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*az74
writes:I have been married since 3 years and have a 2 yr. old son. There is something going on inside me, which turns me on. My wife is very beautiful, young, sexy, but she is a homely girl. I want to see my wife having sex with 2-3 guys at a time in front of me. Whenever i have sex with her, i always say her that have sex with my friends. But she always laugh, ignores and in end says politely "NO". When she is very horny while having sex, she says "Yes", but after sex she says me that she said yes bcoz she wanted to make me happy while having sex. Can anyone assist me? How i make her agree for sex with my friends? Then how i cud ask my friend to have sex with my wife? Plz give me some positive answers. Thanx.
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reader, onebeautifulwife  +, writes (2 February 2010):
Dear eaz74,
Just saw your blog and felt obliged to respond. Of the 4 types of love that exists, love of your parents, love of your siblings, love of your children, the love between you and your spouse is the key and central. It determines ownership. If you share your spouse, something very special, the true bond of love and true ownership of ones love between you and your wife will be destroyed. It will have a devastating impact that will ruin her and you. All for the sake of a few moments of excitement. Please, please don't destroy your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Dude. You have issues. Please see a specialist. Like now. After you read this- actually go and call one up. Do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Well, me got same story.
But she always said that during sex "YES" and after that
answer was NO. She is too a beautifull woman. I never made any pressure for her to do that. Because I don`t know why, but me too love this fantasy during sex and when she looks so so sexy while she wear sexy cloths.
I think you must not try to do that often. Because repect her since she only wants you nacked with her than any other person. Because if you will carry on this, then maybe she will left you.
Sorry for my poor english.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): when you are sex tell your friends to come then ask her to have sex with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I think women have a freedom of speech nowadays...
Or is it myth that women are respected?!
A lot of men - more than you think - have posted questions similar to this saying it turns them on. But surely sex is a two way thing between a man and a woman?! With it being very biast onto one side, it doesn't work.
I think you should respect your wifes wishes and - if you have to - seek help because this isn't fair on your wife.
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reader, desperate_angel +, writes (6 August 2008):
 ooops, this is something weird. please ask yourself first if you really love your wife. what would you feel if its the other way around will you agree? Respect her decesion thats it
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 I am terribly shocked! positive answer??? Huh......
I suggest you go see psychiatric! you need help! or you should be ready to loose your wife. You should respect her decision. No means NO. If you want her to do that for your fantasy! you don't need a wife... just stick with porn. You are ridiculous! I don't believe there is such a human being exist in the world! - Wake up mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): what the fucking hell is wrong with you?i mean, hello?do you want to lose your wife? if my husband asked me to screw other guys i'd sure as hell slap him across the face,I love my guy,k, and us women want to make love to the men we love,not some random jerk that our husband set up with us! If you truly love your wife you will get over that major turn on thing inside you and just love her for as long as you can, cuz if you dont, you WILL lose her.Dumbass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Positive answer????????????
You are playing Russian Roulette you may end up paying a price, or you may not.
Once along time ago my partner kept on and on at me to do the same, first time i heard this i was totally shocked at how my man could want me to sleep with other men. I am broad minded , but emotionally it hurt me and then began to confuse me and made me feel inadequate as his woman. I began to feel unwanted and how could we carry on when i knew deep down he wanted to see me with other men for big turn on he needed more apparently.
After a year of hearing this fantasy i said ok if you want to play r.r we will. I asked him to pick one of my sexy dresses and i asked him if he was sure he wanted me to materialise his fantasy.
I went out that evening a single woman and had sex with another man that i met. Back home he was happy with reality. I had hoped deep down in my heart that he would change his mind at the last Minuit or regret it and never want me to do it again, that never happened. Each night that i went for a few drinks i would do the same and each time something died inside me.
I am not saying it is bad or good, it depends on the individuals but if you don't want to hurt your pretty wife then think on, NO means NO! and in bed when she says yes!it's to keep you happy. Russian Roulette, it's a game and you might just loose.....her to another man, and you can never complain when you are offering to give her away and someone may just accept your offer and keep her, but if your prepared for the possibilities that's fine, and have you thought about jealousy can you handle that reality? Not the jealous type ? you may even find it knocks at your door from other men.
However You may both have a blast and have a great marriage because of it. she might start to enjoy fxxxxxx other men that much she might not need you any more.
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 You are pathetic. If you loved your wife you wouldn't want to share her with a bunch of men, especially if their your friends!
Your crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): l think u are a bastard
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 August 2008):
 I have to ask you what are you thinking? Most men love their ladies and do not want to share them with anyone. what you want is a fantasy..and if you want to make it reality..then maybe you married the wrong type of girl.She is a good girl, and if she says NO. Then it's a no.Sex with women is a very personal thing. So for you to expect her to do it with your friends..it's plain wrong and selfish of you. Besides..it sounds good. But let's just say that she gives in to you and do what you want because she loves you.Then i bet you will never look at your wife the same way. You need to leave your wife alone about fullfilling this fantasy of yours.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (4 August 2008):
 I think that maybe you should just respect your wife decision and leave it at that. This is a fantasy, and i think some things are ultimately best left as fantasy. I feel if you made this dream a reality it could cause complications in your marriage.
K
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Postive answer coming up.................
Nope, I tried, it can't be done. Wife says NO. The answer is NO, give up, you tried, we tried. Can't help you mate. NO means NO. She dosen't want to have sex with other men. Sorry, but don't worry, at least you have the fantasy. Your wife sounds really nice, please leave her alone, before she gets fed up and leaves you alone with your stupid fantasies.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 August 2008):
 I looked EVERYWHERE, really I did, but just couldn't find a positive answer for you. Nope, just plain fresh out.
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reader, look samurai dick +, writes (4 August 2008):
you can not expect her to let you share her with your friends.
there are sexual fantasies which your woman may do just for you....
like dressing up in uniforms, role play or bondage....
but some fantasies you may have are not going to be applicable to reality. there are rules, taboos in life which people keep to (for good reason). and thats where you are your not in reality mate.
im saying this from a guys point of view. yea it might turn you on the thought of it. but trying to apply that to your life would mess things up dont you think? once you have made this fantasy a reality then what?
what next with your sex life? your relationship? your friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): You wife has spoken--she said no. Take that as your answer and realize when someone says no, you need to respect that. The word 'no', is a actually a statement-that people use in setting boundaries. It's her way of drawing a line with you. If you can't accept the word 'no' as her final answer, your inability to respect her that and your continual pestering, are bordering on 'controlling her'. Stop doing that or you may find that, someday, she will figure you out and you will lose that sexy wife of yours.
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (4 August 2008):
What is wrong with you? If you want to watch some guys tag team somebody look at porn, that is something you should never want to do to your wife, thats just messed up.
Do you realize what that could do to her emotionally? Not to mention the health risks? Grow up.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (4 August 2008):
 The only difference between what you're craving and what a 'pimp' does is that you don't want to do it for money. Am I right?
Now behave yourself and respect your wife. She sounds like a lovely woman, don't go risking your marriage because of some wild sexual fantasy, AND she is the mother of your baby for goodness sake.
I honestly hope you don't follow this through.
Take care.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (4 August 2008):
 What you are thinking about is a pretty common fantasy, but there is a big difference between a fantasy and what it would be like in reality.
Of course, some couples do enjoy "swinging" but for that to happen it has to be something both partners like the idea of. And even then, many couples that try it find it isn't to their liking and some even find it causes problems within their relationship. It really could be a case of be careful what you wish for.
I'm sure you know it is wrong to pressurise any person into having sex with someone else. Your wife has made it pretty clear that she isn't interested in the idea and you will just have to respect that.
Enjoy your fantasy by all means, but also accept that it isn't something that your wife shares with you. Perhaps you could discuss other things to spice up your sex life, and find those fantasies that you do have in common?
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reader, KimmyDee20 +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Ok first of all Eaz74
im not here to judge you in any way but from what I can read here it seems that you are behaving like a young teenager who just wants to be silly , what you must respect from your wife is when she says 'NO' politely or not you must respect that pressurising her in anyway will only make her annoyed and will probably end up driving her away , she probably has a lot of respect for herself to not do such inappropriate gestures just to satisfy your needs ... however if she says she is not ready fsir enough give her her time to think it through BUT if she Politely says NO then its NO so please respect her decision and please respect her as your wife
i hope this will give you time to rethink , if not and it has offended you then apologies but as an agony aunt i say it like it is , Best of luck though and love and light to you both
K.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): What exactly do you mean by a 'positive' answer? You want other people to condone you coercing your wife into sex with other men against her wishes? Have you actually considered her wishes at all? Would you be happy for her to have sex with men you don't know? I would highly doubt it. But according to you it is fine for her to sleep with others as long as it is on your terms. You really need to grow up in my opinion as your question is extremely naive and demonstrates the relationship skills of an inexperienced teenager. You can't just make someone do something because you want them to. Show your wife some respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Your wife does not want to do this and you need to respect her feelings on this. Contrary to the lies you believe from watching too much porn, having a man fill every one of your orifices is not comfortable in the least bit and most likely quite painful. Do you really want to hurt and humiliate your wife this way? You need some serious counseling, in fact I don't even believe that you are serious........
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