I don't know what to do with my life
Q. hello, well this is going to sound really random. but im scared with what to do with my life. im going into my last two years of high school and im taking my GCSEs pretty soon. Ive always liked the ideas of writing books, i have good ideas but then...
A. 15 August 2008: It is perfectly normal not to really know what you want to do at your age, and the truth is most people don't really know until much older. Many university students only really begin to decide near the end of their degrees, and most people change ... (read in full...)
I want to put my literary work in the Internet, but not without the copyright! How to obtain it?
Q. Is it possible to obtain copyright for literary work you don't publish / not yet? I want to put my poems in the net but not without the copyright ,which the Internet as far as i know, doesn't provide. Any views on this or any suggestions on how best...
A. 12 August 2008: Copyright laws vary from country to country so you would need to check out exactly what the law is where you are.
However, in most places when you create something (like a poem) you automatically have the copyright to it. You don't actually... (read in full...)
All I want to know is, do you think this boy likes me?
Q. From now on to make it easier, #1= the person who doesn't like the guy i do. #2= the person who likes this guy alot. #3= the true friend who doesn't hate him and doesn't fancy him either. #2 won't stop going on about him. my friend text him and ...
A. 12 August 2008: It sounds like he likes you, but you'll never know for sure unless you ask him!
Who cares about #1,#2, and #3 - do what you feel is right.... (read in full...)
He shows up everywhere--is he a stalker or is it fated?
Q. Hello guys, just a quick question. For about three months i have been bumping into this man. They don't appear to be usual meetings either. First he nearly knocked me down, which obviously set me off noticing him. It was my fault of course, cos i ...
A. 11 August 2008: The chances are it's neither fate nor a stalker. Rather, you probably past each other loads of times before, but you just didn't notice. After all, we all walk past 100s of people every day and when those people live or work in the same area as us ... (read in full...)
Am I allowed to masterbate, even when I have a boyfriend?
Q. I feel horny all the time but i have a boyfriend am i supposed to use him for my sexual pleasure? Or do people in relationships masterbate too? Im only 15 btw...
A. 11 August 2008: There is no right or wrong answer to this - everyone is different.
Some people find their desire for masturbation vanishes when with a partner, other people find it is still there. Some people hate the thought of their partner masturba... (read in full...)
How do you deep throat without wanting to gag?
Q. My guy wants to try doing things that are more sexual. I have given him oral before but he wants me to start deep throating it. I tried it and its really hard because I feel like I am going to gag. Does any one have any tips on how to please him ...
A. 11 August 2008: Deep throating is something that most of us can't do, and is more the preserve of the professional porn star than the average girl in the street.
The gag reflex is quite natural, and we have it for a reason - to stop us choking amongst other th... (read in full...)
Well he told me he loves me and I am skeptical if it is true or not?
Q. I am with a guy right now. He seems too good to be true honestly.I have 2 kids from a previous relationship and he has one. But my question is he used to be a player and would tell the girls he was with he loved them just so he could have sex with ...
A. 11 August 2008: How does anyone know for sure how someone else is feeling?
You judge by their actions, and the way that they treat you. Often it quickly becomes clear if someone is a "player" because no matter what they say, their actions give the game away pre... (read in full...)
We have been together 4 months, when is the right time to have sex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I was wondering when is the right moment to have sex or if we should wait a little bit longer?...
A. 5 August 2008: And as a follow up to what I just said, I notice you are in the US and the laws on age of consent are different there to here in the UK - so if you are not old enough yet, not until you are!... (read in full...)
We have been together 4 months, when is the right time to have sex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I was wondering when is the right moment to have sex or if we should wait a little bit longer?...
A. 5 August 2008: When you both feel ready to is the plain and simple answer.
Don't feel pressurised to do it (or not to do it) because you've been together for 4 months, or any other length of time. It's not about time, but about feelings and commitment.
... (read in full...)
We are both in committed relationships, but for four years, as we work together, we have flirted, chatted, and she had begun to literally chase me, so I asked her out, via e-mail, she rejected me and completely turned off, I am confused, please help
Q. Hi. I've been attracted to this woman at work for nearly 4 years. During this time we've both been in committed relationships. Recently my 'will power' has started ebbing away. I can safely say that we like each other and are friendly towards each ...
A. 4 August 2008: I'm sorry to say this, but I think there's a good chance she was just joking around and thought you were too. After all, you both were / are in relationships so it would have seemed a safe yet fun and saucy way of brightening up the work day.
... (read in full...)
My question is more for my mother than me,please read.
Q. Hello My question is more for my mother then me. She has dating 2`men for over 2 almost 3 years and now it is starting to come apart on her and she is really depressed and she dont know what to do. /One of her bfs is 65 and he is financially stable ...
A. 4 August 2008: From the brief bit of information you have given, it does sound to me like you have already given your mother the best advice. BUT... You are not your mother, and she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions and living with the co... (read in full...)
How can I make my beautiful young sexy wife agree to have sex with my friends?
Q. I have been married since 3 years and have a 2 yr. old son. There is something going on inside me, which turns me on. My wife is very beautiful, young, sexy, but she is a homely girl. I want to see my wife having sex with 2-3 guys at a time in front ...
A. 4 August 2008: What you are thinking about is a pretty common fantasy, but there is a big difference between a fantasy and what it would be like in reality.
Of course, some couples do enjoy "swinging" but for that to happen it has to be something both partners... (read in full...)
Married to a gay man - do I stay with him for the sake of the children?
Q. I am married with two children. Three years ago I found out my husband was having an affair with another man. He still lives at home and continues his relationship with this man. I don't have it in me to throw him out and get on with my life. I am ...
A. 4 August 2008: Conventional thought about relationships and marriage would lead you to say "He loves someone else, kick him out and get on with your life." But, sometimes the best solutions can be found by thinking a little differently.
Are you and your husband ... (read in full...)
Why does he like them and not me? What have they got that I haven't?
Q. I just cannot understand this man! I havent known him long and we havent had sex. I met him on holiday and of course I understand holiday romances, but it would be so easy for me to see him where he lives as I have a friend who lives not far from ...
A. 4 August 2008: Of course it would be your choice if you were happy to be one of his women, but as he hasn't asked he obviously doesn't want you to be. I can see three possible reasons for this from what you have said.
One is he is just looking for sex - as you d... (read in full...)
I know it's said that size is not important but how you use "it", so can you give me a pointer or two of what this actually means?
Q. I am 20 years old and i am a VIRGIN!!! I know pathetic right. Well anyways I have met this girl and we have been seeing each other for almost 6 monthes and she is starting to pressure me about sex. Everytime we start to do it I get scared and freeze ...
A. 3 August 2008: It's normal to feel nervous before the first time we have sex with someone.
Don't worry at all about how big, or small, you are - most guys over estimate how big they are, and the average is a lot smaller than you might think!
The how you u... (read in full...)
Husband says he feels "smothered" and does not know what he wants. Should I stick around to see what he decides?
Q. I have been married for a little over two years. It has been rocky, but I have been committed and trying to do all I can to make the marriage work. Anyway, a few months ago, my husband simply decided he didn't want to be married anymore, which of...
A. 3 August 2008: If he "feels smothered" my advice would be to give him as much space as he needs.
In fact, give him so much space that he can see you are planning the rest of your life without him. Start looking after your own future, making decisions about wh... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up just I want to be able to be okay with him being so far away.-Any tips?
Q. I need to hear some advice. I am 20 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Lately i have been pushing him away, i think it is because he is about to leave for college, he has been attending a community college up untill now. ...
A. 3 August 2008: It is natural to be scared of change, but you can make things easier for yourself (and your boyfriend) by planning about how you are going to deal with the distance now rather than just hoping it will be ok.
If the two of you can sit down and talk... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 3 August 2008: He was cheating, so you decided to cheat on him, and now he's turned into a control freak.
This isn't a case of one of you being in the wrong, and the other being in the right. Sorry, but you are both in the wrong.
You need to ask yourself why... (read in full...)
My husband only eats carbs and doesn't care about his health!
Q. my husband only eats carbs like pizza twice a week, pasta with chicken in red souce, english muffins, chocolates, he only drinks cramberry juice which with a lot of effort I changed him to light cramberry juice no vegetables and no fruits he dosen't ...
A. 3 August 2008: You describe your husbands eating habits but not yours. You presumably are eating a healthy, balanced diet which means I can only conclude that you are not eating together.
I know it can be difficult to find time these days to sit down and eat ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but attracted to gay men...I don't know what to do
Q. Hi i'm only 16 and I'm straight,but the thing is i'm extremely attracted to gay men.I don't just mean there attitudes.The biggest turn on for me is watching two guys going at it,I feel like such a freak!I tried to tell my friend she said it was ...
A. 3 August 2008: Weird? Unnatural? Freak? Certainly not. A bit different? Maybe, but human sexuality comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes and everyone is attracted to different things, and you are certainly not the only woman attracted to gay men. There are lots... (read in full...)
My fiance's grieving is hurting our relationship. Is it normal?
Q. Hello all, My fiance's dad past away two weeks ago. I have never been through the death of a loved one meanless to say I have no references to help her out. We live in Florida and her dad past away where he lived in California. We flew the...
A. 3 August 2008: "is it normal to be mad at everyone even the one you love?"
It is not only normal, it is more likely that we will express the anger towards those we love precisely because we love them.
You are a safe avenue for her to express these feelings a... (read in full...)
Health question: Cyst/ovary pain. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I come with a question mainly for the females and anyone else who, well, has ovaries! Since I was 18 (gonna be 27 next month), I have had moderate to severe pain in my left ovary. I had gone to the emergency room at least tw...
A. 3 August 2008: That sounds awful - and it sounds to me like something you need to be talking to a qualified medical professional about rather than well meaning aunts (and any uncles that happen to have overies!)
Someone may have experienced something similar ... (read in full...)
Do me and my best mate fancy eachother?
Q. Do me and my best mate fancy eachother? im confused and embarrassed at the fact that i think i fancy my bestmate. i think about her most of the time, we are constantly texting eachother through the day, and on a night we talk for hours online. S...
A. 3 August 2008: Having a close friend of the same sex as yourself, and both wanting and enjoying spending lots of time with that person does not make you bisexual.
Wanting to have sex with someone of the same gender does.
You have not said that you are phy... (read in full...)
A troubled marriage and a demanding husband. Could being alone be better?
Q. Hi all, i would like an honest answer to my situation please. Since getting married my life has been a total roller coaster, i am married now for over 2 years. after a few months of marriage my husband left me, we got back after 3 months but had...
A. 1 August 2008: I would never tell someone that I thought they should give up their marriage because I believe it is a serious decision that only they can make.
So, I will say this instead.
Think about all the things that mean "the perfect marriage" to you... (read in full...)
Should I offer to be his first? It doesn't matter that we are just mates as I'm leaving anyway.
Q. I have a close male friend who I basically grew up with. He's very sweet and funny when you get to know him. The problem is that he is painfully shy and not very attractive. He's never asked anyone out and the girls around here won't give him a ...
A. 1 August 2008: I am going to put ethical questions to one side (such as is it right to have sex with someone we don't love) and presume you have thought about them and are happy with your own answers.
The danger is he will misinterpret having sex with you as a... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want kids but won't use contraception...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going nearly a year now, and it seems to be going great but one thing bugsme all the time, He doesnt want anymore kids he already has a 2year old and says he dosent want any more where one day i would love to have one ...
A. 1 August 2008: If you carry on the way you have been doing, sooner or later you will get pregnant, want kids or not.
What happens then? If he doesn't want kids will he stick around, or do a runner?
Contraception is the responsibility of both partners, and on... (read in full...)
My husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer, how do I deal?
Q. Hi, well my husband and I have been together since we were sixteen (dated for six years, engaged a year, and married the last three years). We have a six-month-old son and he is just the most beautiful thing in the world! I am now pregnant again and ...
A. 1 August 2008: That is awful news for anyone to find out, and it sounds like you have a beautiful relationship and growing family which makes it worse to hear.
Finding out something like this can make us feel like the ground has suddenly disappeared from und... (read in full...)
Do you think the information I gave my ex's friend got back to him?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles could do with some advice: I had a conversation with my ex boyfriends friend who I had never met before. He asked me if I still had feelings for him and I admitted that I did. A couple of other of his friends were around a...
A. 1 August 2008: Who knows? I would say there is a decent to good chance that the information got back to him, but I would be guessing as much as you are.
The real question is do you want him to know?
If you don't want him to know, then presume he has been told... (read in full...)
Our relationship has fallen apart due to misunderstandings with his family! I need perspective!
Q. Ok Here goes, about two and a half months ago i met the most amazin guy from this online dating website and let say is name was Will* we exchanged emails and then phone numbers , when we met up finally we hit it off straight away , we then w...
A. 1 August 2008: Remind me, who were you dating? Will or Danielle?
For some reason, probably because they were adopted and felt they only had each other, this man and his sister have become far too dependant on each other.
It sounds to me that throughout Danie... (read in full...)
How can I improce my dress sense so women will take notice?
Q. Hi, A few people have commented on my (currently) bland and scruffy dress sense (and it is!) so I need a clothing makeover. I know it will be different for all women, but what clothes and dress sense do women find "casually smart" on a man,...
A. 1 August 2008: You need to think more about what you like and will feel both comfortable and confident wearing. That is far more important (and attractive) than trying to create a false image. As long as you look like you take pride in your appearance (and ... (read in full...)
I have had it with this guy and don't want to see him anymore, but my Dad doesn't back me up
Q. Hi, I'm hoping someone can help me with my problem. (i'm sorry it's running long)There was this guy from my church who really likes me. In the very beginning, he was sweet and really polite and fun to ahng out with, yet he is an illegal citizen ...
A. 31 July 2008: You and your parents are all adults and capable of making your own decisions.
If your dad likes this guy and is friends with him then that is his decision and you can't really expect him to drop his friend because you don't like him.
But wha... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 31 July 2008: The simple answer is of course he is "into that". The real question is does he want you to be "into that" as well, and how big an issue will it be later on? How openly and honestly do you talk to each other about your desires and likes in ... (read in full...)
I don't want our daughter to be involved with the "other woman"!
Q. my boyfriend and i have a five year old daughter together. after an eight year relationship he says that he dont love me. days after he tells me this he is with another woman. i do not want my daughter to see him if he is with her. what do i do?...
A. 31 July 2008: I am assuming that you no longer live together and that he now lives with this other woman? If you are still living together then it would be highly inappropriate for your daughter to meet this new woman until after he has moved out at which point ... (read in full...)
My online guy is pressuring my for naughty photos... is this a bad sign?
Q. Theres this guy who I have been chatting to on msn, from an online dating website. We havent actually met yet cause he lives in a different city, but closer to the end of the year, I already had plans to move to his city for university, so w...
A. 31 July 2008: A bad sign? You should be seeing red flashing lights and a huge warning sign saying "Get out now!"
A stranger that you have never met is trying to push you into sending him naughty photos and won't take no for an answer. How many other girls is... (read in full...)
Why is everyone I love leaving me? My mum's so upset, it's making me worse!
Q. Hya, my name is Jodie, i was just wondering if you could help me. You see i don't know what to do, as i've just recently come out of a relationship that i wanted to be in my whole life, and i'm tryin my hardest to get over him. But now i have my mum ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi Jodie,
It never rains but it pours, eh?
Your step dad isn't leaving you, he is leaving your mum. Whatever has gone on between them has led to this decision and it would be unfair on both of them if they had stayed together just so he could... (read in full...)
Will the nurse give me a pregnancy test at the appointment?
Q. A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were cuddling without any clothes on … he pre-came near - but not in - my vagina. The next day, I got the morning-after pill, just in case. I’m on the contraceptive pill, and on my week break, but I’ve not ...
A. 30 July 2008: The chances of you being pregnant are very low indeed. In fact I would be shocked if you were!
But, if you are worried it is better to find out and put your mind at rest so you are doing the right thing in checking.
They will probably do a ur... (read in full...)
My newly religious exhusband told our daughters that I and my new boyfriend are going to hell! How do I unring this bell?
Q. I was married to a man for about 6 years and we have two daughters together (one 8, one 6). We got divorced a couple of years ago (we weren't getting along, and the divorce was pretty messy). Now, I take care of the kids most of the time, but he has ...
A. 30 July 2008: I can't possibly advise on legal issues as I'm sure the law is different in Canada to here. I can suggest talking to a lawyer though - it shouldn't cost much to get a proper answer to your question and the trouble with religious families is they ... (read in full...)
I want to go out with my good friend my age but two grades behind me in school. How can I ask without risking losing his friendship?
Q. there's this guy I've known since I was really little. We're best friends. He even lives just across the street from me! See, my problem is that he's a little less than a year younger than me. But he's 2 grades below me! I think he likes me... AL...
A. 30 July 2008: If he's trying to hold hands with you, I reckons there's a good chance that he fancies you!
You don't really have to risk saying anything to him - next time he tries to hold your hand while hanging out let him. Give him a bit of encourag... (read in full...)
How do I ask a friend for a date? I'd like to get involved, but I'm afraid of losing him.
Q. i really, reallly like this guy, but he's a pretty good friend of mine. i'm worried that if i tell him or ask him out and he doesn't return my feelings, he'll pull away from me. also, his friend told me he liked me, but i have no idea if he was ...
A. 30 July 2008: If we decide to tell a friend that we have feelings we always run the risk that we will push them away from us if they don't feel the same. The other side of the coin is that if they do feel the same we gain a boyfriend and hopefully a great ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't know what he wants and he distanced himself from me. I don't know why.
Q. Hi everyone, After being single from a guy I really loved for over 6 months I finally met a really nice guy. His names andrew, hes 22 and Im 27. He works as a care worker and I am a teacher, we have lots in common and get on very well. We have me...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi Craig,
I think you might well find the answer in him being 22. You've had fun dating, and the next step is to get serious about each other and that probably scares him a bit. How many guys at 22 are ready to make a commitment?
Even if you'r... (read in full...)
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