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*sunshine.
writes:My ex boyfriend and I have been together for 9 and a half months. since the summer. were only in middle school. In the beginning, he would mess around with me saying its over blah blah blah..and it was kinda a joke just between us. so when school started we got really close. we met eachothers families and it was great. i would sometimes tell him its over just to mess around with him. he knew it was a joke and would say no its not. and it made me wanna get closer with him because i knew when he said "i will love you forever" he meant it. i know your probably thinking oh your too young. but if were to young seriously how old do you have to be to fall in love? so after a while we started hanging out at eachothers houses. mostly his. his family really likes me. we had our first kiss, our song, our first date, blah blah blah all that crap. we were really falling in love. i kept saying it was over (our joke). all my friends gave me crap like why are you with him blah blah blah. i didnt really care because i wanted to be with him and he wanted to be with me. then i told him i cheated on him..and that wasnt the real story. the guy i "cheated" on him with was an old crush. and the truth is i didnt cheat on him. he almost raped me. but i always told him no. he got on top of me and i was too weak to push him off. luckily i had to leave. i just told ray i cheated on him because i felt like i had to take the blame. and idk why but i guess its cuz i loved him. and he stayed with me after that. but to this day he still doesnt know the truth. His "friend" is trying to hit on me and tell me that me almost getting raped it my fault! what the flip? and as months went on, i told him it was over. as a joke. and he told me some pretty secret stuff and im the only girl he has ever told. he must have really trusted me. so after that i started letting my guard down knowing i wasnt going to get hurt. and we were getting really close and i told him stuff know one knows. after a while i guess he got tired of our joke and broke up with me. he said it was just for a week. so he asked out another girl and told me he still loves me and just wanted to go out with her for a week. and wed go back out. so im like a rebound or something. and because i loved him and wanted to see him happy i told him stay with her and he said no. just a week. and i let him go. Its been two weeks and they have already broken up. he still hasnt come back. now he wont even look at me. he still hasnt told his parents so they asked me what happened and i told them. is there still something there if he didint tell his parents? and ive tried telling him sorry and that if we can be friends but he just walks away. i really miss him. and everywhere i go, everything i do, hear, see, say, or anything reminds me of him. everything!!. my question is what do i do? do i let go and move on? do i keep trying? do i try to be his friend? do i tell him the truth about how i "cheated" on him? what do i do? either way i know im going to get hurt. i always set myself up for this kinda thing. i always get hurt. no matter how hard i try to keep my guard up, no matter how hard i try not to trust people. it always happens. So what do i do? cuz ive never believed in love until i met him and i never thought id love him the way i do. all i know is there will never be anyone who has changed me so much and who has made me fall so hard and fast. help!!!! what do i do??
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reader, .sunshine. +, writes (13 May 2009):
.sunshine. is verified as being by the original poster of the question okay. well were friends again!! and he started flirting with me. i wanna know if he still likes me..should i ask him? but the thing is he started talking to me outta no where. he said he hated me and then he started talking to me. he made the first move. does that mean something? do you think well be perminant friends or was he talkin to me just a one time thing? ahh!! help. i wanna let go but i cant. ughh..and if were friends thats good enough for me but i wanna be more than friends. do i ask him if he still likes me? and should i just try talking to him even though itll be hard for me? i just hope i dont fall even more in love with him in the process.
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reader, anoms  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 well keep it in mind that you thought you would never find love, considering your very young it didnt take you that long for a start, so you have plenty more time lol
its interesting that his parents are unaware.. since your well aqauinted you could always go over to his house and talk to him, if his parents dont know about the breakup then he is hardly going to throw you out, if anything he will be forced to talk it over with you. im not saying you should get back with him as he was clearly using you as a rebound, he's most likely embarressed because he thought this other girl was going to last longer then two weeks, if he's not man enough to talk to you then its no real loss, ther will be others, gudluk
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