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writes:This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have already "done it" and some of them are younger than me. and frankly the idea disgusts me. The thought of doing that makes me want to gag. Is feeling that way about it, at my age a little weird? (and yes I hit puperty last year so, the "your hormones arn't hard at work yet" thing can't work)I just have to sey that i'm happy this is anonymous!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Completely normal and healthy!! Why think about sex when you've got better things to do?? Continue having fun and who cares who doing it all not. If your not ready your just plain not ready.....
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reader, audie  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 at your age i think you should be aplauded and i dont think you're wierd at all. you r still young and sex ought to be the last thing on your mind. it will come to you(the intrest in sex) as u grow older. till then enjoy being young and innocent. most people i know regret becoming sexually active too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): It's a good view to detain, especially when you're your age:) Just do it when you don't findit disgusting :)
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You know when your younger, you think all boys are disgusting and they've got the lurgie and whatever else? And then when you get older you're suddenly attracted to the lads and you really want a boyfriend ect. ect. thinking that sex is gross is just like that, it's not weird it's natural, once you get a bit more older you're more than likely to change your mind about sex. See it as a good thing, at least you're not slutting yourself about :D xangelx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Nothing is weird in sex. Some are sexual even in their mom's womb. Some people stay asexual all their lives. Some start to like it at arbitrary ages. Nothing is weird. All are fine.
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reader, Wonderfulsofar +, writes (6 March 2009):
It's not weird at all,sex becomes desirable at different times for everyone.You will come to find it attractive eventually.
Personally I found sex icky for a good while after I hit puberty,for me that stemmed from not being comfortable with my sexuality.
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reader, anoms +, writes (6 March 2009):
 now that i think about it i probably felt the same way up until my mid teens, as if it was unnecessary, embarressing and generally off-putting. but now its more of a need for a strong emotional fix, as if my selfless pleasuring of another were my way of showing my love and appreciation, wel i think thats it, gudluk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Definitely not weird at all. Totally normal. A lot of the kids you know who have already "done it" don't really understand why they are doing it or how they feel about it -- they're doing it because it makes them feel older, or because they think they're supposed to, or whatever. It's not until later that people start to appreciate it for the right reasons. (And even once you no longer think it's "yuk" -- one day you won't -- that won't necessarily be the time to just dive right in. It's good to keep a clear head about these things, b/c sex is pretty powerful, and it's best when done wisely.)
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (6 March 2009):
 It's so refreshing to hear that you think sex is yuk, at your age, you should think it's yuk. At least, I did. Nothing wrong dear. I thought it was yuk until about 16 but I'm shocked to ready girls your age who are so ready to have it. Enjoy being young.
I admire you so much, stay blessed.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (6 March 2009):
Isn't anonymity fun!
Anyway, at 13, not weird at all. Even with your puberty. Now if you were 18, and you hadn't had a sexual (e.g. "i just want to touch him/her") response to men or women, that would I think be unusual. We're all pretty similar, some variations in how often or how strong the response, to whom we respond, and when it starts, but that response is eventually there in pretty much everyone.
I was the short guy when I was 13. I'm 6 foot now. Things take time.
Oh and when the idea no longer disgusts you, if you don't want to get pregnant, use protection!
And now back to the teen pregnancy questions... ;-)
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You're perfectly normal!
Don't worry. Some people have really high sex drives and some people don't.
Every person starts desiring sex at a different age. Just relax and enjoy being with friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): It really isn't strange,just because you have hormones doesn't mean sex will be appealing to you,for me it took a few years after I reached puberty to veiw sex as attractive and not strange.You have plenty of time dear and it's probably the best attitude to have towards sex at your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): NO it is not weird to think that. You are too young to be thinking about sex anyway and so are your friends that have done it. I have a 12 year old daughter who feels the same way you do and I am glad that she isnt in a hurry to make me a grandmother so soon. Keep it up!
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