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*llgunner
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and I'm a sophmore in high school and she is a junior and she's going to enlist in the national gaurd and me in the navy but I really really love her and I was thinking about proposing march 31 her birthday is it too early? I don't know, please some advice.
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Awww that would be so sweet to propose to her on her birthday but i think it's a little too soon don't rush into anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): YES IT IS! She'll probably be a bit creeped out! Enjyo what you have no need to get married quite yet give it a few years
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (3 March 2009):
I am 19 and got engaged when i was 15 after my fiance and i had been together 9 months and are still together. If you think you can make it work go for it but keep in mind things get hard and rocky after 1-2 years and thats when you really figure out if its worth the fight.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 It's wonderful to be in love - good for you. In my opinion though - proposing marriage right now is probably not the best idea. It is a fact that you and your gilrfriend have not finished developing yet - your brain will not be finished developing for example, until you are about 19 - and because of this you are probably not developmentally, emotionally and psycholgically ready for engagement/marriage. I am not being mean saying this - and I am not saying the love you are experiencing isn't real- I am simply stating that you are probably not ready for this 'adult' stage of life (engagement) just yet. You have not finished figuring out who you are yet - the person you are now will be different to the person you are at age 20 and so on.
Take your time. Enjoy your relationship. If you really feel you'd like a 'commitment' of some sort - what about a "promise" ring or something? Something that she can wear that says she is with you and committed to you (and vice versa) - but not quite as 'full on' as a diamond!
That's what I think.
Good luck!
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (3 March 2009):
 if you think you really love her and you think you can make things work at such a young age then go ahead but i would wait just a lil longer
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reader, Heartbroken-xx  +, writes (3 March 2009):
Try a promise ring. It's like the step before proposing. It's both of you guys making a commitment that you will wait and be together until you decide to propose.
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reader, everyminute +, writes (3 March 2009):
Yes it's too early. You're only 14yrs old. You may think you're in love but do you even know what love is? You're going to meet so many more people out there, explore, have fun, and dont settle too soon.
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reader, anoms  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 how many women could you possibly have been with to know that you want to spend the rest of your life with this one girl, i dont know anyone who dated the same girl the whole way through high school let alone the rest of ther lives after that. if you break the mold thats great but the odds are slim very slim. at your age 6months is a long time, you didnt mention how long you have been seeing her, but im sure its well under a year and for that reason il suggest you wait much longer, dont get me wrong im sure she would be totally flattered and probably to excited to say "no" because she's going to want to tell all her friends. if you already bought a ring then you could still give it to her, but i advise you do it playfully and not in the manner of marriage, well sorry for the negativity, best of luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Listen, sweet. I personally think that neither one of you is heading off at least until you finish school. Do that first. Then, if you're both graduated, still together and in love and prepared to make a lifelong commitment, THEN do some proposing. For now, I think a romantic gesture would be to give her a promise ring - sort of an "engaged to be engaged" symbol. It will mean a lot to her and certainly to your relationship together.
But yes, I do think it's too early. I think it's completely romantic, but too early.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Um, DUH it's too early! You're what, 15? And you've been with this girl for six months. You might be a little crazy, lol.
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (3 March 2009):
kllgunner is verified as being by the original poster of the question idk why it says that im actually 16
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