..i like her very much and i think she likes me too ... ...
A. 20 March 2009: no not atall, 7months isnt much of an age gap no matter what your age group is, ahnks.... (read in full...)
I need some advice on how to be a success with the ladies!
Q. Another week, another night where I see people getting off with people in clubs, while I sit idly by unable to meet anyone myself. I'm starting to feel completely useless. I seem to be the only sad f**ker in the world who doesn't know how to comm...
A. 12 March 2009: i would start by not worrying about what your friends say they are getting, as all guys seem to overexaggerate these things anyway (especially when drunk). why dont you do somthing different that raises your confidence a little higher before going ... (read in full...)
I always call him...he never calls me first
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster age says 27, but poster says they are 13. Well im 13 and im dating a 13 year old boy. Every night i have to call him and every time i do he always says ill call you back later. 3 or 2 hours later he calls me back. He never calls me ...
A. 12 March 2009: you have been dating a week and your this unsure, well its not like he has taken advantage of you if it has'nt gone further then a hug, its possible he's nervous or maybe has somthing on his mind right now, id suggest you find out what it is before ... (read in full...)
How do I make this natural when we have sex?
Q. I've only ever had sex once, it was a while ago now and i was fairly drunk so it wasn't a great experience. Anyway now im seeing a guy i really like and we're going to have sex, however this time i will be sober and feeling very self conscious a...
A. 12 March 2009: id say let your partner know its technically your first time, and maybe he'll just give you a little extra guidence and you can both enjoy it more that way, but dont feel embarressed to tell him, if anything he should appretiate you more, thanks.... (read in full...)
Are all females overly critical of their appearance?
Q. Hi there...well I'm just after some opinions here. Do all females really judge themselves badly on their own appearance? I've had a couple of girlfriends in the past, both in their early 20's, who both seemed to be convinced that...
A. 8 March 2009: hello, well in my experiance..yes! and mostly all the east europeans i'v known (of which i found stunning) are even harsher on themselves, "def ears" is an understatement, cause simple complements can get pretty uncomfortable and quickly. but this ... (read in full...)
Should I really believe he's just that busy or is it all about sex?
Q. Hey, I'm so confused right now. I'm currently in medical school and I met a guy who is also in my class. We have many mutual friends, and we've hung out at a couple of parties together. My third time hanging out with him we ended up sleeping ...
A. 6 March 2009: no offence but your not a victim in this, if you had sex instead of building a solid relasionship first then he could be thinking the ensact same thing "is it just the sex?" but not all is lost, if he's still interested as you say, then take it ... (read in full...)
Weird to think sex is yuk?
Q. This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have ...
A. 6 March 2009: now that i think about it i probably felt the same way up until my mid teens, as if it was unnecessary, embarressing and generally off-putting. but now its more of a need for a strong emotional fix, as if my selfless pleasuring of another were my ... (read in full...)
Do men like women who are a little hard to get?
Q. Do guys like women who aren't too anxious to talk with them...in other words those who play a little hard to get more than those who seem like an anxious puppy waiting to hear from them again? Is this a matter of individual preference or it it a ...
A. 6 March 2009: id say thers alot of that "thrill in the hunt" going on in most mens minds. but you got to know wher to draw the line, some men get bored very easy and just move on to easyer prey so to speak. but personally however i may get the feeling that the ... (read in full...)
Do guys like being a girl's first?
Q. Do guys like being a girl's first? I'm a virgn. my boyfriend isn't and I'm just wondering what it's like for the guy. In general, however, do guys mind being a girl's first time or is it something they like? By the way, my age is wrong, I'm 16. I'd ...
A. 6 March 2009: well if i found a similar aged virgin then id be delighted to loose mine with that person, but that could be jus me... (read in full...)
How can a girl approach guys in a club without appearing desperate? or slutty?
Q. i have a birthday party to go to tomorrow night at a club, im 20 yrs old and a virgin and im not seeking for sex just yet but what i want is to find a good guy for me and im known to be a bit daring and not take bull from anyone although im not a ...
A. 6 March 2009: i would say, make sure the guy that you like is aware of your presence, if you make eye contact throw him a smile and if he still looks keen then go chat with him but be friendly and see what happens from ther, im sure you can find an excuse to get ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages from a woman at work. How to decode...?
Q. Hello. There's this woman at work who I've always liked. Problem is, she is going out with another guy - also from work. She has often flirted with me - though not when he is around. One day last week I caught her at the bottom of a stair-case. She ...
A. 5 March 2009: its possible she's doing this for your own good, if you were to "prise her away from him" then you may get hert and she may get off worse, so for her an your own good its probably best you keep it friendly an let her make up her own mind as to who ... (read in full...)
26 year old virgin needs help!
Q. I'm a 26 year old male... and I'm a virgin. Not only have I not had sex, I've only kissed a girl once. I've never had a girlfriend. I'm the guy that always got caught up with liking girls that just want to be "friends." But, I was a moron and just ...
A. 4 March 2009: cheer up my friend, i just turned 24 yesterday and i was feeling very depressed for the same reason, although i get plenty of attention but i hav'nt found anything more than casual sex offerings, but before we can take it to the next level and ... (read in full...)
I feel too shy with girls.
Q. Hi, i am shy relating to ladies. I feel sexually active like any other man. I also even imagine having sex with girls whom i am sexually attracted to. I have never had a girlfriend just because of my shyness to girls. There is a girl in our college ...
A. 3 March 2009: my first step in your situation is to always approach girls i like just as a friend, and not to let my feelings get the better of me until i get to know them much better, and by that stage you will be feeling much more confident around eachother and ... (read in full...)
Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 3 March 2009: to me i dont think i would associate "your amazing" with sex, unless it was specifically "the sex was amazing". he's probably refering to the connection you share with him, and that he feels very close to you, possibly admiration and respect who ... (read in full...)
Too tight for sex!
Q. I'm 18 and the other night I was going to have sex with my boyfriend. We were foreplaying before and he got two fingers in me then once we were actually going to have sex he couldn't get in me. It would be my first time and I told me best friend ...
A. 3 March 2009: no thers nothing to be embarrassed about, if anything it means you dont sleep around, be proud, no big deal. anyway just wait until you feel right, if you jump right in your clearly going to hert youself, so dont get too excited just build up to it ... (read in full...)
Is it too early to propose to her... I'm 14!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and I'm a sophmore in high school and she is a junior and she's going to enlist in the national gaurd and me in the navy but I really really love her and I was thinking about proposing march 31 her ...
A. 3 March 2009: how many women could you possibly have been with to know that you want to spend the rest of your life with this one girl, i dont know anyone who dated the same girl the whole way through high school let alone the rest of ther lives after that. if ... (read in full...)
Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 3 March 2009: its really good that you knew wher to draw the line, if you take this any further before he splits up with his current gf then your leaving youself open to heartbreak. if he respects you then he will stay friends until he has made up his mind, but i ... (read in full...)
Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 16 February 2009: good your being mature about this, go with your gut instinct, if you want to hang out and be friends and get to know eachother better go for it, but if you go any further your going to be back here asking if he's taking advantage of you, if you guys ... (read in full...)
| *noms's friends
These are mutual friends, so *noms has
added them and they have added *noms!
|
