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writes:Hello My question is more for my mother then me. She has dating 2`men for over 2 almost 3 years and now it is starting to come apart on her and she is really depressed and she dont know what to do. /One of her bfs is 65 and he is financially stable but he is really controling and they other bf is a drunk and is homeless ao i dont see what her delema is i told her to get rid of both of them but she said that she is really in love so if anyone has any suggestions i would appreciate it
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 I understand why you are concerned and this is no example for a mum to set her teenage daughter. If she is dating both then she doesnt really love either of them enough to stay faithfull so you are actually right, she should dump them both, gain some self respect and find one man who has all the quality she likes. However she probably wont listen to you as she feels she is old enough to make her own mind up. Maybe show her your post and our replies and she may realise that what she is doing is impacting on you too x
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (4 August 2008):
 From the brief bit of information you have given, it does sound to me like you have already given your mother the best advice.BUT...You are not your mother, and she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions and living with the consequences that they bring.It is natural that you care for her, love her, and worry about her but sometimes the best thing we can do for our loved ones is watch them make a mistake and then being there for them afterwards without ever saying "I told you so."If she is asking for your advice the best you can say is "I don't like either of them, but it's up to you."
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