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writes:hello everyone i realy hope you can help me!!! well here goes...there is this guy at school that i realy like. and it isn't "just a crush" coz it's been nearly 10 months and i still love him like i did that very first day i saw him. But there is only one problem. he doesn't even know that i exist. well even if he does he probably doesn't care. The only time he's ever spoken to me was when i was talking to one of his mates about something and his mate asked me a question and i took long to answer and he called me a fat ass. its actually realy depressing. There is also another problem. a close friend of mine used to like him too and she knows i still like him. and she is friends with him. she tells me that they talk and joke around together and (i know this is gonna sound horrible) it makes me extremely jealous!!! i know he doesnt like me back because it is obvious when he walks past me he just looks straight ahead. I know this is realy annoying but theres another problem. he has got a girlfriend in our school, and people say that he is a player. apparently he has like 5 girlfriends all at once and he cheats on them!!! i kinda believe that coz he always flirts with my friend when i know too damn well that he isn't single!!!!!!!!!!! i either want to become friends with him (even if it's just the occasional "hello") or i want to forget about him completely until he's just some ordinary guy. but i totally freak out whenever i'm near him, i can't talk properly i just start stuttering and i start to say stupid things! i am just so shy! pleeeeaaaaassseeee help!! thanks xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): Boys are so complicated aren't they?I thought girls were!Well actually,I'm going through the exact same situation,I was looking for advice but I will give you advice!When boys are players they take advantage of girls who lik them.I know this from experience!They love it when girls drool after them.I doubt you are REALLY in love,it's just a fantasy.Try and look for a guy that is worth his looks,and by that I mean a really nice personality!If that doesn't work then RELAX!Boys can sense if girl like them.What I do when I'm around the boy I like,I cross my fingers behind my back.SMILE AROUND HIM!Boys love it when girls laugh at theirjokes!But seriously,all girls are shy around boys they like,don't worry.Don't give him the attention he craves if he doesn't even know you exist.This means he's playing with your feelings.Forget about him and turn over a fresh page.If you find it impossible to do that,then relax and try to be his close friend!Good luck!
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reader, clarenceme  +, writes (22 January 2011):
He's not worth it!!!!such a damn freakin' playboy!!A jerk!!!Forget him,stay away from him!I also experienced that situation and i was able to get over with it...Even it hurts,well at least things are still not in the coarsest part!!Hope you study first,,forget about that jerk and live life as it should be
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Girl I know how you feel! Honestly I would try stop thinking about him because he isn't worth it. He's a player and a ean jerk! He called you a fatass to me a guy who does that isn't worth it. I'm experiencing this sort of the same problem at the moment. I like the typical hot, popular and funny guy but he doesn't know I exist but I act like an idiot but I'm working on it eveentually! Anyways just try to see other boys I bet soe like YOU for YOU. I wish you the best! Us girls have to stick together! :))
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): What can i tell you that these girls haven't told you but my story. It won't help but you may find some consolation to see that your not alone. I first met him in grade school. I was only seven and he was a just a boy too. He had long hair and pretty brown eyes and he's the most beautiful boy I've met since. But that's all I know of him, just his physical appearance. We went to elementary school and part of jr. high together and I was hopelessy obsessed. We were never friends and then I moved away to a different state in seventh grade. Now, I'm a freshman in college but till this day I cannot forget the boy. If I were at close proximity to him it wouldn't make me feel so quite insane. It would just be a stupid crush. But it isn't. I'm obsessed with what was first a crush and now an idea, a fantasy; and it scares the hell out of me to know that something is not right here but what can I do? I'm crazy I admit it-
I can only hope for you that this huge "crush" you have for this boy becomes just that in the future. Because trust me you do not want to live with a obsession. Try to feel indifferent to him, I know it's impossible but try to take some control, erase him away because if you hold on to him you may not be able to let go in the future. The guy himself is a true jerk and you as an individual do not deserve that know matter how much he means to you. Give your self that repect because to recieve it from anyone else you must first give it to yourself. Best of luck.
Anonymously,
Fucking Clayton
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reader, Scenegurl  +, writes (16 August 2010):
He's rly not worth ur time, obviously he's to oblivious to see what's right infront of him, ur way too good for him, trust me ull find a guy, and when u do ull think y the he'll did I waste my time on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): I really can't even grasp why you would want to talk to a guy like that?
He insulted you and you know for a fact he can't be trusted.
I mean, I'm not going to tell you there is NOTHING you can do to get noticed. I mean, find something you have in common. Ask him a question about it and go from there. It's quite simple. I like a guy who didn't know I existed, but after I asked im about some book we started chatting more often.
In your case however, I think it's better off to leave him alone. It sounds to me like you're just infatuated and putting on him some sort of fantasy because even you can't make him sound like prince charming. In the mean time, try to become more confident. Maybe you can focus on yourself and make improvements where they're needed both inside and out. It pays off in the end and you become a better, stronger person.
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reader, blink +, writes (5 November 2009):
hoping we can chat about this matter!
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reader, blink +, writes (5 November 2009):
we actually had the same problem! know what I "like" him for almost 7 years..he's been my schoolmate from elementary to high school..now were in college but in different schools.. I still like him..he is one year ahead of me..I even saw him on the mall with his new girlfriend..I had a crush who is so mean..I thought I've already moved on in him.. but surprisingly I discovered lately that I still like him..even though he's a player.. I believe sumday he could change..and I will continue even if it hurts because there is only one true love...loving doesn't necessary give and take.. continue to love him.. if you fell he's your true love... hope we can chat about this matter...^_^
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reader, reb  +, writes (15 September 2009):
I love that you shared your problem, but i have excakly the same prob but there's nothing u can do to sovle it . I am SOOOOOOOOOO sorry to tell u this but ,as painful as it sounds, you MUST live with it . I nearly cried when I thought about never having him in my arms ,never getting close , talking or even co-oparating. just get on with your life as it is .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): i have the same problem as you bu the guy i like isn't a player... he is really nice, popular..AWESOME!! But he doesn't know me. he is the best friend from my classmate and i think my mate doesn't like me.. it's so horrible...!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): yeah i have the same probelm as you but the guy i like isnt a player he's a really nice and kind of a popular guy which makes it even worse for me. he flirts with my friend a lot. and today at school i found out that there are three more guys that like me too but i want him and not them. ughh my life totally sucks. pleaseeeeeeeee help meeeee!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): If you want to have any sort of relationship you should grow up. Nobody wants to go with someone who is obsessed. Why your interested in a player is beyond me? Why not treat him like he doesn't exist too and look at other guys who treat you like you exist.
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reader, anoms +, writes (7 May 2009):
 thers abit of a problem with this situation, you already know he's seeing more then one girl (possibly 5) but your still facinated with this guy, do you want to be number 6? cause the only thing you could get out of this is casual sex at best, but you'l find yourself even more jealous than you are now if you take this any further. it sounds more more like a fantasy than love. unfortunatly if you give a 'player' the immpresion your interested then he will most likely take advantage, so dont come accross as being desperate and keep it friendly until you know what kind of guy he is, hope you work somthing out, gudluk
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