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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Another week, another night where I see people getting off with people in clubs, while I sit idly by unable to meet anyone myself.I'm starting to feel completely useless. I seem to be the only sad f**ker in the world who doesn't know how to communicate with women in clubs. Clubs are not the place to pursue relationships, but frankly, if everyone else is getting some action from people in clubs, I want to get involved.I'm not some sex crazed a**hole. I just feel a little deprived. Everyone else is going out, meeting people and shagging, all the while I come back to my flat EVERY F**KING TIME without anyone. I don't want to come across as some whinging idiot who's feeling sorry for himself, but I really would like to know what to change in order to have some success with women for once!Everyone else is going out and enjoying themselves, and I'm wasting my life. How can I change? Reply to this Question
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reader, anoms +, writes (12 March 2009):
 i would start by not worrying about what your friends say they are getting, as all guys seem to overexaggerate these things anyway (especially when drunk). why dont you do somthing different that raises your confidence a little higher before going out, dress sharper, hair style, different colognes or even go to the gym if you have to but get yourself back on a positive note again, gudluk.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (12 March 2009):
 If you read your post carefully, you'll find that you already have answers to your question. You can't sit idly, or play eye contact with some young lady the whole night and then expect her to suggest coming back to your place? Yeah, you do get women like that occasionally, but honestly, most just wont put themselves out there like that. Its just the way of life that men are supposed to do the chasing. Women know that they eventually have the final say and that the rate of success for pulling for them is much higher! You just have to be out and about, socialise, talk, interact, make her smile, flirt, and most of all, be absolutely charming...and at the end of it all, suggest to her that you live not too far away, and ask her if she'd like to go back to yours for a cup of coffee. There are definitely going to be times when you're gonna get shot down, point blank, but the key here is persistence, not towards the same woman, just in general.
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