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writes:just something thats bothering me. There are so many girls from the age of 10 - 16 having under age sex and not knowing a single thing about it then going oops could i be pregnant. its really depressing because when i was little i was content as a child i never even thought of the concept because i was too young and had better things to do. kids are so unruly but when they ask for advice and you treat them like an adult because they seem to think they are before their doing things before their time they huff at you what am i supposed to say awww its ok its not your fault for being naieve and silly and being like a sheep in a flock oh shes having sex lets all do it and have children before we're 16 and be on benefits because we didnt respect the law and us people who work hard have to pay for their stupidness. just gets me sometimes how whats gone so wrong that children dont respect the boundaries that are put in place to keep them safe from themselves. any input would be nice aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): Oh your such an angel. You should win a nobel peace prize!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (1 June 2009):
aphexinfinite is verified as being by the original poster of the question Not all teens are dumb im 13 i use condoms.I have sex cos its fun and i love it.Im not one of those kids who copys others i do what i want to do cos im me so dont blame others its the kids who are stupid for trying to be "cool" -- its illegal and if either are caught their are jail terms your suposed to be nieve and playing with your dollys not trying to be an adult. sex is suposed to be something special not something you do because your bored and you want fun. kids have no morals and i blame the parents because their not getting enough attention oo give them an xbox and that will shut them up. why the hell is it your parents dont catch you out? you doing in a bush after school oh thats nice. all i can see is the younger generation will only do it younger and all they will be seen as a bunch of tarts who got bored and had nothing better to do. i only wish that the system was better than what it is we have been slipping to long. and yes i was nieve when i was young i ddnt even question sex till i was 15 because one it was against the law and i respect the law and two because it was something adults did. and no i havent done drugs because their not good for you and i know many people who have done them and only bad things happen i rarely drink because i seen people who drink daily and its not good for them or their family so. at the end of the day all you 13 yr olds who are having sex have no respect and its dispicable. aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Not all teens are dumb im 13 i use condoms.I have sex cos its fun and i love it.Im not one of those kids who copys others i do what i want to do cos im me so dont blame others its the kids who are stupid for trying to be "cool"
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): I think the parents get too much blame. I blame the media for it! If the media didnt splash all these images of stick thin models everywhere and sex and amy winehouse and her addictions kids wouldnt think it was cool. Everyone needs to try these things and everyone needs to grow up. I'm sure that you werent all angels at that age, i'm sure everyones tried drugs. Its all a part of growing up, kids are just doing it too young these days because they dont sometimes realise the extent of what theyre getting into. Its all to fit in really, because teenagers are sheep. If nancy slaters smoking weed and sleeping with all the boys then your not cool not to be doing, that kinda thing. Its just a big game, kids dont think about consequences, they just want to feel grown up and have a good time! I reckon also that they love the feeling of rebellion, and they love annoying their parents. Its been the same right from the sixties.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (31 May 2009):
aphexinfinite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your replys mostly older sister their are alot of factors i agree with you on. but i feel the more shameful thing is if a kids asked whose the father they go i dont know well i slept with 7 guys this month sooooooooo. they dont even respect themselves and treating their bodys like trash. so many couples cannot concieve and their out their getting stds and not knowing who the father is i bet it breaks theirs hearts. we were changing for the better and all of a sudden we took a massive down turn like anything else in the UK corrupt goverments, low pay high produce costs i think i partially blame the parents in how they both have to work full hours and do not get the time with the kids and teach them the things they need to know. so many things you could say but their isnt one answer to this question. which their was a solution that would fix all this and children would respect themselves more and adults.
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reader, anoms +, writes (31 May 2009):
 some good points their. in the west we abuse our rights of freedom way too much, and the kids nowadays have terrible role models because t.v, fasion, magazines and the internet sells so much sex these days and everyone will do anything to get just a little more attention than the next person, things are going to get crazier yet im sure, and even im guilty on this one..not that i ever walk around in a t-shirt if i can help it. but if you consider the countries that dont have a fraction of these problems (i wont name them) then you notice how differenty their government treats them to ours, obviously we dont want our society to go backwards, but i think this is what it comes down to.. we have too many choices and no one ever wants the responsibility!
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reader, pebble +, writes (30 May 2009):
 You raise some good points. I find it extremely annoying to think that my hard earned tax money is being paid toward some 14 year old girl's child benefit (whose paraents are stil getting child benefit for her!). I've been called a hypocrite several times by people who have read my profile and realised I'm 19 and pregnant myself. I always feel the need to defend my actions - I was just that 1% that the pill doesn't work for and you know what? I'm cool with that because I understood what might possibly happen when I had sex in the first place. I knew there was a risk and I was ok with it. Anyway, I am in a stable two year relationship, we have a house and full time jobs, we're happy and will manage fine.These girls really do not seem to understand the consequences of their actions. It's really sad. You hear so many girls saying "I had unprotected sex, could I be pregnant?". What?! I almost don't believe it sometimes.I think partly it's because of our extremely sexualized world (media coverage, singers, fashions etc...), sex is being thrust at these girls as they grow up and most of the time in the media it isn't associated with babies. For example, female popstars thrusting around with their legs open in videos doesn't scream sh*tty nappies and sleepless nights. It's portrayed to be glamourous and beautiful. And it's what most young girls these days would love to be because their self esteem has been so shattered by these images in the first place.It's important to seperate these images from reality and that's where I think parents should come in. A lot of parents just let these girls do whatever the hell they feel like without asking a single question. How do these girls get to spend so much time alone with boys in the first place without their parents knowing? Or do they just not care? Ultimately, it's up to parents to educate and advise and if necessary prevent their daughters and sons having sex completely. Most of it is just terrible parenting.What I'm worried about is when all these kids born to young teenage mothers grow up. What will they be? Nicely rounded, intelligent individuals? Sadly, they are the future of our country and that is very scary thought.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (30 May 2009):
 I'm 15 and yes i am one of the stupid teenagers that just wants to grow up to fast and does everything underage.
You seem to put us under one label though.
There are girls that want to go out and have sex with any random person just for the fun of it. I think they do this because they just want to fit in, Girls 14+ normaly have friends in collage which are leagal and they just want to copy the sex, drinking and drug taking without a care in the world about it.
Then there are people which are like me. They have a Long term boyfriend who their parents approve of and have complete trust in. They go out and find the risks about sex and get protected so they don't end up with unwanted pregnacys and STI's. We don't take sex lightly, we do it with one person we trust and love and know they love and trust us back. We Drink, but not to excess so we don't end up with a bad reputation and Drugs are a big no no, you must be stupid to think people are going to think your cool if your higher than the sky.
I understand how it must upset you teenagers breaking the rules but its just because we want to grow up and live. But please don't put all teenage girls under one label because some of us have respect for ourselfs and go out and try to do the right thing before we make our dessions. Its only a handfull of teenagers that don't care what happens to them and go out and do things as they please.
Livia
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): I blame the kids themselves.I blame the parent.I blame TV.Well, I just blame everything. It's so silly though, in high school all I cared about was getting to the arcade on the weekends, or surviving the school year.I guess they think it makes them grown up, but maybe when they do they'll think they should have taken advantage of being a kid. Not having loads of pressure and responsibility on you before 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): You make good points. I blame the 60s revolutions for everything bad about todays society! Without the sixties men would still be about romance and women wouldn't dare sleep with a man until they were married!
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